Stoic Mindset: The Power of Dispassionate Perception

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How do Stoics view the world? Can anyone cultivate the Stoic mindset?

The key characteristic of the Stoic mindset is dispassionate perception—taking a rather neutral and detached view of life events. Seeing things in this way, as Stoics see them, doesn’t come naturally; it’s a skill you need to develop and hone.

Here are some lessons to keep in mind if you want to cultivate the Stoic mindset.

To Cultivate the Stoic Mindset, Practice Objectivity

Often, instead of seeing things as they are, we create problems for ourselves by expecting or believing things should be a certain way, or by seeing things that aren’t there. 

Stoics use mental exercises to help them see obstacles objectively and learn not to be intimidated—an example is “contemptuous expression,” in which they describe a situation or object in the most contemptuous terms possible. The idea is to see it without any enhancement.

For instance, Marcus Aurelius described things without euphemisms: Roasted meat was a dead animal and expensive wine was simply rotted grapes. Another Stoic, Epictetus, advised students to envision great leaders having sex (to see that they’re just like anyone else).

You can use this technique to downplay or minimize things that intimidate you or stand in your way: “Who’s going to remember this sales pitch a month from now? What’s this sales pitch really going to change in the long run?”

There’s another mental trick that sometimes helps if you’re having trouble being objective about a situation you’re involved in. Pretend the situation is happening, not to you, but to someone you know. Think of what you’d advise them to do: What are the different ways they could handle it? It’s always easier to solve someone else’s problems than your own, because you can see their problems more objectively (without the self-pity and excuses that get in your own way).

Remember that your mindset, or how you view things, is a matter of choice. You have the ability to introduce a new perspective into any situation—that is, to view it differently. Your perspective and what you tell yourself about an obstacle affect how easy or difficult it is to overcome.

The Power of Stoic Mindset: John D. Rockefeller

John D. Rockefeller’s response to the Panic of 1857 is an example of the power of the Stoic mindset.

(Shortform note: The Panic of 1857 was a national depression triggered when Europe cut back on buying U.S. agricultural products.) The crisis began in Ohio, where Rockefeller was a neophyte investor in Cleveland. As businesses failed, and stock and grain prices plunged, a depression took hold. 

Rather than panicking as others did, Rockefeller viewed the financial crisis as a learning opportunity. He closely watched how others behaved; he learned from others’ mistakes and took advantage of them. 

Because of what he learned in the Panic of 1857, Rockefeller made a fortune by seizing opportunities to profit during the subsequent financial swings of 1873, 1907, and 1929.

Later in life, he commented that his road to success had begun in the Panic of 1857, in what he termed “the school of adversity and stress.” He was grateful for the challenges in his life because he learned from them.

Additional truths about the Stoic mindset:

  • If being falsely imprisoned can positively transform a life, you should be able to find a benefit in any circumstance in your life, no matter how dire it seems.
  • Situations aren’t good or bad in themselves; that’s a judgment you assign. What one person may see as negative, another may see as positive. 
  • If you decide you’re “screwed,” then the obstacle you confront will indeed become insurmountable. By your mindset, you’re complicit in either reinforcing or dismantling the obstacles in your life.

Final Thoughts

How you look at something (your mindset or perception) determines how you feel about it. When you look for another explanation, or see it from a different angle, it loses its ability to intimidate you.

Putting the obstacle into context is another way of cultivating the Stoic mindset. For example, instead of berating yourself for losing a contract, realize that one missed contract means little in the life of a business.

Making a small adjustment in your perspective isn’t a matter of fooling yourself, but of reorienting yourself the way a map or compass reorients you when you’re lost. It can be an eye-opener, revealing leverage you didn’t realize you had.

For example, when actor George Clooney wasn’t winning parts in auditions, he at first blamed the system for not recognizing his talent. Then he adjusted his mindset. Realizing that directors were looking for a solution—the right person for the part—Clooney began projecting that he was the answer to their needs. This made all the difference.

Changing your mindset changes your response. The right mindset results in the right action.

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Darya Sinusoid

Darya’s love for reading started with fantasy novels (The LOTR trilogy is still her all-time-favorite). Growing up, however, she found herself transitioning to non-fiction, psychological, and self-help books. She has a degree in Psychology and a deep passion for the subject. She likes reading research-informed books that distill the workings of the human brain/mind/consciousness and thinking of ways to apply the insights to her own life. Some of her favorites include Thinking, Fast and Slow, How We Decide, and The Wisdom of the Enneagram.

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