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The Key to Cooperative Relationships: Remove Bias

How do you get people from vastly different walks of life to cooperate with one another? What do you think is the main barrier to interpersonal cooperation? How can it be overcome? According to the Arbinger Institute, the key to effective cooperation is for all the involved parties to adopt the cooperative mindset. The Institute asserts that once you’re able to embody the cooperative mindset by removing your biases, focusing on seeing others as people, and acting according to your conscience, cooperation will come naturally. In this article, we’ll discuss how to encourage others to leave their biases behind and

Cooperative Conflict Resolution: Avoid These 4 Biases

What causes conflict? What is the role of cooperation in conflict resolution? According to the Arbinger Institute, conflict arises when one or both of the parties harbor one or more of the four biases: 1) the superiority bias, 2) the entitlement bias, 3) the performative bias, and 4) the inferiority bias. Cooperative conflict resolution is only possible when both parties recognize they are biased and are willing to work through their biases. In this article, we’ll explore how to recognize when we’re biased, how to remove that bias, and how to cultivate a cooperative mindset.

Sexual Flow: Sexuality as Optimal Experience

Can you reach the flow state through sex? What are some things you can do to promote sexual flow? It is well-known that movements such as dance, martial arts, and yoga can promote flow, but many people don’t know that you can achieve sexual flow as well. This may be in the form of physical sex, romance, or other sensual activities such as dance and yoga. Keep reading to see what Csikszentmihalyi has to say about sexual flow.

Approaching Conflict: Are You Making These Mistakes?

Are you the kind of person who often gets into high-conflict situations? Does conflict with one person tend to spill into your other relationships? What’s your way of approaching conflict? Being able to manage conflict efficiently and effectively is critical. Very quickly, a conflict can begin affecting more than the relationship in question. It can get in the way of your work and it put a strain on your other connections. In this article, we’ll take a look at two main mistakes most of us make when approaching conflict.

Handling Conflict 101: The Combative Mindset

What’s your way of handling conflict? What do you think is the main reason that trivial conflicts escalate into full-blown arguments? According to the Arbinger Institute, the author of The Anatomy of Peace, some people have difficulty resolving conflict peacefully and effectively because they adopt what they call a “combative mindset.” There are three elements of the combative mindset: collusion, self-betrayal, and justification. In this article, we’ll examine how the combative mindset causes failures in our approach to conflict.

The 3 Adult Attachment Styles & What They Mean

What are the three adult attachment styles? Which combinations of styles match up the best? How do you navigate a relationship with mismatched styles? The three adult attachment styles are secure, anxious, and avoidant. Secure attachers make up the majority of the population and can pretty much get along with any other type. On the other hand, if you combine an anxious attacher with an avoidant attacher, you’re looking for trouble. Keep reading for everything you need to know about the three adult attachment styles.

Attached: The New Science of Adult Attachment (Overview)

What is the book Attached: The New Science of Adult Attachment about? How can learning about your attachment style help improve your relationships? Attached: The New Science of Adult Attachment is based on the premise that people are biologically driven to seek intimacy and closeness with a significant other. There are three attachment styles: secure, anxious, and avoidant. Keep reading to learn more about the adult attachment styles from Attached: The New Science of Adult Attachment.

Attached: Book Quotes From Amir Levine

Looking for Attached book quotes? What can Amir Levine teach you about the attachment styles? In Attached, Amir Levine discusses the psychology of the three attachment styles in order to help you improve your relationship. His advice works for both new relationships and long-term marriages. Keep reading for Attached book quotes from Amir Levine.

Relationships With Others: Finding Flow

Liking Bias: Why We Ignore Faults in People We Love

How do your relationships with others affect your quality of life? How can finding a community help you reach the flow state of mind? Because we depend on people’s affirmation, learning to improve the quality of your relationships will improve the overall quality of your life. Like any other flow activity, relationships won’t stay enjoyable without adding complexity and challenge to them over time. Learn how to find flow in your relationships with others.

Avoidant and Anxious Attachment: Dating Tips

Is it possible to make an avoidant and anxious attachment relationship work? What are the best tips to improve an avoidant-anxious relationship? When an avoidant and anxious attacher date, it often results in conflict. However, avoidant and anxious attachment relationships are possible with some extra work. Here are the best tips to make an avoidant and anxious relationship work.