Darya Sinusoid, Author at Shortform Books

How to Use Mental Programming to Change Your Thoughts

Is your mental programming set in stone? How can you overwrite unhelpful and self-sabotaging mental programs you’ve internalized throughout the course of your life? You don’t have to accept your default mental processes as your unchanging reality. According to Ryan A. Bush, the author of Designing the Mind, the mind works like a computer, which means that you can overwrite the mental programs that don’t serve you. Here’s how you can reshape your mind by treating your thought processes like computer algorithms that can be edited.

How to Overcome Fear of Uncertainty and Step Into the Unknown

Why are we afraid of the unknown? How does your fear of uncertainty prevent you from growing and seizing opportunities that life presents? Changing your life sometimes requires a leap of faith. Maybe parts of your life are no longer fulfilling, or your current circumstances are no longer meeting your needs. To start down a different path, you have to overcome the fear of uncertainty and trust that everything will work out. Here’s why we’re so terrified of uncertainty and how you can empower yourself to step confidently into the unknown despite your fears.

Self-Integrity: What It Is, Why It Matters, and How to Cultivate It

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Do you consider yourself a person of integrity? What does it mean to live with integrity? Living with self-integrity means living in accordance with your values. Your values are in turn informed by your intuition and the vision of the kind of person you want to be. Keep reading to learn what self-integrity is and what it means to live according to it.

Why Do Most Marriages Fail? They Lack a Shared Culture

Why do most marriages fail? How can you minimize the chances of your marriage ending in divorce? In their book The Seven Principles for Making Marriage Work, Gottman and Silver explain that every marriage has its own culture—a shared understanding of what matters and what you’re working toward. The greater this sense of shared understanding, the more robust your marriage will be. Here’s how the lack of a shared culture destroys marriages and how couples can work toward cultivating it.

Designing the Mind: Book Overview (Ryan A. Bush)

Do you want to become the master of your own mind? Do you struggle with thoughts, emotions, and behaviors that don’t align with your goals and aspirations? If so, Ryan A. Bush’s book Designing the Mind can help. Bush argues that the mind is like a computer that can be reprogrammed, and he provides a collection of strategies that will help you change the thought patterns, emotions, and behaviors that are holding you back into ones that help you become your best self. Below is a brief overview of Designing the Mind by Ryan A. Bush.

Common Marriage Problems and How to Solve Them

What are the most common marital problems? How do you address an ongoing problem in a marriage? While every marriage is unique, there are several problems almost all married couples have in common. Most of these problems are solvable, but many couples drag them on for too long, making them a bigger deal than they have to be. Here’s a look at some of the most common marriage problems and potential solutions for each.

Dealing With Difficult Emotions: Tips From Ryan A. Bush

Do you feel like you don’t have control over your emotions? How can you prevent negative emotions from poisoning your mind? Many people live at the mercy of their emotions, so when difficult emotions arise, they succumb to them without question. But it doesn’t have to be this way: You have the power to change your emotional responses and prevent undesirable emotions from triggering. With this in mind, here are some tips for dealing with difficult emotions.

Affection in a Marriage: Why It Matters and How to Build It

Why is the expression of affection so important in a marriage? How do you communicate affection toward your spouse? Fostering and communicating affection is essential for a happy and long-lasting marriage. This means deliberately focusing on your partner’s positive attributes and then expressing any loving feelings that arise. Here are some tips on how to cultivate and communicate affection in a marriage.

Cognitive Biases: The Psychology of Shortcut Thinking

The 25 Cognitive Biases: The Availability Bias

What exactly are cognitive biases? How do biases hijack your reality and prevent you from thinking clearly? Cognitive biases are snap judgments we make about ourselves, others, and the world around us that are often based on false premises. As a result of biased thinking, we make all kinds of bad decisions and develop a distorted perception of our reality. Keep reading to learn about the psychology of cognitive biases, why they exist, and how they distort your thinking processes.

The 3 Common Signs a Marriage Is Falling Apart

What are the telltale signs a marriage is falling apart? How can you rescue a marriage that’s headed for divorce? The telltale sign your marriage is headed for divorce is an ongoing problem that leads to flooding. Flooding is a psychological phenomenon in which one partner feels so emotionally stressed that they’re unable to respond rationally to their spouse. Here’s how flooding destroys marriages and some signs that your marriage might be in trouble.