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How to Have More (and Better) Orgasms

Think and Grow Rich: Sexual Transmutation Demystified

What is the secret to having more and better orgasms? Why does it seem like your body sometimes resists an orgasm? According to Emily Nagoski, the author of Come as You Are, the key to having more (and better) orgasms is to deactivate the SIS (sexual inhibition system) and slowly activate the SES (sexual excitation system). In other words, we need to eliminate what our brain sees as reasons not to have sex and gradually increase the frequency and intensity of what turns us on. Here is how to have more orgasms, according to sex researcher Emily Nagoski.

The Role of Context in Sexual Desire

What is the role of context in sexual desire? How does context or environment affect arousal? Context or environment plays an important role in evoking sexual desire. What you may find arousing in some circumstances can have no effect in others (or even have the opposite effect). Here is how context interacts with our brains and how this interaction affects our sexual response, especially for women.

The Psychology of Commitment and Relationships

Does committing to one relationship make you happier—or more anxious? Why do relationships require so much time commitment? In the book The Paradox of Choice, author Barry Schwartz explores the connection between commitment and relationships. He argues that, just like in other areas of your life, you will be happier with limited choices rather than seeking the freedom to be with whomever you want, whenever you want. Here’s an overview of Schwartz’s ideas about relationships.

The Win/Win Paradigm: When Does It Work?

What is the Win/Win paradigm? Do you think a win/win outcome is possible in any situation? The Win/Win paradigm is one of Stephen Covey’s six paradigms of human interaction. The Win/Win paradigm aims to find a solution that benefits both sides, where everyone is happy with the decision and committed to the plan. However, the Win/Win paradigm may not be right for all situations. Read more to learn about the concept of Covey’s Win/Win paradigm, when Win/Win is appropriate, and when it’s not viable.

How to Develop Charisma: Be a Good Listener

What role does the ability to listen play in charisma? What steps can you take to become a better listener? Although it may seem like you only need to be a good speaker to have charisma, a big part of charisma is actually being a charismatic listener. If you take a genuine interest in others, they will be drawn to you. Here are some tips on how to develop charisma by improving your listening skills.

How to Know When It’s Time to Cut Off Toxic People

How much do your friendships affect your life? Can a negative influence or unsupportive person really bring you down? In her bestselling book Girl, Stop Apologizing, Rachel Hollis says that the people you spend your time with (your community) mold who you are. Hollis talks about the importance of having a community and how to know when it’s time to cut off toxic people. Here is why your community matters so much.

Liking Bias: Why We Ignore Faults in People We Love

What is the liking bias? How do you correct this tendency? The liking bias is the inclination to be emotionally attached to objects of affection (including humans and things) to the point where real faults and problems are ignored. You can correct this bias by inverting your opinion of your object of affection to see all the ways that person is unlikable. Read on to learn more about the liking bias.

Charlie Munger’s 8 Secrets to Living a Good Life

8 Secrets to Living a Good Life [Charlie Munger]

What are the secrets to living a good life? What are the possible obstacles to your happiness? The secrets to living a good life include surrounding yourself with friends and family, avoiding self-pity, hard work, and being around people you admire. Envy, lack of ambition, and drug addiction are all factors that can prevent you from living a good life. Read on to discover more about the secrets of living a good life.

Connecting With Your Kids: 3 Strategies for Bonding

Why is connecting with your kids a part of the No-Drama Discipline process? What three strategies can you use to make a connection? In their book No-Drama Discipline, Siegel and Bryson explain that the second step in their No-Drama Discipline method is to make a connection with your child. You can do that through touch (such as hugging), affirming their emotions, and listening while your child talks. Continue below to learn why making a connection with your child is important to the discipline process.

The 4 Tendencies and How They Pair Up

What happens when you put members of the 4 tendencies together? Which pairs do well and which shouldn’t be in the same room? According to The Four Tendencies author Gretchen Rubin, some tendencies tend to get along better while some tend to butt heads when they’re together. While tendencies aren’t by any means an all-encompassing personality trait, you can generally tell if you’ll get along with a person based on their tendency. Here is how the 4 tendencies work together.