So much of our personal growth and effect habits depend on our interactions with others. But how can we foster these relationships? And how can they help us grow and achieve our goals? That’s where Stephen Covey’s concept of an Emotional Bank Account comes in. An Emotional Bank Account is a system of emotional deposits and withdrawals that helps build relationships. You have an emotional bank account in every relationship that’s unique. And by making deposits, or acts of kindness and love, you strengthen it. Acts of cruelty or betrayal are withdrawals, and weaken the relationship. You want to ensure
When a friend comes to you with an issue he’s having, how often do you respond with a story about your own similar experience and what you did to resolve it? Or how commonly are you met with this kind of response when you are venting to someone else? We discussed in Habit 4 that an essential step in reaching a Win/Win solution is to try to understand the other person’s perspective and concerns. The key to truly understanding people is empathic listening, which is listening with the intent to see their perspective.
Proactive people focus their time and energy on their Circle of Influence. Why waste your efforts spinning your wheels about concerns you can’t impact? Your Circle of Influence are all the things that you have the power to influence or control. On the other hand, your circle of concern if the things you worry about and can’t control. But by focusing on your Circle of Influence, you can create positive actions and reactions, and apply your values set in everyday life.
Do you know how to tell when someone is lying? Do you think you’re good at it? What does science tell us about our ability to accurately tell when someone is lying? Science says we’re not very good at how to tell when someone is lying. Learn when you’re better at it, and what red herrings throw you off course.
Do you know how to tell if someone is lying through their body language? Is body language really the key to detecting a lie? We’ll cover why it’s hard to learn how to spot a liar through body language and what signals to watch for (and why mismatching might throw you off).
What is the secret to developing healthy friendships? What if you’re shy? What if there are problems in your friendship–is it a lost cause? Should you throw in the towel? The secret to healthy friendships is the secret to healthy relationships in general: having a growth mindset. We’ll cover how a growth mindset can help you create and maintain healthy friendships and help you deal with your shyness.
We all experience rejection in our lives, whether it be in a relationship, after a job interview, or in a social situation. Coping with rejection can be difficult: What’s the best mindset for learning how to cope with rejection? Whether you have a fixed or growth mindset affects the course of your personal relationships. Mindset helps explain: Why people work against their own interests in relationships Why relationships devolve into warfare Why some relationships succeed and others don’t We’ll cover how having a growth mindset helps you cope better with problems in your relationship and learn how to cope with
Is consent while drunk valid? What are the rules around alcohol and consent? Although recent events have brought questions about alcohol and consent to the forefront, it’s been a thorny issue for decades, particularly on college campuses. Can you give consent while you’re drunk? Should you trust the consent of someone else who’s drunk? Here are some things to keep in mind about alcohol and consent.
What are the most common relationship myths? How does believing in them hurt you and your relationships? We’ll cover the most common relationship myths and discuss why people who believe them often have a fixed mindset.
What are the keys to building healthy relationships? How is your mindset–fixed or not–involved in your relationships? We’ll cover why having a growth mindset is the key to developing healthy relationships, and we’ll look at common relationship myths to avoid.