Self-Improvement Archives

How to Live Your Best Life: First, Envision It

Would you say you’re living your best life? If not, what do you think is preventing you? What excuses do you give yourself for not pursuing the things you want to do in life? Many people feel frustrated and unhappy with some aspects of their lives, blaming outside forces. We all have excuses for why we can’t do what we’d love to be doing. But our excuses are never really the reason we don’t act; underlying those excuses are self-doubt and fear of failure. We need to shift to thinking about the inner resources we do have to start living

The Biggest Time Management Myth, Debunked

Do you feel in control of how you spend your time? Do you believe it’s possible to have full control over your time? Time management is an important skill to have, but it’s also important to temper your expectations about it. Contrary to self-help gurus and time management experts, you’re not really in control of your time. In his book Four Thousand Weeks, Oliver Burkeman debunks the biggest time management myth you’ve been led to believe—that you can have full control over how you spend your time provided you have the right tools. Let’s cover the two reasons why you

Nathaniel Branden on Self-Acceptance and Self-Esteem

What does self-acceptance have to do with self-esteem? What’s the key difference between self-acceptance and self-esteem? Self-acceptance is an essential ingredient of self-esteem. However, it’s not the same as self-esteem. Self-esteem is a state you experience. Self-acceptance is an action you take. Keep reading to learn about the role of self-acceptance in self-esteem, according to psychotherapist and self-esteem expert Nathaniel Branden.

How to Use Your Time Wisely: 3 Tips for Happiness

Do you feel like you’re not making the most of your time? Do you often engage in time-wasting activities that yield neither value nor enjoyment? If you feel like you’re wasting your time, you probably are. Life is short and youth is even shorter, which is why you should make the most of it. To that end, be careful how you spend your time or it will slip away like sand through your fingers. Here’s how to use your time wisely.

Setting Healthy Boundaries: Don’t Be a “Yes” Person

Do you have difficulty saying “no” even though you know you should? How do you get better at saying “no” to things and people that don’t serve you? Many people struggle to say “no” because they don’t want to compromise their relationships. But being a “yes” person won’t get you very far in life. If you are serious about reaching your full potential, don’t be a “yes” person—learn how to set healthy boundaries. Read about the importance of setting healthy boundaries.

How to Be More Masculine: The 3 Core Rules

What is Rollo Tomassi’s advice on how to be more masculine? How can you embrace masculinity with just three rules? In his book The Rational Male, Rollo Tomassi asserts that women have an agenda to dominate men. To combat this agenda, he says, men must become aware of their own value and embrace their natural masculine impulses. Below we’ll look at the three main rules Tomassi outlines for men to recognize their value, have more sex, build better relationships, and feel good about themselves.

How to Identify the Source of Inherited Trauma

Do your parents or grandparents have a history of mental illness? How can you find out if you have inherited trauma? Inherited trauma is genetic trauma that is passed down from one generation to the next. According to Mark Wolynn, the author of It Didn’t Start With You, the key to finding the source of your inherited trauma is to identify the aspect of your life that causes you the most stress or discomfort—your pain point. The problem could relate to any area of your life such as your health, work, or relationships. Learn more about digging deep in your

How to Mend Broken Relationships With Parents

Do you have a strained relationship with your parents? How can you move past familial grievances? For adults who grew up in dysfunctional families, it can be hard to reconcile their relationships with their parents. However, mending broken relationships with parents is a necessary prerequisite for overcoming grudges and moving past trauma. Here’s how to fix your relationship with your parents, according to Mark Wolynn.

The Healing Power of Positive Thinking

Does positive thinking really work? How can thinking positively affect the brain? According to Mark Wolynn, the author of It Didn’t Start With You, positive thinking is a form of healing power for those suffering from repressed trauma. He backs it up with scientific research that suggests that our brains want us to visualize experiences or conversations that lift us up. Read about the healing power of positive thinking.

Childhood Trauma Therapy for Adults in 4 Steps

Can childhood trauma be treated? How can you use language to find the source of your pain? In his book It Didn’t Start With You, Mark Wolynn presents a language-based approach to treating adults suffering from childhood trauma. Wolynn argues that his therapeutic approach can produce results where traditional talk therapy and medication cannot. Keep reading to learn about Mark Wolynn’s approach to childhood trauma therapy for adults.