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Want to know how to confront someone when you’re not used to confrontation? How can you get better at handling challenging situations?
According to The 50th Law, sometimes it’s necessary to use confrontation, otherwise, people could underestimate or take advantage of you. In the book, the authors explain how to confront someone by describing three uncomfortable situations and how they suggest you react.
Read on to learn how to confront someone, according to the techniques in The 50th Law.
Learn How to Confront Someone
In Curtis Jackson (50 Cent) and Robert Greene’s book The 50th Law, they explain how to adopt a fearless mindset to enjoy more power and success in life. The fourth rule in the book explains how to confront someone even when you’re not used to showing aggression. Jackson and Greene argue that to be fearless, you must show your teeth—be aggressive when aggression is needed. Otherwise, people will underestimate or take advantage of you.
Many people struggle to follow this rule because they want to be liked and accepted by others, so they’re passive and avoid confrontation. However, Jackson and Greene believe that confrontation is crucial to progressing toward any goal. If you don’t learn how to confront someone, you’ll never gain power and success—there’ll always be someone or something holding you back—the authors say.
(Shortform note: Greene first explored the concept of using aggression to gain power in The 48 Laws of Power. While Greene and Jackson heavily emphasize being fiercely and dramatically aggressive in The 50th Law, in 48 Laws, Greene discusses a crucial caveat to this rule: If you rely too heavily on aggression, you’ll likely end up weakening rather than strengthening your power by tiring yourself out and creating numerous enemies on all fronts. To avoid this outcome, keep your emotions (and aggression) contained while luring your enemy to attack first. You’ll reserve your energy while they deplete theirs, and you won’t create unnecessary enemies.)
Jackson and Greene present three techniques to help you learn how to confront someone during problematic, aggressive situations.
#1: Respond to Outward Aggression by Acting Cool
To confront someone who is being outwardly aggressive, act cool. Don’t return outward aggression with outward aggression of your own—you might overcome your competition, but you’ll look just as bad as them in the process. Instead, remain calm and plant obstacles in the other person’s way that will increase their aggression. Then, you can either expose their aggression to the public or wait until they sabotage themselves.
(Shortform note: While Jackon and Greene’s recommendation might be an effective tactic to gain power over the other person, it can arguably cause more harm than good. First, psychologists explicitly warn not to escalate difficult situations (for example, by planting obstacles that will increase the other person’s anger) because the other person might lash out and harm you or others. Further, while causing an aggressive person to self-destruct might benefit you, it arguably lacks compassion. It could also mentally and emotionally devastate someone who has uncontrollable, underlying issues: Issues such as pathological anger, PTSD, brain trauma, and life crises often trigger aggression.)
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