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How did Britney Spears and Kevin Federline’s relationship ruin the pop star’s reputation? Why did Spears want a divorce from Federline?
Spears and Federline were married for three years and have two sons together. The tabloids followed their messy divorce through many custody battles and arrangements, leading to an infamous moment in Spears’s career.
Let’s look at how Spears’s relationship with Federline led to a nasty fallout.
Turmoil and Unwanted Attention (2003-2007)
As she felt the media turning against her, the pop star sought fulfillment in creating a family, only to have what she loved used against her. The Woman in Me details the media backlash that followed her breakup with Justin Timberlake, Britney Spears and Kevin Federline’s marriage, and the fallout from their messy divorce.
The media was sympathetic to Timberlake as he promoted his take on his relationship with Spears, but it wasn’t supportive of her side of the story. She recounts an incident in which her father and three men she didn’t know barged into her home and interrogated her about the breakup. Following that came a TV interview in which journalist Diane Sawyer publicly grilled her about how she’d treated Timberlake, seemingly accepting his version of events as fact and pushing Spears to break down on camera. In what Spears asserts should have been a time for healing and grief, she was forced to expose her most private feelings in an open forum for everyone to see.
(Shortform note: Others have likewise criticized Sawyer’s tactics, arguing that her questions were based on a presumption of Spears’s guilt for any problems that existed between her and Timberlake. Sawyer was openly critical of Spears’s clothing and questioned her about her sex life, painting Spears as a bad role model. In Going There, journalist Katie Couric criticizes Sawyer’s interview methods in general, stating that Sawyer crosses the line into sensationalist exploitation.)
After these events and a grueling tour, Spears became involved with a former backup dancer, Kevin Federline, who Spears says treated her with a tenderness that had been missing in her life. She didn’t learn until after they were dating that he had children from a prior relationship. Nevertheless, she married Federline in 2004 and tried to restore some normalcy to her life by taking a break from recording and touring.
(Shortform note: According to Spears, she fell in love and married Federline in a very short space of time. Psychologists have long been aware that during the early days of a romance, anyone’s judgment can be clouded by a rush of the body’s neurochemicals. In Getting the Love You Want, Harville Hendrix and Helen LaKelly Hunt describe this “honeymoon phase” as a time when you view your partner as an idealized caregiver who fills whatever needs are missing in your life. However, this illusion eventually fades and each partner finally sees that the other has flaws. This can elicit feelings of betrayal that your partner isn’t who you imagined they were.)

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