Why are women attracted to rich men? Do you need to have a ton of money to be seen as an alpha in the eyes of women?
It’s no secret that women prefer dominant men. Dominant alpha males command respect and are better able to provide protection for their offspring. One of the most telling signs of dominance in men is their financial success.
With this in mind, here’s how you can increase your dominance status by leveling up your finances.
Pursue Riches and Respect
If you want to become a dominant alpha male, you must become rich and influential. To do so, you must focus on your finances. The more money you have, the more attractive you’ll be to women, who are earning more than ever but still want someone who earns more than they do due to their hypergamy.
Money will also help you gain influence, which is essential to becoming a dominant and stems from earning both a high income and respect. Aim to join the top 10% income bracket where you live. Ideally, you should become a millionaire by 40 at the latest: Consider becoming an entrepreneur, as it’s often the fastest way to earn millions.
|Why and How to Make More Money|
Studies agree with Cooper that women prefer higher-earning men: A 2019 study of Swedish couples found that even if the woman was higher-educated than the man, the man made more money than she did. However, experts suggest that this may not be evidence of female hypergamy but of the inequitable division of domestic responsibilities: Women are more likely to take on childcare (and thus do less paid work) if they have children, so they prefer high-earning husbands.
So since women prefer richer men, how can you become a millionaire by 40? While entrepreneurship is the fastest way to earn millions, as Cooper suggests, it’s also one of the riskiest—several entrepreneurs fail before making it big. Rather, The Millionaire Next Door authors Thomas J. Stanley and William D. Danko suggest that to earn millions, you must live frugally and plan your investments carefully. And avoid purchasing status symbols in pursuit of greater influence: The Psychology of Money author Morgan Housel argues that you can earn more respect (and thus influence) by embodying good values such as kindness.
In order to become and remain rich and influential, Cooper adds that you must learn how to distribute your energy efficiently. We have a finite amount of energy, so if we waste it on low-value activities (like complaining to customer service), we risk not having enough to spend on the high-value, energy-intensive activities that build wealth and influence (like building a business). Minimize this risk by taking regular cold showers: Since taking cold showers requires the self-control to endure discomfort, doing so regularly will increase the self-control you need to ignore low-value activities and instead focus on the activities that matter most.
|How Taking Cold Showers Teaches You How to Distribute Energy Efficiently|
In The Wim Hof Method, Wim Hof elaborates on how taking regular cold showers might improve your ability to distribute your energy efficiently. The cold causes a physiological response within your body that’s identical to your response to emotional stressors. So by training yourself to handle the cold through repeated exposure, you train yourself to handle other kinds of stress.
In some cases, we struggle to ignore low-value activities because they stress us out (like when we grow angry at customer service). By taking cold showers (and learning to handle stress), we may find that these low-value activities don’t stress us as much as they did before—and we thus have an easier time focusing our energy instead on high-value activities.
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