Psychology Archives

Stop Making Excuses: How to Cure Excusitis

Have you ever wondered what makes some people succeed in life and others fall behind? What do successful people do differently? Unsuccessful people have a tendency to make excuses about why things haven’t worked out. But if you look at successful people, you’ll find they may have experienced those same roadblocks, but they don’t dwell on them. They don’t make excuses. The roadblocks weren’t even a factor. Here’s how you, too, can stop making excuses and start making things happen.

Secure Attachment: Relationships That Last

Are you in a secure attachment relationship? How can you learn to become a secure attacher? What are the dangers of being a secure attacher? Ober half of the population are secure attachers, meaning they are dependable and responsive partners. Secure attachers even have the ability to change an anxious or avoidant partner into a secure attacher as well. However, sometimes secure attachers have trouble recognizing when a relationship is toxic. Keep reading to learn everything you need to know about secure attachment relationships.

Dependency in Relationships: Is It Unhealthy?

Is dependency in a relationship unhealthy? Should we be focusing on being more independent rather than relying on a partner for support? In a society where independence is celebrated, it can make dependency in a relationship feel like a taboo. However, studies show us that having somebody to depend on actually makes you more independent. Keep reading to learn more about how dependency in a relationship makes you more independent.

Why Systems Fail: Lack of Variation Causes Issues

Do we really know why systems fail? How can antifragility stop these systems from failing? Systems can fail for many reasons, but often, it’s due to a lack of variation. Having the ability to adapt and develop antifragility can prepare a system for further challenge and further stabilize it. Keep reading to find out why systems fail and how antifragility can help.

Seeking Happiness Will Make You More Unhappy

Why is overcoming obstacles an essential part of happiness? Wouldn’t we be happier if our lives were carefree? Many of us seek happiness as if it’s an achievement to be won. However, happiness is not a reward, it’s something that grows from overcoming challenges. Keep reading to learn why you should stop seeking happiness and embrace life’s struggles.

If You’re Always Striving for More, You Can’t Be Happy

Do you find yourself wishing or striving for things that you don’t have? What are the negative consequences of chasing superficial dreams? Society is always urging us to strive for more happiness, money, success, attractiveness, etc. But when we’re always striving, we never get a chance to be happy with what we do have. We need to learn how to filter out what is actually important and what we shouldn’t give a f*ck about. Continue on to learn why always striving for more will leave you miserable.

A Guide to Overcompensation in Psychology

What is overcompensation in psychology? How is it a part of antifragility? Redundancy, a form of overcompensation in psychology, is that we tend to push back harder and continue doing the same thing when faced with adversity or challenge. It’s why banned books become more popular and why some social movements become stronger. Read more about overcompensation in psychology and how it works.

The Psychology of Birth Order and Personality

Does birth order affect the psychological make-up of a child? What are some ways firstborn children differ from lastborn? Birth order has a very strong effect on a child’s psychology. Firstborns tend to be more dominant and conscientious, while lastborns— more unconventional and rebellious. Keep reading to learn about birth order psychology.

Avoidant Attachment in Adults: Is It Bad?

Is avoidant attachment in adults a bad thing? Why do avoidant attachers act the way they do? Is it possible to change your attachment style? About 25% of the population are avoidant attachers. These people often have trouble maintaining a long-term, stable relationship because they push their partners away, idealize self-reliance, romanticize past relationships, and fall into the “one-and-only” trap. Keep reading to learn more about avoidant attachment in adults and how they can work to improve their relationships.

The History of Attachment Psychology & Why It Hurts

What are the origins of attachment psychology? Why do many Westerners believe that being emotionally self-sufficient is so important? How can this outdated ideology be harmful? Back in the 1920s, parenting books warned parents not to coddle their children too much or they would grow up to be reliant on others. This is where attachment psychology began and it only got worse from there. Continue reading to learn about the origins of attachment psychology and how early beliefs about attachment are harmful.