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ADHD and Socializing: 3 Tips for Fostering Connections

Why are social connections especially important for people with ADHD? What are some practical things that people can do to enjoy more connection? Psychiatrist Edward Hallowell and professor of psychiatry John Ratey say that people with ADHD have a deep-seated need for interpersonal connection—in other words, for love. They recommend that people with ADHD nurture close friendships, socialize with acquaintances, and perhaps get a pet for companionship. Continue reading to learn about ADHD and socializing.

How to Be Kind to Others: Why Empathy Isn’t Necessary (& What Is)

How can empathy get in the way of treating others well? What truly motivates us to care for people? In Against Empathy, psychologist Paul Bloom asserts that we don’t have to empathize with someone to treat them kindly. In fact, we often shouldn’t empathize. He discusses several other emotions and desires that should be at work instead. Read more to learn how to be kind to others—without employing empathy.

How to Break Up With Someone Without Hurting Them: 4 Tips

Are you in a relationship that needs to end? How can you break up with someone without hurting them? Even if your partner is a good person, sometimes relationships fizzle out. As long as you end things gently and with kindness, you shouldn’t have to worry about your partner holding a grudge toward you. This is how to break up with someone without hurting them so you can both move on.

Idealize-Devalue-Discard: A Powerful Tactic of Narcissists

Is your partner constantly tearing you down? Do they ever build you back up with compliments and gifts? The above pattern is quite common in narcissists. According to Power by Shahida Arabi, it’s a tactic known as “Idealize-Devalue-Discard,” which manipulates victims into staying in the relationship. Let’s take a closer look at the Idealize-Devalue-Discard tactic.

The 3 Narcissistic Manipulation Tactics to Keep an Eye Out For

What are common narcissistic manipulation tactics to look out for? How do narcissists keep their victims from leaving them? The main goal of a narcissist is to gain adoration from others, which reinforces their feeling of superiority. In Power, Shahida Arabi describes the tell-tale signs of a narcissist trying to manipulate you into giving them that attention. Keep reading to understand these tactics so you can be better equipped to deal with narcissists in a relationship.

What Does NPD Stand For? Breaking Down the Disorder

What does NPD stand for? What are the common characteristics of narcissists? In Power, Shahida Arabi explains the distinguishing characteristics of NPD and what causes it. People can experience different forms of narcissism on a spectrum, whether clinical or non-clinical. Keep reading to learn the true meaning of NPD.

Power: Shahida Arabi’s Guide to Surviving Narcissism

What is Power by Shahida Arabi about? Are you stuck in a relationship with a narcissist? In Power, Shahida Arabi provides an overview of Narcissistic Personality Disorder (NPD) and describes a narcissist’s signature manipulation strategies. She also gives advice for healing after narcissistic abuse. Read below for a brief overview of Shahida Arabi’s Power.

How to Cope With Narcissistic Abuse in Relationships

The Case for the Biopsychosocial Model for Depression

Are you in a relationship with a narcissist? Do you want your life to be yours again? Whether you’re in a relationship with a potential narcissist or have already ended a relationship with one, Power by Shahida Arabi offers advice on how to take back control of your life. Her biggest recommendation is to end the relationship and all contact with the narcissist, but not before gathering plenty of evidence of the abuse. Keep reading for suggestions on dealing with narcissistic abuse in relationships.

The Importance of Small Talk: A Stepping Stone to Connection

Do you hate small talk? Does it seem shallow and like a waste of time? Patrick King wrote an entire book about small talk. He sings its praises—and teaches the skill—because he recognizes the value of small talk as a stepping stone toward deeper connections. Read more to learn about the importance of small talk and how it’s just the beginning of substantive conversations.

How to Read Emotions: Body Language Tips From an FBI Agent

What does it mean when someone purses their lips? Why do people turn their feet away from others? Can you tell what someone’s feeling, despite what they’re saying? Joe Navarro, a retired FBI Special Agent, knows how to read people. In The Dictionary of Body Language, he examines some of the body language cues that indicate emotions, such as repetitive actions that suggest anxiousness and tense postures that indicate anger. Keep reading to learn how to read emotions through body language.