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What are the risks of love? Is love worth the risk? The risks of love include loss, independence, commitment, and confrontation. It requires courage to take risks, and we grow when we exercise courage and act with love. Taking these risks also supports the growth of the people we care about. Keep reading to learn about the four risks of love.
What are the common myths about love? Do you believe any of them? In The Road Less Traveled, psychiatrist M. Scott Peck identifies five myths about love. Once you understand them, you will be better equipped to practice genuine love. Keep reading to learn five myths about love.
Do you resist change? Do you take a long time to plan and scheme, but when it comes to taking action, you back off? Too often we fail to activate change because we are stuck in thinking mode. We analyze and rationalize, and we get mired in too many details and options. Fortunately, we can learn to get out of paralysis and into action—motivating change in ourselves and others. Here are three ways to motivate change, get unstuck, and spark action.
What is emotional discipline? What’s the healthiest way to handle your feelings? Emotional discipline doesn’t mean that you ignore your feelings. It means that you address your feelings in a measured way. You can avoid the traps of too little structure or too much structure—striking a healthy emotional balance—so that you can put more energy toward growth. Read more to learn about healthy emotional discipline.
What does Switch by Chip and Dan Heath teach us about sustainable change? How can we create change that lasts? In Switch, Chip and Dan Heath discuss how change works, how to motivate change in yourself and others, and how to create sustainable change by overcoming obstacles and making change as easy as possible. Here is a brief overview of Switch by Chip and Dan Heath.
Do you believe in effortless love? Or do you think that love takes work? According to psychiatrist M. Scott Peck, effortless love is a myth. Genuine love takes work, and work requires attention. He argues that listening with full attention is a critical act of genuine love for parenting and other types of relationships. He also discusses when love isn’t worth the effort. Keep reading to better understand how and why love takes work.
What is the key to changing an undesirable behavior and making the change last? Is there a formula behind a successful behavior change? Successful change involves certain patterns that you can intentionally engineer to significantly improve your change success rate. According to Chip and Dan Heath, the authors of Switch: How to Change Things When Change Is Hard, there are three elements of behavior change: 1) the rational you, 2) the emotional you, and 3) the path forward. Keep reading to learn about the three elements of change.
What is dependency disorder? Why is it sometimes confused with love? A common myth about love is that it is the same as dependency. However, dependency is a disorder in which the need for nurture takes over your life. Dependency disorder is parasitic, not leaving room for freedom. True love is interdependence, a healthy dynamic that thrives on freedom. Keep reading to learn more about dependency disorder and how it is different from love.
What is solution-based therapy? How does it differ from other forms of psychotherapy? Unlike many forms of therapy, solution-based therapy doesn’t look into the past. Instead, it focuses on the problem at hand. It helps you identify solutions by answering specific questions. Read more to learn about solution-based therapy.
How is acceptance of reality related to mental wellness? What if you have a distorted perception of reality? You live according to what you believe to be true. If you have a distorted perception of truth, you live out of sync with reality. According to psychiatrist M. Scott Peck, living according to a belief system that doesn’t align with reality is the basis of most mental illnesses. That’s why acceptance of reality is so important. Continue reading to learn how acceptance of reality is a key to mental health.