“Let Them” and “Let Me”: Mel Robins’s Way to Release Control

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How do you react to a person’s comment that just isn’t worth the battle? What if there were a way you could win the battle without even fighting it? To escape the trap of trying to control what other people do and say, Mel Robbins contends you have to acknowledge that you can’t manage everyone else’s opinions, judgments, and feelings and redirect your energy and focus to what you can control. She explains that to do that, you can use two simple phrases: “Let Them” and “Let Me.” Discover how to use these phrases in everyday situations.

The Key to Accepting Reality With the Let Them Theory

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Do you have trouble accepting reality? How can you stop influencing what other people say or do? Underlying the Let Them Theory is the idea that you have to accept reality as it is, without judging it, without resisting it, and without wanting to change it into something that it’s not. Mel Robbins points out that your time and energy are precious resources that you need to invest wisely. Keep reading to learn how to invest yourself wisely by accepting the way things are.

How to Take Accountability in Relationships (Mel Robbins)

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Do you want to know how to take accountability in relationships? How can you adapt to ever-changing friendships over time? Although relationships involve multiple people, it’s ultimately up to you to create the relationships you want in your life. Mel Robbins uses the Let Them Theory to show a way you can both release control and set boundaries in romantic and platonic relationships. Get ready to build the relationships you deserve by using the simple phrases, “Let Them” and “Let Me.”

How to Not Care About What Others Think (Mel Robbins)

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Do you often care about what other people think about you? How can you stop wasting time on other people’s opinions? Mel Robbins’s Let Them Theory works when it’s what other people think and say, rather than what they do, that stresses you out. You can’t change what people say, but you can change how you react to them. Continue reading to learn how to not care about what others think so you can finally feel free.

How to Be Emotionally Mature: Don’t React Like a Child

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Do you want to be more emotionally mature? Do you worry about other people’s emotional reactions to you? In the same way managing other people’s negative opinions isn’t your responsibility, it’s also not your responsibility to manage other people’s emotional reactions, says Mel Robbins in her book The Let Them Theory. While they might act emotionally immature, there’s a chance you might also be the one who needs to manage your emotions better. Learn how to be emotionally mature so you can let go of how other people react to you.

What Is the Boomerang Effect and How Can You Avoid It?

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What is the boomerang effect in psychology? Why do people do the opposite of what you want them to do? The boomerang effect is when you push for something to happen, only for the opposite to take place. Mel Robbins describes something similar to the boomerang effect in her book, The Let Them Theory, in discussing the need for a supportive environment to encourage changes in people. Let’s look at the boomerang effect in action.

How to Have a Happy and Healthy Relationship With Yourself

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Are you ready to love yourself like you deserve? What does it mean to have a healthy relationship with yourself? In The Let Them Theory, Mel Robbins explains that you can use the Let Them Theory to improve the relationship you have with yourself. She notes that you are the only person that you’re guaranteed to spend the rest of your life with, and you owe it to yourself to make your happiness and dreams a priority. If you’re ready to build the best relationship with yourself, keep reading.

How to Use the Let Them Theory: The 2-Step Process

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Do you know what the Let Them Theory is? How can you apply the theory in all areas of your life? Having a deep need to control is an exercise in futility that only makes us frustrated and anxious and sets us up for conflict with the people in our lives. Mel Robbins contends that we need to shift our mindsets so we can stop wasting energy trying to control other people by using the Let Them Theory. To learn how to use the Let Them Theory, read below for the two-step process.

Free to Focus: Book Overview & Takeaways (Michael Hyatt)

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What’s Free to Focus by Michael Hyatt about? Do you struggle to be more productive, despite society telling you to achieve as much as possible? In Free to Focus, Michael Hyatt explains his definition of productivity, which emphasizes what you get done rather than how much you get done. He introduces the Productivity Matrix, a crucial tool for determining how you could spend your time more effectively. Read below for a brief Free to Focus book overview.

What Does Being Productive Mean? Michael Hyatt’s Definition

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What does being productive mean? What are the benefits of changing how you think about productivity? People generally think of productivity as getting a lot of things done, but Michael Hyatt disagrees. In his book Free to Focus, he defines productivity as getting the right things done.  Let’s look at Hyatt’s definition of productivity and how it can help you finish tasks in a meaningful way.