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Want to stop giving so many f*cks? How can these The Subtle Art of Not Giving a F*ck book exercises help you evaluate your priorities?
Mark Manson’s book The Subtle Art of Not Giving a F*ck advises readers to prioritize what they care about, because it’s impossible to care equally about everything. This article provides exercises to help you evaluate whether you’re giving a f*ck about the right things.
Continue below for The Subtle Art of Not Giving a F*ck book exercises.
The Subtle Art of Not Giving a F*ck Exercises
The Subtle Art of Not Giving a F*ck by Mark Manson argues that we are frustrated in life and feel like failures because we value and prioritize the wrong things, thanks in part to society’s emphasis on positive thinking, over-involved parents, and our susceptibility to superficial social media messages. This leads us to pursue emotional highs that don’t lead to lasting happiness. The solutions are counterintuitive and include: be wrong, fail, tolerate feeling bad, accept pain, practice rejection. Because we can’t care equally about everything, we need to prioritize and focus on what brings us happiness and meaning.
The exercises below are inspired by Mark Manson’s book:
Giving Less of a F*ck about Small Things
You probably spend too much time pursuing and caring (giving a f*ck) about superficial things. This uses up energy that could be devoted to things you value more.
- Think of a time recently when something small got under your skin and you obsessed about it. What was it?
- How did you react? Did it have positive or negative results?
- How do you feel about it now? Did worrying about it ultimately matter in the long run?
Listening to Your Emotions
The purpose of emotions is to give us feedback, telling us that something is good or bad for us.
- Think of a recent situation that aroused a strong emotion. What happened? What emotion did you feel?
- If you think of emotions as having the purpose of communicating something, what was your emotion saying? If negative, did it suggest an action to take in the future? If positive, did it suggest something good you should keep doing?
No Pain, No Gain
Don’t aim for a pain-free life. When you strive for something that is important to you, you accept the pain necessary to get there.
- What’s a goal that is very important to you?
- How much pain are you willing to endure to achieve your goal? What amount of pain would cause you to abandon the goal?
Do You Feel Entitled?
A feeling of entitlement can stand in the way of improving yourself and succeeding in your work and relationships.
- Have you ever thought in an entitled way? (This might mean you feel your problems are unique; that the rules don’t apply to you; that you deserve special treatment; that you consider yourself a victim.)
- After reading this chapter, what is a more emotionally healthy way to think of yourself?
- Do you currently feel inadequate in any area of your life? What is it? Who are you comparing yourself to?
- Consider the possibility that you might just be average in that area — how does that make you feel? Do you feel less pressure to achieve a particular expectation?
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- Why it's okay for things to not always go well in life
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