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What are the simplest ways of understanding your purpose in life? How can understanding your purpose improve your life?
Simon Sinek argues that finding your Why—or purpose—can help you make better choices in your work and your life that lead to greater fulfillment. That’s what he found in his own life after struggling with depression until he identified his purpose: “To inspire people to do what inspires them so that, together, we can change our world for the better.”
Keep reading to learn more about Sinek’s simple exercise for understanding your purpose in life.
Why Should You Understand Your Purpose in Life?
Purpose-driven people and organizations are more successful and fulfilled, and they contribute more to the world around them, according to Simon Sinek, best-selling author, coach, and popular TED Talk speaker. Find Your Why distills Sinek’s theory and his experience working with organizations and individuals into a workbook you can follow to understand your purpose in life and your strengths, or those of your organization.
According to Sinek, understanding your purpose in life means finding the single core belief that inspires you to do the work you choose to do and be the person you want to be in all spheres of your life. He believes every individual and organization has a purpose, though not everyone has discovered theirs or put it into words.
The Purpose Discussion
To determine your Why and come up with a written statement, Sinek and his co-authors created a step-by-step process that individuals and groups can follow in a group discussion or workshop. Sinek’s process for understanding your purpose in life helps you or your team explore past experiences for insight into what moves you.
In this process, you’ll identify important stories in your personal or company experience, share them with a partner or group facilitator, and pull out themes. You’ll then distill these themes to write your Why or purpose statement.
(Shortform note: While Sinek argues that you can find your purpose by looking inward, Viktor Frankl argues the opposite in Man’s Search for Meaning. He contends that you can only find meaning out in the world—in other people or causes—not in your own mind.)
Stage 1: Tell Your Stories
To begin, share the stories you came up with with your partner. While you share, they should do two things:
- Take notes on the main ideas and feelings behind the stories, and capture: 1) the core action you took, and 2) the effect you had or aimed for.
- Highlight recurring words or concepts. Sinek emphasizes that these are the themes you’ll use in the next steps.
| How to Get to the Core of a Story As a partner, how can you determine which ideas and recurring concepts you should make note of? Here are four steps for getting to the core of a story and understanding what it’s really about: 1. Identify the facts of the story. 2. Identify the emotions behind the story through the other person’s words and body language. 3. Ask yourself what the story is really about. Stay silent as you observe what ideas and emotions come up. 4. Once you’ve identified an emotion or idea, share it with them to see if it resonates. If it does, continue asking questions about it to see what else they can uncover. If it doesn’t, repeat the process to explore other possibilities. |
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