Social Mirror Theory: How Others View You Matters

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Do you want to reflect back a clear, positive image that emphasizes a person’s potential, or a distorted one based on assumptions, stereotypes, and misunderstandings? This reflection is what we refer to as social mirror theory.

Social mirror theory is the theory that people’s relationships with others create a social mirror that reflects images of themselves back to them and affects their paradigms. This is essentially the concept of self-fulfilling prophecy.

Learn how social mirror theory works and why others’ opinions of you matter.

The Social Mirror and the 7 Habits of Highly Effective People

Self-renewal helps us attain inner peace and stability that improves our effective interdependent relationships. The social mirror theory is about how our actions and attitudes reflect on us, and how they affect others. You’re part of that social mirror, and how you react to others affects how they see themselves.

The Abundance Mentality assures that if you choose to reflect positive images back to the people around you — affirming their proactive behaviors or potentials, attesting to their principles, and holding them to high standards — it doesn’t take away from your own self-image and self-worth in any way. In fact, being a positive social mirror also benefits you because your positive reflection of others supports them in becoming more proactive, effective people with whom you can have productive interdependent interactions. 

How Does the Social Mirror Work?

The effects of the social mirrors can be extreme: In one example, a glitch in a school computer in England mislabeled one class of “bright” students as “dumb,” and another class of “dumb” students as “bright.” As they started the school year, the teachers’ views of their students were based primarily on these wrong reports. 

Several months later, administrators realized the error and tested the students to find out the impact of the mistake. IQ scores dropped for the students who were wrongly labeled as “dumb,” as teachers had treated them as incompetent, uncooperative, and difficult. But scores went up for the students who’d been labeled “bright”; although those teachers were perplexed at the beginning of the year when the supposedly “bright” students weren’t performing well, the teachers attributed the problem to their teaching methods and changed their approach until the students’ performance reflected the teachers’ expectations. This is a great example of social mirror theory. It turned out, the biggest predictor of students’ performance was not their inherent ability or lack thereof, but teachers’ expectations and how they treated students as a result.

The social mirror theory is an important part of self-renewal. Self-renewal requires social renewal, and balancing self-awareness with awareness and care in relationships. By understanding how your actions impact others, you can focus on imparting positive messages and creating positive interactions.

Social Mirror Theory: How Others View You Matters

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Carrie Cabral

Carrie has been reading and writing for as long as she can remember, and has always been open to reading anything put in front of her. She wrote her first short story at the age of six, about a lost dog who meets animal friends on his journey home. Surprisingly, it was never picked up by any major publishers, but did spark her passion for books. Carrie worked in book publishing for several years before getting an MFA in Creative Writing. She especially loves literary fiction, historical fiction, and social, cultural, and historical nonfiction that gets into the weeds of daily life.

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