Emotional Intelligence Exercises: 4 Ways to Practice

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Do you want to boost your EQ and learn how to connect with people on an emotional level? What are some emotional intelligence exercises you can practice?

These emotional intelligence exercises are based on Emotional Intelligence 2.0 written by Jean Greaves and Travis Bradberry. They will help you explore different aspects of your emotions and reflect on how they influence your behavior and decisions.

Here are some emotional intelligence exercises you can practice.

Emotional Intelligence Exercises

Though both IQ and personality develop in early childhood and don’t change throughout one’s lifetime, you can develop EQ through practice and persistence. Much like a muscle when you work out, the brain creates new neural pathways when you practice EQ skills. Here are some emotional intelligence exercises to work out your EQ muscle.

Exercise 1 : Explore the Link Between Your Body and Emotions

Understanding how your body responds to emotions allows you to identify your feelings as they emerge. Use this exercise to explore the ways your body responds to different emotional stimuli.

Close your eyes for a minute and begin to observe the sensations throughout your body. Are you breathing deeply or shallowly? Are you tense? How fast is your heart beating? List the physical sensations you’re experiencing. Be specific.

What do these physical sensations tell you about your current emotional state?

Now, think of a trigger that evokes a negative emotional response from you. As you do, observe the sensations throughout your body. What are they?

Exercise 2: Visualize Success

Visualizing yourself managing a situation well allows your brain to develop EQ skills before difficult situations arise.

Think of a situation in which you have previously had trouble managing your emotions. Describe it.

Now think of a way that you would want to handle the situation effectively in the future. Describe how you would have ideally handled the situation.

Exercise 3: Make an Emotion vs. Reason List

Differentiating between your emotional and rational brain will help you discover the best route forward when faced with a difficult situation. Use this exercise to make the distinction and clarify your decision-making process.

Think of an issue you’re currently experiencing that requires you to make a decision. Describe it.

What is your emotional brain telling you to do?

What is your rational brain telling you to do?

Make an emotion vs. reason list. How are your emotions clouding your rationality? Where is your rationality ignoring important cues from your emotions?

Exercise 4: Live in the Moment

A crucial aspect of emotional intelligence is an ability to live in the moment. If you allow distractions to pull your focus, you won’t pick up emotional critical information.

Think of a recent conversation that you had in which you felt emotionally disconnected. Describe it.

Were you distracted? If so, by what?

What could you do to remove these distractions from future conversations?

What are some specific ways you could have practiced active listening? Think about listening to tone, pacing, and volume and silencing your inner voice.

Emotional Intelligence Exercises: 4 Ways to Practice

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Darya Sinusoid

Darya’s love for reading started with fantasy novels (The LOTR trilogy is still her all-time-favorite). Growing up, however, she found herself transitioning to non-fiction, psychological, and self-help books. She has a degree in Psychology and a deep passion for the subject. She likes reading research-informed books that distill the workings of the human brain/mind/consciousness and thinking of ways to apply the insights to her own life. Some of her favorites include Thinking, Fast and Slow, How We Decide, and The Wisdom of the Enneagram.

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