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How to Rekindle Passion in a Long-Term Relationship

Do you feel like your committed sex life is becoming monotone, routine, or worse—non-existent? Do you want to bring back the excitement and rekindle the passion but aren’t sure how to go about it? In her book Mating in Captivity, Esther Perel argues that the key to rekindling the passion in a committed, long-term relationship is, paradoxically enough, introducing distance. The reason your passion diminished is that the boundaries between you and your partner had shrunk, yet distance, separateness, and mystery are the key ingredients of sexual desire. In this article, we’ll discuss how to rekindle the passion in a

Mating in Captivity: Quotes by Esther Perel

Are you looking for Mating in Captivity quotes by Esther Perel? What are some of the most noteworthy passages worth revisiting? Making in Captivity by couples therapist Esther Perel offers a new, bold take on sex and intimacy in committed relationships. She reinforces that, although desire and love may have some fundamental contradictions, there are ways to balance the clashes, and ways to manage extra-relationship stresses. The following Mating in Captivity quotes highlight some of the key ideas.

Sex After Children: Rekindling Sexual Intimacy

Does having a baby kill your sex life? Why do you think that is? More importantly, how can we prevent parenthood from impinging on sexual intimacy? For many couples, once they have a child, almost everything about their lives changes: their relationships with themselves and the people they know, their bodies, roles, and amount of resources (finances, time, energy, and so on). Many of these changes affect the erotic life as well, usually in a suppressive way. In this article, we’ll discuss why parenthood often kills sexual intimacy and ways to rekindle your desire to have sex after children.

Committed Sex: It Doesn’t Have to Be Boring

Are commitment and desire mutually exclusive? Do you think it’s possible to maintain sexual desire in a lifelong relationship? Many couples therapists think that it’s normal for desire to fade and that lust is immature or based on fear of commitment. But according to psychotherapist Esther Perel, you can have both commitment and desire in the same relationship, they just may not always take place at the same time. Here is what Esther Perel has to say about committed sex.

How to Support Your Team: Leadership Skills

How good are you at supporting your team? Do they ever feel let down by your leadership? Submarine captain David Marquet’s experience can help you learn how to support your team and understand what difference it can make. Marquet found that, when officers and chiefs supported their teams, they developed trust. Ultimately, this advanced the ship’s objectives. Read more to learn how to support your team—and how that care fits in with your organizational goals.

Sex and Intimacy: How to Have the Best of Both Worlds

Are sex and intimacy mutually exclusive? In what way do they contradict each other? Is there a way to bridge the gap? Sex and emotional intimacy may seem at odds with each other but they don’t have to be. According to couples therapist Esther Perel, you can have the best of both worlds—passionate sex and emotional intimacy. In this article, we’ll discuss the clash between sex and intimacy and how to balance the two.

Think and Grow Rich: Sexual Transmutation Demystified

What is the premise of the Think and Grow Rich sexual transmutation theory? How can sex energy be transformed into creative imagination? The Think and Grow Rich sexual transmutation theory describes the desire for sex as being a form of energy that can be redirected and channeled to fuel creative thinking. You will need immense willpower to transform your sex energy into the creativity you need to achieve your goals. Read on to fully understand the Think and Grow Rich sexual transmutation theory.

Sexual Monogamy: Why Do We Value It So Much?

What is monogamy and why do we value it? Are humans naturally monogamous? Where does our obsession with sexual monogamy stem from? According to couples therapist Esther Perel, our values for sexual monogamy were instilled in childhood. As babies, our parents were utterly devoted to us, and monogamy is our way of recreating this connection. People who didn’t have a connection like this with their mothers as children often want this connection even more than those who did experience it. In this article, we’ll discuss how our views on monogamy changed throughout history, and why we value it so much.

Sexual Infidelity: Why Do People Cheat?

Why do people cheat in relationships? Do you think a relationship can still work after one of the partners cheated on the other? People are unfaithful for many disparate reasons, ranging from revenge to healing. However, according to couples therapist Esther Perel, unfaithfulness doesn’t necessarily mean that a relationship has deeper problems. Lots of cheaters are happy with their relationships. In this article, we’ll explore why people in monogamous relationships cheat, and how to handle the possibility of sexual infidelity that exists in every relationship.

Esther Perel: Violent Sexual Fantasies Are Normal

Is it common to fantasize about violent sex? What do violent sexual fantasies tell us about ourselves? Sexual fantasies are a natural, healthy part of adult sexuality. And it’s not actually uncommon to fantasize about sexual aggression. Yet, we feel like there’s something wrong with us for coming up with (and enjoying) these scenarios. Here is what aggressive sexual fantasies tell us about ourselves, according to couples therapist Esther Perel.