Relationships Archives

How to Support Your Team: Leadership Skills

How good are you at supporting your team? Do they ever feel let down by your leadership? Submarine captain David Marquet’s experience can help you learn how to support your team and understand what difference it can make. Marquet found that, when officers and chiefs supported their teams, they developed trust. Ultimately, this advanced the ship’s objectives. Read more to learn how to support your team—and how that care fits in with your organizational goals.

Sex and Intimacy: How to Have the Best of Both Worlds

Are sex and intimacy mutually exclusive? In what way do they contradict each other? Is there a way to bridge the gap? Sex and emotional intimacy may seem at odds with each other but they don’t have to be. According to couples therapist Esther Perel, you can have the best of both worlds—passionate sex and emotional intimacy. In this article, we’ll discuss the clash between sex and intimacy and how to balance the two.

Think and Grow Rich: Sexual Transmutation Demystified

What is the premise of the Think and Grow Rich sexual transmutation theory? How can sex energy be transformed into creative imagination? The Think and Grow Rich sexual transmutation theory describes the desire for sex as being a form of energy that can be redirected and channeled to fuel creative thinking. You will need immense willpower to transform your sex energy into the creativity you need to achieve your goals. Read on to fully understand the Think and Grow Rich sexual transmutation theory.

Sexual Monogamy: Why Do We Value It So Much?

What is monogamy and why do we value it? Are humans naturally monogamous? Where does our obsession with sexual monogamy stem from? According to couples therapist Esther Perel, our values for sexual monogamy were instilled in childhood. As babies, our parents were utterly devoted to us, and monogamy is our way of recreating this connection. People who didn’t have a connection like this with their mothers as children often want this connection even more than those who did experience it. In this article, we’ll discuss how our views on monogamy changed throughout history, and why we value it so much.

Sexual Infidelity: Why Do People Cheat?

Why do people cheat in relationships? Do you think a relationship can still work after one of the partners cheated on the other? People are unfaithful for many disparate reasons, ranging from revenge to healing. However, according to couples therapist Esther Perel, unfaithfulness doesn’t necessarily mean that a relationship has deeper problems. Lots of cheaters are happy with their relationships. In this article, we’ll explore why people in monogamous relationships cheat, and how to handle the possibility of sexual infidelity that exists in every relationship.

Esther Perel: Violent Sexual Fantasies Are Normal

Is it common to fantasize about violent sex? What do violent sexual fantasies tell us about ourselves? Sexual fantasies are a natural, healthy part of adult sexuality. And it’s not actually uncommon to fantasize about sexual aggression. Yet, we feel like there’s something wrong with us for coming up with (and enjoying) these scenarios. Here is what aggressive sexual fantasies tell us about ourselves, according to couples therapist Esther Perel.

Why Sexual Equality Doesn’t Apply to Sex

Are egalitarianism and sexual desire mutually exclusive? How do they contradict each other? How can we foster sexual equality when the act of sex itself is a power play? According to Esther Perel, the author of Mating in Captivity, egalitarianism and sexual desire are inherently at odds with each other. Egalitarianism is all about fairness and respect, while sexual desire is driven by aggression and power play. However, this doesn’t mean that egalitarianism and desire have to be a balancing act. Here’s what couples therapist Esther Perel has to say about sexual equality.

The Psychology Behind Your Sexual Imagination

What do sexual fantasies tell us about ourselves? What do they symbolize? And why do we keep them to ourselves? Our sexual imagination is a gateway to our sexuality—erotic fantasies reveal a lot about our inner sexual worlds. According to psychotherapist Esther Perel, sexual fantasies are unlike regular fantasies in the sense that they are symbolic, not literal. Further, sexual fantasies are often in contradiction with our self-image which is why people tend to keep them to themselves. Keep reading learn about the psychology behind sexual fantasy and what your sexual thoughts reveal about you.

Untruth #3: The Untruth of Us Versus Them

Why is the “us versus them” mindset so destructive? How has intersectionality contributed to the problem? In what ways have these problems contributed to call-out culture? Jonathan Haidt and Greg Lukianoff, co-authors of The Coddling of the American Mind, discuss the three “Great Untruths” in modern society. The first of those untruths is the untruth of “us versus them.” In their book, they discuss where this mindset originated from and what the implications are. Keep reading to learn what Haidt and Lukianoff have to say about the dangers of the “us versus them” mindset.

How to Protect Yourself from Negative Influences

What are some negative influences in life? How do you protect yourself from bad influences? Negative opinions, thoughts, or attitudes that come from outside or within will have a bad influence on you. You can protect yourself from negative influences by closing your mind against anyone or anything that discourages you and focusing your mind on your goals. Read more about the major negative influences in life and how to protect yourself from them.