Overview of Law #33: Discover Each Man’s Thumbscrew Everyone has a weakness, a hole in his armor, a thumbscrew. It’s usually an insecurity, an uncontrollable emotion or need, or a secret pleasure. Once found, it’s leverage that you can use to your advantage.
Overview of Law #32: Play to People’s Fantasies Conjure up attractive fantasies in contrast to the gloomy realities of daily life, and people will flock to hear them. Truth is less pleasant, and fantasies are preferable. Spin the right tale at the right moment and wealth and power will follow.
Jordan Peterson is often associated with lobsters. What is the deal? What do lobsters have to do with 12 Rules for Life? In summary, it has to do with science experiments with lobsters and social status. Lobsters jockey for social hierarchy, and they signal that to other lobsters. And this is relevant to you, because humans behave the same way. Learn more here.
Overview of Law #4: Always Say Less Than Necessary The less you say, the more intimidating and powerful you are. Always say less than necessary. When you do speak, make it vague and ambiguous, leaving the meaning to others to interpret. They’ll be frustrated and obsessed with trying to figure you out.
Overview of Law #9: Win Through Your Actions, Never Through Argument Arguing your point rarely changes anyone’s mind — even when you appear to win, you lose because you stir up resentment. A far better way of getting others to agree with you is to demonstrate your point without saying anything. People believe what they can see. Win through your actions, never through argument.
We know how deep our love is, but we often struggle to know how to express love. What are the best ways to truly demonstrate how much we care? What are the 5 Love Languages? Use the strategies developed by Gary Chapman and introduced in The 5 Love Languages: The Secret to Love that Lasts to learn how to express love and, in doing so, create a deeper emotional connection in your relationship.
What is the Quality Time love language? How do I speak it? What if my partner’s language is the Quality Time love language, but it’s not mine? The Quality Time love language is the “language” of someone who feels loved when she spends time dedicated solely for the purpose of being with her partner without distractions. The concept of the Quality Time love language was introduced in Gary Chapman’s The 5 Love Languages. Learn how to “speak” the Quality Time love language, even if it’s not your love language.
How do I speak the Words of Affirmation love language? Why should I? What if it’s my partner’s love language, but not mine? The Words of Affirmation love language is a way of communicating with loved ones using words or phrases to make them feel good about who they are and what they do. The concept of the Words of Affirmation love language was introduced in Gary Chapman’s The 5 Love Languages. Learn how to speak the Words of Affirmation love language, even if it’s not your love language.
What is Mitigated Speech? Why do people have trouble saying something they don’t mean? And how does mitigated speech cause plane crashes?
Learn the unfortunate truths of mitigated speech and how to overcome it, in this summary excerpt from Outliers.