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Codependent No More: How to Stop Controlling Others and Start Caring for Yourself
The healing touchstone of millions, this modern classic by one of America's best-loved and most inspirational authors holds the key to understanding codependency and to unlocking its stultifying hold on your life.
Is someone else's problem your problem? If, like so many others, you've lost sight of your own life in the drama of tending to someone else's, you may be codependent--and you may find yourself in this book--Codependent No More.The healing touchstone of millions, this modern classic by one of America's best-loved and most inspirational authors holds the key to understanding codependency and to unlocking its stultifying hold on your life.With instructive life stories, personal reflections, exercises, and self-tests, Codependent No More is a simple, straightforward, readable map of the perplexing world of codependency--charting the path to freedom and a lifetime of healing, hope, and happiness.Melody Beattie is the author of Beyond Codependency, The Language of Letting Go, Stop Being Mean to Yourself, The Codependent No More Workbook and Playing It by Heart.
You can go after the job you want—and get it! You can take the job you have—and improve it! You can take any situation—and make it work for you!
Dale Carnegie’s rock-solid, time-tested advice has carried countless people up the ladder of success in their business and personal lives. One of the most groundbreaking and timeless bestsellers of all time, How to Win Friends & Influence People will teach you:
-Six ways to make people like you -Twelve ways to win people to your way of thinking -Nine ways to change people without arousing resentment
And much more! Achieve your maximum potential—a must-read for the twenty-first century with more than 15 million copies sold!
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Recommended by Dave Ramsey, Daymond John, Dustin Moskovitz, and 58 others.
Boundaries: When to Say Yes, How to Say No to Take Control of Your Life
Henry Cloud, John Townsend
4.6
Having clear boundaries is essential to a healthy, balanced lifestyle. A boundary is a personal property line that marks those things for which we are responsible. In other words, boundaries define who we are and who we are not. Boundaries impact all areas of our lives: Physical boundaries help us determine who may touch us and under what circumstances -- Mental boundaries give us the freedom to have our own thoughts and opinions -- Emotional boundaries help us to deal with our own emotions and disengage from the harmful, manipulative emotions of others -- Spiritual boundaries help us to distinguish God's will from our own and give us renewed awe for our Creator -- Often, Christians focus so much on being loving and unselfish that they forget their own limits and limitations. When confronted with their lack of boundaries, they ask: - Can I set limits and still be a loving person? - What are legitimate boundaries? - What if someone is upset or hurt by my boundaries? - How do I answer someone who wants my time, love, energy, or money? - Aren't boundaries selfish? - Why do I feel guilty or afraid when I consider setting boundaries? Dr. Henry Cloud and Dr. John Townsend offer biblically-based answers to these and other tough questions, showing us how to set healthy boundaries with our parents, spouses, children, friends, co-workers, and even ourselves.
The Language of Letting Go: Daily Meditations on Codependency (Hazelden Meditation Series)
Melody Beattie
4.6
Written for those of us who struggle with codependency, these daily meditations offer growth and renewal, and remind us that the best thing we can do is take responsibility for our own self-care.
Melody Beattie integrates her own life experiences and fundamental recovery reflections in this unique daily meditation book written especially for those of us who struggle with the issue of codependency. Problems are made to be solved, Melody reminds us, and the best thing we can do is take responsibility for our own pain and self-care. In this daily inspirational book, Melody provides us with a thought to guide us through the day and she encourages us to remember that each day is an opportunity for growth and renewal.
If you grew up with an emotionally immature, unavailable, or selfish parent, you may have lingering feelings of anger, loneliness, betrayal, or abandonment. You may recall your childhood as a time when your emotional needs were not met, when your feelings were dismissed, or when you took on adult levels of responsibility in an effort to compensate for your parent’s behavior. These wounds can be healed, and you can move forward in your life.
In this breakthrough book, clinical psychologist Lindsay Gibson exposes the destructive nature of parents who are emotionally immature or unavailable. You will see how these parents create a sense of neglect, and discover ways to heal from the pain and confusion caused by your childhood. By freeing yourself from your parents’ emotional immaturity, you can recover your true nature, control how you react to them, and avoid disappointment. Finally, you’ll learn how to create positive, new relationships so you can build a better life.
Discover the four types of difficult parents:
The emotional parent instills feelings of instability and anxiety
The driven parent stays busy trying to perfect everything and everyone
The passive parent avoids dealing with anything upsetting
The rejecting parent is withdrawn, dismissive, and derogatory
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Recommended by Bogdan Lucaciu.
Bogdan Lucaciu
“Adult Children of Emotionally Immature Parents” is also worth mentioning, it allowed me to tame some old demons. [source]
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Set Boundaries, Find Peace: A Guide to Reclaiming Yourself
Lundy Bancroft - a counselor who specializes in working with abusive men - uses his knowledge about how abusers think to help women recognize when they are being controlled or devalued, and to find ways to get free of an abusive relationship.
He says he loves you. So...why does he do that? You've asked yourself this question again and again. Now you have the chance to see inside the minds of angry and controlling men--and change your life. In Why Does He Do That? you will learn about:
The early warning signs of abuse - The nature of abusive thinking - Myths about abusers - Ten abusive personality types - The role of drugs and alcohol - What you can fix, and what you can't - And how to get out of an abusive relationship safely Prevention Programs, Harvard School of Public Health
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How to Do the Work: Recognize Your Patterns, Heal from Your Past, and Create Your Self
Originally published as an e-book that became a controversial media phenomenon, No More Mr. Nice Guy! landed its author, a certified marriage and family therapist, on The O'Reilly Factor and the Rush Limbaugh radio show. Dr. Robert Glover has dubbed the "Nice Guy Syndrome" trying too hard to please others while neglecting one's own needs, thus causing unhappiness and resentfulness. It's no wonder that unfulfilled Nice Guys lash out in frustration at their loved ones, claims Dr. Glover. He explains how they can stop seeking approval and start getting what they want in life, by presenting the information and tools to help them ensure their needs are met, to express their emotions, to have a satisfying sex life, to embrace their masculinity and form meaningful relationships with other men, and to live up to their creative potential.
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Recommended by Boban Dedovic.
Boban Dedovic
Question: What five books would you recommend to young people interested in your career path & why? Answer: Here are the main five I would recommend (in chronological order): Swim with the Sharks Without Being Eaten Alive by Harvey Mackay How to Win Friends and Influence People by Dale Carnegie Think and Grow Rich by Napoleon Hill The 7 Habits of Highly Effective People by Stephen R. Covey No More Mr Nice Guy by Robert Glover [source]
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In the Realm of Hungry Ghosts: Close Encounters with Addiction
Gabor Maté
4.3
Based on Gabor Maté’s two decades of experience as a medical doctor and his groundbreaking work with the severely addicted on Vancouver’s skid row, In the Realm of Hungry Ghosts radically reenvisions this much misunderstood field by taking a holistic approach. Dr. Maté presents addiction not as a discrete phenomenon confined to an unfortunate or weak-willed few, but as a continuum that runs throughout (and perhaps underpins) our society; not a medical "condition" distinct from the lives it affects, rather the result of a complex interplay among personal history, emotional, and neurological development, brain chemistry, and the drugs (and behaviors) of addiction. Simplifying a wide array of brain and addiction research findings from around the globe, the book avoids glib self-help remedies, instead promoting a thorough and compassionate self-understanding as the first key to healing and wellness. In the Realm of Hungry Ghosts argues persuasively against contemporary health, social, and criminal justice policies toward addiction and those impacted by it. The mix of personal stories—including the author’s candid discussion of his own "high-status" addictive tendencies—and science with positive solutions makes the book equally useful for lay readers and professionals.
If you wanted to design a system that would make addiction worse, you’d design the system we have now. [source]
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Facing Codependence: What It Is, Where It Comes from, How It Sabotages Our Lives
Pia Mellody
4.3
Revised and Updated With Over 600,000 Copies Sold
Pia Mellody creates a framework for identifying codependent thinking, emotions and behaviour and provides an effective approach to recovery. Mellody sets forth five primary adult symptoms of this crippling condition, then traces their origin to emotional, spiritual, intellectual, physical and sexual abuses that occur in childhood. Central to Mellody's approach is the concept that the codependent adult's injured inner child needs healing. Recovery from codependence, therefore, involves clearing up the toxic emotions left over from these painful childhood experiences.
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Beyond Codependency: And Getting Better All the Time
Melody Beattie
4.3
In simple, straightforward terms, Beattie takes you into the territory beyond codependency, into the realm of recovery and relapse, family-of-origin work and relationships, surrender and spirituality.
You're learning to let go, to live your life free of the grip of someone else's problems. And yet you find you've just started on the long journey of recovery. Let Melody Beattie, author of the classic Codependent No More, help you along your way. A guided tour past the pitfalls of recovery, Beyond Codependency is dedicated to those struggling to master the art of self-care. It is a book about what to do once the pain has stopped and you've begun to suspect that you have a life to live. It is about what happens next.In simple, straightforward terms, Beattie takes you into the territory beyond codependency, into the realm of recovery and relapse, family-of-origin work and relationships, surrender and spirituality. With personal stories, hard-won insights, and activities, her book teaches the lessons of dealing with shame, growing in self-esteem, overcoming deprivation, and getting past fatal attractions long enough to find relationships that work.
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The Codependency Workbook: Simple Practices for Developing and Maintaining Your Independence
Krystal Mazzola MEdLMFT
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Codependents' Guide to the Twelve Steps: New Stories
Melody Beattie
4.3
The New York Times bestselling self-help book that offers advice on how to find and choose the recovery program for you, as well as a directory of the wide range of Twelve Step programs, including AA, Codependents Anonymous, Codependents of Sex Addicts, Adult Children of Alcoholics, and more.
Millions identified with Melody Beattie in Codependent No More and gained inspiration from her in Beyond Codependency. Now she’s back to help you discover how recovery programs work and to help you find the right one for you. Interpreting the famous Alcoholics Anonymous Twelve Steps specifically for codependent issues for the very first time, this groundbreaking book combines Melody’s expertise with the experience of other people to:
• Explain each step and how you can apply it to your particular issues • Offer specific exercises and activities to use both in group settings and on your own • Provide a directory of the wide range of Twelve Step programs—including Al-Anon, Codependents Anonymous, Codependents of Sex Addicts, Adult Children of Alcoholics, and more
The uniquely warm and compassionate voice of Melody Beattie will inspire you to turn your life around—one step at a time.
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Facing Love Addiction: Giving Yourself the Power to Change the Way You Love
Pia Mellody, Andrea Wells Miller, J. Keith Miller
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In this revised and updated version of Facing Love Addiction, bestselling author of Facing Codependence and internationally recognized dependence and addiction authority Pia Mellody unravels the intricate dynamics of unhealthy love relationships and shows us how to let go of toxic love. Through twelve-step work, exercises, and journal-keeping, Facing Love Addiction compassionately and realistically outlines the recovery process for Love Addicts, and Mellody’s fresh perspective and clear methods work to comfort and motivate all those looking to establish and maintain healthy, happy relationships.
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Recommended by Dana Dearmond and Dave Elitch.
Dana Dearmond
@KarlaKush420 I always recommend the book Facing Love Addiction by Pia Melody to people. [source]
Dave Elitch
Dave Elitch recommended this book on the podcast "The Tim Ferriss Show". [source]
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The New Codependency: Help and Guidance for Today's Generation
Melody Beattie
4.3
In Codependent No More, Melody Beattie introduced the world to the term codependency. Now a modern classic, this book established Beattie as a pioneer in self-help literature and endeared her to millions of readers who longed for healthier relationships. Twenty-five years later concepts such as self-care and setting boundaries have become entrenched in mainstream culture. Now Beattie has written a followup volume, The New Codependency, which clears up misconceptions about codependency, identifies how codependent behavior has changed, and provides a new generation with a road map to wellness.
The question remains: What is and what is not codependency? Beattie here reminds us that much of codependency is normal behavior. It's about crossing lines. There are times we do too much, care too much, feel too little, or overly engage. Feeling resentment after giving is not the same as heartfelt generosity. Narcissism and self-love, enabling and nurturing, and controlling and setting boundaries are not interchangeable terms. In The New Codependency, Beattie explores these differences, effectively invoking her own inspiring story and those of others, to empower us to step out of the victim role forever. Codependency, she shows, is not an illness but rather a series of behaviors that once broken down and analyzed can be successfully combated.
Each section offers an overview of and a series of activities pertaining to a particular behavior -- caretaking, controlling, manipulation, denial, repression, etc. -- enabling us to personalize our own step-bystep guide to wellness. These sections, in conjunction with a series of tests allowing us to assess the level of our codependent behavior, demonstrate that while it may not seem possible now, we have the power to take care of ourselves, no matter what we are experiencing.
Punctuated with Beattie's renowned candor and intuitive wisdom, The New Codependency is an owner's manual to learning to be who we are and gives us the tools necessary to reclaim our lives by renouncing unhealthy practices.
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The Codependency Recovery Plan: A 5-Step Guide to Understand, Accept, and Break Free from the Codependent Cycle
Krystal Mazzola M.EdLMFT
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DETACH FROM CODEPENDENCY IN FIVE STEPS.
You can say no. You can stop people pleasing and start setting boundaries. You can ask for what you need. You can love and be loved - without sacrifice - by breaking the codependency lifestyle.
The Codependency Recovery Plan empowers you to have healthy, happy interdependent relationships. This actionable five-step program is designed to help you get in touch with yourself, assert boundaries, and communicate confidently. You'll be free to nurture true intimacy.
The five steps to break the codependency cycle include:
• Step 1: Get in Touch with Your- "Self" - Learn how to stand on your own two feet.
• Step 2: Prioritize Self-Care - Show yourself respect by caring for your mind and body.
• Step 3: Build Boundaries - Take a stand for what feels good to you in life and love.
• Step 4: Communicate Confidently Open up about what you think, feel, & need to share.
• Step 5: Get Intimate - Experience healthy and joyful connections. You can't change your history with codependency - You can take care of recovery starting. . .now.
Codependent No More: How to Stop Controlling Others and Start Caring for Yourself (Revised and Updated)
Melody Beattie
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Co Dependents Anonymous
CoDA
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Stop Walking on Eggshells: taking your life back when someone you care about has borderline personality disorder
Paul T. T. Mason MS and Randi Kreger
4.2
Do you feel manipulated, controlled, or lied to? Are you the focus of intense, violent, and irrational rages? Do you feel you are 'walking on eggshells' to avoid the next confrontation?
If the answer is 'yes,' someone you care about may have borderline personality disorder (BPD). Stop Walking on Eggshells has already helped nearly half a million people with friends and family members suffering from BPD understand this destructive disorder, set boundaries, and help their loved ones stop relying on dangerous BPD behaviors. This fully revised edition has been updated with the very latest BPD research and includes coping and communication skills you can use to stabilize your relationship with the BPD sufferer in your life.
This compassionate guide will enable you to: * Make sense out of the chaos * Stand up for yourself and assert your needs * Defuse arguments and conflicts * Protect yourself and others from violent behavior
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High Achiever: The Incredible True Story of One Addict's Double Life
Tiffany Jenkins
4.2
A few years ago, Tiffany Jenkins was detoxing behind bars at a Florida prison, incarcerated on 20 felony charges. Now, she's clean and sober, a married mother of three. As she found her way in her new life, she started sharing on social media as an outlet for her depression and anxiety. She struck a chord, several of her videos went viral (one with 46million views), and in the past year her following exploded from a few hundred thousand to more than 3 million.
The memoir opens in the Florida women's prison where Tiffany was incarcerated for 180 days. The memoir flashes back in time to the events that led to Tiffany's imprisonment (during the time of her active addiction, Tiffany was dating and living with a cop), and moves forward to her eventual sobriety.
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Conquering Shame and Codependency: 8 Steps to Freeing the True You
Darlene Lancer
4.2
Learn how to heal from the destructive hold of shame and codependency by implementing eight steps that will empower the real you and lead to healthier relationships.
Shame: the torment you feel when you’re exposed, humiliated, or rejected; the feeling of not being good enough. It’s a deeply painful and universal emotion, yet is not frequently discussed.
For some, shame lurks in the unconscious, undermining self-esteem, destroying confidence, and leading to codependency. These codependent relationships--where we overlook our own needs and desires as we try to care for, protect, or please another--often cover up abuse, addiction, or other harmful behaviors.
Shame and codependency feed off one another, making us feel stuck, never able to let go, move on, and become the true self we were meant to be.
In Conquering Shame and Codependency, Darlene Lancer sheds new light on shame: how codependents’ feelings and beliefs about shame affect their identity, their behavior, and how shame can corrode relationships, destroying trust and love. She then provides eight steps to heal from shame, learn to love yourself, and develop healthy relationships.
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Codependency for Dummies
Darlene Lancer
4.2
Your trusted guide to value yourself and break the patterns of codependencyCodependency For Dummies, 2nd Edition is the most comprehensive book on the topic to date. Written in plain English and packed with sensitive, authoritative information, it describes the history, symptoms, causes, and relationship dynamics of codependency. The majority of the book is devoted to healing and lays out a clear plan for recovery with exercises, practical advice, and daily reminders to help you know, honor, protect, and express yourself. New to this edition are chapters on working the Twelve Steps to recover from codependency and how therapists/coaches/nurses are affected by codependency.
Codependence is primarily a learned behavior from our family of origin. Some cultures have it to a greater degree than others--some still see it as a normal way of living. Yet the costs of codependence can include distrust, faulty expectations, passive-aggressiveness, control, self-neglect, over-focus on others, manipulation, intimacy issues, and a slew of other harmful traits. Codependence causes serious pain and affects the majority of Americans--not just women and loved ones of addicts. Codependency For Dummies, 2nd Edition offers authoritative and trusted guidance on ways to raise your self-esteem, detach and let go, set boundaries, recognize healthy vs. dysfunctional relationships, overcome guilt and resentment, and much more.
Helps you break the pattern of conduct that keeps you in harmful relationships Provides trusted guidance to create healthy boundaries, coping skills, and expectations Offers advice for eliminating feelings of guilt, blame, and feeling overly responsible Explains the difference between care-giving and codependent care-taking If you're trapped in the cycle of codependency and looking for help, Codependency For Dummies, 2nd Edition offers trusted advice and a clear plan for recovery.
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The Set Boundaries Workbook: Practical Exercises for Understanding Your Needs and Setting Healthy Limits
Nedra Glover Tawwab
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I Want to Trust You, but I Don't: Moving Forward When You’re Skeptical of Others, Afraid of What God Will Allow, and Doubtful
Lysa TerKeurst
4.2
READ BY THE AUTHOR2025 ECPA CHRISTIAN BOOK AWARD - AUDIOBOOK OF THE YEARNEW YORK TIMESBESTSELLERIn I Want to Trust You, but I Don't, join New York Times bestselling author Lysa TerKeurst as you learn how to handle your skepticism and distrust so you can heal from past betrayals and move forward with strength and resilience.Broken trust complicates every bit of the parts of love that should be comforting. Maybe a friend constantly lets you down. A family member betrayed you. A spouse cheated on you. A leader deceived you. You're exhausted by other people's choices and starting to question your own discernment. And you're wondering, If God let this happen, can he even be trusted?Lysa understands this deep pain and the skepticism that makes you so wary, and she invites you into a journey of developing the stability you long for within yourself and with God, so you don't become cynical and carry a broken belief system into every new relationship. In I Want to Trust You, But I Don't, you'll learn how to:Identify which of the eleven relational red flags are stirring up distrust, so you can pinpoint why you're feeling uneasyStop having more faith in your fears coming true than God coming through for you by asking crucial "what if" questions to better process your doubtsRecognize when a fractured relationship can be repaired by considering a reasonable list of characteristics necessary for rebuilding trustUnderstand the physical, emotional, and neurological impact of the betrayals you've experienced and start healing from the inside outIn a world where so many things feel alarming, this book will give you a peace that isn't dependent on unpredictable people, circumstances, and experiences. Instead, it offers practical and biblical ways to make real progress toward healthier perspectives, relationships, and a future you can authentically look forward to.
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Whole Again: Healing Your Heart and Rediscovering Your True Self After Toxic Relationships and Emotional Abuse
Jackson MacKenzie
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From a leading voice on recovering from toxic relationships, a deeply insightful guide to getting back to your "old self" again--in order to truly heal and move on.
Jackson MacKenzie has helped millions of people in their struggle to understand the experience of toxic relationships. His first book, Psychopath Free, explained how to identify and survive the immediate situation. In this highly anticipated new book, he guides readers on what to do next--how to fully heal from abuse in order to find love and acceptance for the self and others.
Through his close work with--and deep connection to--thousands of survivors of abusive relationships Jackson discovered that most survivors have symptoms of trauma long after the relationship is over. These range from feelings of numbness and emptiness to depression, perfectionism, substance abuse, and many more. But he's also found that it is possible to work through these symptoms and find love on the other side, and this book shows how. Through a practice of mindfulness, introspection, and exercises using specific tools, readers learn to identify the protective self they've developed - and uncover the core self, so that they can finally move on to live a full and authentic life--to once again feel light, free, and whole, and ready to love again.
This book addresses and provides crucial guidance on topics and conditions like: complex PTSD, Narcissistic abuse, Avoidant Personality Disorder, Codependency, Core wounding, toxic shame, Borderline Personality Disorder, and so many more. Whole Again offers hope and multiple strategies to anyone who has survived a toxic relationship, as well as anyone suffering the effects of a breakup involving lying, cheating and other forms of abuse--to release old wounds and safely let the love back inside where it belongs.
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Healing from Hidden Abuse: A Journey Through the Stages of Recovery from Psychological Abuse
Shannon Thomas LCSW
4.2
Within every community, toxic people can be found hiding in families, couples, companies, and places of worship. The cryptic nature of psychological abuse involves repetitious mind games played by one individual or a group of people.
Psychological abuse leaves no bruises. There are no broken bones. There are no holes in the walls. The bruises, brokenness, and holes are held tightly within the target of the abuse.
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Psychopath Free: Recovering from Emotionally Abusive Relationships with Narcissists, Sociopaths, and Other Toxic People
Jackson MacKenzie
4.2
Have you ever been in a relationship with a psychopath? Chances are, even if you did, you would never know it. Psychopaths are cunning charmers and master manipulators, to the point where you start to accept the most extreme behaviors as normal… Even if it hurts you. All around us, every single day, human beings devoid of empathy are wreaking havoc and destroying lives in the coldest, most heartless ways imaginable. In constant pursuit of money, sex, influence, or simple entertainment, psychopaths will do whatever it takes to gain power over others. They hide behind a veil of normalcy, arranging their friends and partners like pawns in a game of chess.
Using false praise and flattery to get what they want, they can lure any unsuspecting target into a relationship. Once hooked, their charming promises spin into mind games and psychological torture. Victims are left devastated and confused, unable to recognize—or even put into words—the nightmare that just took place.
This significantly expanded edition of Psychopath Free contains new chapters, updated content, and real survivor experiences. Written from the heart, it is the first guide for survivors written by a survivor, offering hope for healing and thriving after psychopathic abuse. Say goodbye to the chaos, self-doubt, and victimization. You are free.
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Secure Love: Create a Relationship That Lasts a Lifetime
Julie Menanno
4.2
Create a lasting and loving attachment with this national bestseller, a “must-read for every couple, at any stage of their relationship” (Lori Gottlieb, New York Times bestselling author of Maybe You Should Talk to Someone) from the expert couple’s therapist behind the popular Instagram account @TheSecureRelationship.What does a healthy relationship look like? A good question, in theory, but couple’s therapist Julie Menanno wants you to consider: what does a securely attached relationship feel like? The answer to this question is the ultimate goal in Secure Love, an “incredibly wise and helpful guide” (Jen Sincero, New York Times bestselling author of You Are a Badass) to understanding secure attachment in adult relationships. While attachment theory has grown in popularity to explain the relationship between children and their caregivers, it’s also the closest science has come to making sense of our adult romantic connections. In this book Julie Menanno, the expert behind the popular Instagram account @TheSecureRelationship, tackles: -Why you and your partner have the same fight over and over (hint: it’s called a negative cycle, and underlying every fight, argument, silent treatment, or passive-aggressive comment is an unmet attachment need). -“Instead of that, say this” suggested scripts of how to approach difficult situations in your relationship more effectively. -The four attachment types, with exercises to understand you and your partner’s attachment style. -How to improve communication, including staying connected during conflict by prioritizing vulnerability rather than protecting yourself. -Why insecure attachment negatively impacts a couple’s sex life and how to ignite that sexual connection. Secure Love is a crash course in understanding how you show up in a relationship and guides you on getting out of negative cycles to find safety in one another. In doing so, “you’ll be armed with eternal wisdom for strengthening your relationship” (Dr. Sue Johnson, founder of Emotionally Focused Therapy for Couples and bestselling author of Hold Me Tight) and establish a secure attachment with your partner to create the bond you’ve been longing for.
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Beyond Addiction: How Science and Kindness Help People Change
Jeffrey Foote, Carrie Wilkens, et al.
4.1
The groundbreaking method that upends current treatment models and “offers collective hope to families of substance abusers” (Kirkus Reviews), helping loved ones conquer addiction and compulsion problems through positive reinforcement and kindness—from the leaders in progressive addiction treatment in the US.
Beyond Addiction goes beyond the theatrics of interventions and tough love to show family and friends how they can use kindness, positive reinforcement, and motivational and behavioral strategies to help someone change. Drawing on forty collective years of research and decades of clinical experience, the authors present the best practical advice science has to offer.
Delivered with warmth, optimism, and humor, Beyond Addiction defines a new, empowered role for friends and family and a paradigm shift for the field. This new approach is not only less daunting for both the substance abuser and his family, but is more effective as well. Learn how to use the transformative power of relationships for positive change, guided by exercises and examples. Practice what really works in therapy and in everyday life, and discover many different treatment options along with tips for navigating the system. And have hope: this guide is a life raft for parents, family, and friends—offering “reminders that although no one can make another person change, there is much that can be done to make change seem appealing and possible” (Publishers Weekly).
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The Twelve Steps and Twelve Traditions of Overeaters Anonymous, Second Edition
Co-Dependents Anonymous
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Stop Caretaking the Borderline or Narcissist: How to End the Drama and Get on with Life
Margalis Fjelstad
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People with Borderline or Narcissistic Personality Disorders have a serious mental illness that primarily affects their intimate, personal, and family relationships. Often they appear to be normally functioning at work and in public interactions, and Narcissists may even be highly effective, in the short term, in some work or social situations. However, in intimate relationships, they can be emotional, aggressive, demeaning, illogical, paranoid, accusing, and controlling in the extreme. Their ability to function normally or pleasantly can suddenly change in an instant, like flipping a switch. These negative behaviors don t happen once in a while, they happen almost continuously in their intimate relationships and most often, and especially with their Caretaker family member. Here, Margalis Fjelstad describes how people get into a Caretaker role with a Borderline or Narcissist, and how they can get out. Caretakers give up their sense of self to become who and what the Borderline or Narcissist needs them to be. This compromises the Caretaker s self-esteem, distorts their thinking processes, and locks them into a Victim-Persecutor-Rescuer pattern with the Borderline or Narcissist. The book looks at the underlying rules and expectations in these relationships and shows Caretaker s how to move themselves out of these rigid interactions and into a healthier, more productive, and positive lifestyle with or without the Borderline/Narcissistic partner or family member. It describes how to get out of destructive interactions with the Borderline or Narcissist and how to take new, more effective actions to focus on personal wants, needs, and life goals while allowing the Borderline or Narcissist to take care of themselves. It presents a realistic, yet compassionate, attitude toward the self-destructive nature of these relationships, and gives real life examples of how individuals have let go of their Caretaker behaviors with creative and effective solutions."
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Me acordé de mi... y me olvidé de ti.: Un viaje hacia el amor propio, la autoestima y la sanación emocional. (Spanish Edition)
Julia Arenas
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Self-Love Workbook for Women: Release Self-Doubt, Build Self-Compassion, and Embrace Who You Are (Self-Love Workbook and Journal)
Megan Logan MSW LCSW
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Out of the Fog: Moving from Confusion to Clarity After Narcissistic Abuse
Dana Morningstar
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Lying. Cheating. Manipulating.
Will they ever change?
What will it take to get through to them?
They apologized, but will this time be different...or will they just get better at hiding what they are up to?
This book will help you get out of the fog of confusion and into the clarity you are looking for.
FOG is an acronym that stands for "Fear, Obligation, and Guilt." These three emotions are often at the core of manipulation, and are often how narcissists, sociopaths, and other types of emotional manipulators go about controlling their targets.
However, this type of destructive manipulation isn't just limited to narcissists and sociopaths.
There is no shortage of people with well-intended bad advice out there who unintentionally fall into the FOG as well, and push targets of abuse into keeping the relationship going.
The FOG is one of the main reasons that people stay "stuck" in abusive relationships for so long, why they continue to get involved with abusive people, why they feel that they are the problem, and why they tend to feel that the abuse is somehow their fault.
When a person is being manipulated they have a hard time figuring out who has the problem, what is normal, what is problematic, and if their wants, needs, and feelings are valid. The disasterous effects of being lost in the FOG are confusion, crazymaking, people pleasing, and an erosion of boundaries.
What makes this well-intended bad advice so damaging is that, on the surface, it seems like good advice--especially if it's coming from people who seem to have our best interests in mind, such as friends, family, church members, support group members, or a therapist.
Some examples of this well-intended bad advice that comes from other people is:
"Who are you to judge?" "No one is perfect." "You need to forgive them." "She's your mother, you need to have a relationship with her...she's not getting any younger you know." "Commitment is forever."
What can be so crazymaking for targets is that they are often getting two very different messages. On one hand, they are told that they need to work towards a solution, and on the other, they are told that need to leave a partner who lies, cheats, steals, hits, yells, or belittles them.
This book compares and contrasts of these concepts so that targets of any type of manipulation and abuse can make a more empowered decision.
Some of the concepts covered are:
Who are You to Judge vs. Being Discerning No One is Perfect vs. Tolerating Abuse You Need to Forgive Them vs. Keeping Yourself Safe A Parent vs. A Predator Commitment vs. Codependency Self-love vs. Selfishness A Person Acting the Part vs. A Person Actually Changing Gut Instincts vs. Hypervigilance A Friend vs. Someone Being Friendly Caring vs. Caretaking Being in Love With Them vs. Being in Love With Who They Pretended to Be Workable Behavior vs. Deal Breakers Acceptance vs. Allowance Going Through So Much Together vs. Being Put Through So Much By Them Sincerity vs. Intensity Healthy Bonding vs. Trauma Bonding Insincere Remorse vs. Sincere Remorse Reacting vs. Responding
...and many more.
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The Language of Letting Go Journal: A Meditation Book and Journal for Daily Reflection
Melody Beattie
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Boundary Boss: The Essential Guide to Talk True, Be Seen, and (Finally) Live Free
Terri Cole MSW LCSW
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More Language of Letting Go: 366 New Daily Meditations
Melody Beattie
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Daily thoughts provide readers with ongoing insights into issues such as surrendering, the damaging effects of manipulation, and healthy communication.
This new volume of meditations offers clients ongoing wisdom and guidance about relationship issues. An excellent enhancement to therapy, daily thoughts provide clients with ongoing insights into issues such as surrendering, the damaging effects of manipulation, and healthy communication. More Language of Letting Go shares unsentimental, direct help for clients recovering from chemical dependency, healing from relationships and family issues, and exploring personal growth.
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Empath, Narcissists and Codependency Cycle Recovery: Learn How to Deal with a Narcissistic Personality and Escape from a Codependent Relationship Even if You are a Highly Sensitive Person
Daniel Anderson
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Do you want to discover how to understand, recognize and effectively deal with narcissists and codependent personalities without putting aside your own needs? If yes then keep reading...
Are you an emotionally sensitive person and are tired of being emotionally susceptible to manipulative people? Is taking responsibility for the feelings and problems of others taking a toll on your mental health and overall well-being?
If you would like to learn how to set boundaries and finally say goodbye to letting manipulative people walk all over you because they know they can, then this special bundle is for you.
In this box-set designed for emphatic and other highly sensitive people, Daniel Anderson shows you how to take back control of your life. It is often very easy for emphatic people and other people with the caretaker personality to fall prey to manipulators.
This bundle will equip you will the tools you need to avoid this fate and turn your "weakness" into strength.
This special bundle contains everything you need to know about how to deal with narcissism people and codependent relationships if you're a highly sensitive person. It contains the following books:
Empath: How To Live In An Insensitive World If You're Too SensitiveNarcissist: Discover The True Meaning Of Narcissism And How To Avoid Their Mind Games, Guilt And ManipulationCodependency Cycle Recovery: Be Codependent No More and Recover Your Self-Esteem NOW, Cure Your Soul of Emotional Abuse - Stop Being Manipulated and Controlled by Narcissists and SociopathsIn Empath, you're going to discover:
Why there's nothing wrong with being sensitive and how to turn this "weakness" into an unfair advantage The simple 3-step method to help you easily recognize toxic emotions which you've picked up from other people and how to get rid of it The 5 myths about highly sensitive people that you need to stop believing today How to tell if you have a special ability exclusive to empaths and how to develop this ability ...and more! Here's what you're also going to learn in Narcissist:
How to recognize a narcissistic person from a mile away with these eight surefire tips The subtle but important difference between self-love and narcissism Ten mistakes that people make when dealing with narcissistic abuse that often makes things worse The 7 phases of narcissistic abuse and how to stop it no matter how bad it is ...and much more! Finally, here's a snippet of what you're going to discover in Codependency Cycle Recovery:
How to free yourself of codependent behavior in 8 simple steps and live your best life Foolproof tips to help you identify codependent people and their behavior in relationships, interactions with friends and family and at work 12 symptoms of codependent behavior you need to be aware of The 2 biggest traps you can fall into when dealing with codependent people and how to avoid them 5 practical ways to instantly feel better about yourself without having to resort to abstract or new-age spiritual techniques ...and tons more! Even if you extreme trouble with keeping your empathy under control, even if you've tried and failed in the past to get rid of manipulative and toxic people in the past without much success, there's something in these pages to help you deal with manipulative and toxic personalities and thrive in an unforgiving world.
Would you like to know more? Scroll up to the top of the page and click the "add to cart" button to buy now!
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I Hate You--Don't Leave Me: Third Edition: Understanding the Borderline Personality
Jerold J. Kreisman
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The Language of Letting Go: Daily Meditations on Codependency
Melody Beattie
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* REVISED AND UPDATED, WITH A NEW PREFACE AND NEW MEDITATIONS *This gentle and profound collection of 365 meditations reminds us that letting go is a daily practice that sets everything free, from the author of Codependent No More.This cherished work by Melody Beattie was written for those on a journey of recovery and healing, a companion to her classic, Codependent No More. “It was the daily journey that I wanted to write about,” Beattie notes in the preface to this new edition. “Of the many healing behaviors I’ve learned to practice, letting go—in all its shapes and forms—is the most influential, profound, and life altering.”Drawing on her own life experiences and struggles with codependency, Beattie offers a thought to guide us through each day of the year and to encourage us to take small, meaningful steps toward renewal, courage, and resilience. Every day affords an opportunity for growth, she reminds us, and with this wise and compassionate book, she lights the way.
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How Al-Anon Works for Families & Friends of Alcoholics
Al-Anon Family Groups
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The Secure Soul: Finding Inner Strength and Connection When Trust Doesn't Come Easy
Dr Alison Cook
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USA Today BestsellerMany of us long for closeness and intimacy in relationships while simultaneously fearing rejection, abandonment, or being overwhelmed. Blending attachment theory with spiritual formation, Dr. Alison Cook helps us restore our soul to a place that can process past traumas or hurts in order to be fully alive and present.In The Secure Soul, psychologist and bestselling author Dr. Alison Cook offers a compassionate path toward emotional healing, secure connection, and spiritual wholeness through stories of her own journey and personal struggle.We overthink conversations, people-please, shut down emotionally, or work endlessly to feel worthy of love. Beneath these patterns are often hidden attachment wounds—places within us still longing to feel safe, secure, and connected. These "soul ruptures" are traumas that happened to us long ago and which left unhealed wounds that inhibit our daily life.We feel the need to build up protective walls, to avoid, which Dr. Alison identifies as your inner "Controller" that is guarding your heart or making you feeling distant from God.The Secure Soul shows you how to build emotional and spiritual security from the inside out. You will learn how to:understand why you feel empty, anxious, or alone—even when life looks fullidentify the patterns keeping you stuck in over-functioning, self-neglect, and self-criticismcare for the wounded younger parts of yourself with compassion instead of shameexperience deeper emotional connection in your relationshipsrediscover God as a safe and loving presence rather than a distant authoritycultivate lasting peace, resilience, and a more secure sense of selfThe Secure Soul is for anyone who feels exhausted from holding it all together—and longs to feel truly known, loved, and secure.You were never meant to do life alone.
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Twilight (Twilight, #1)
Stephenie Meyer
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About three things I was absolutely positive.
First, Edward was a vampire.
Second, there was a part of him—and I didn't know how dominant that part might be—that thirsted for my blood.
And third, I was unconditionally and irrevocably in love with him.
Deeply seductive and extraordinarily suspenseful, Twilight is a love story with bite.
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Courage to Cure Codependency: Healthy Detachment Strategies to Overcome Jealousy in Relationships, Stop Controlling Others, Boost Your Self Esteem, and Be Codependent No More
Leah Clarke
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Too Much: A Guide to Breaking the Cycle of High-Functioning Codependency
Terri Cole MSW LCSW and Sounds True
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Codependent No More & Beyond Codependency
Melody Beattie
4.1
Much of the attention in our self-help-absorbed world is focused on the addict--the compulsive, chemically dependent person who uses alcohol or other drugs to anesthetize the pain of day-to-day living. But what about the other victims of addiction--the spouses, families, and caretakers suffering (not so quietly) in the background, so involved in the addict's problems that they are unable to identify and solve their own?
Codependent No More and Beyond Codependency address these issues in a clear language, providing colorful examples and steps to assist readers in ameliorating their relationship patterns and developing healthy lifestyles.
These classic bestsellers inspired a personal growth movement upon their release and kindled the creation of Co-Dependents Anonymous. People struggling with codependency can continue to improve their lives and become codependent no more.
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Are You Mad at Me?: How to Stop Focusing on What Others Think and Start Living for You
Meg Josephson and Simon & Schuster Audio
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The Christian Codependence Recovery Workbook: From Surviving to Significance
Stephanie Tucker
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This second revised version offers a group leader's manual updated material.The Christian Codependence Recovery Workbook: From Surviving to Significance takes you through a truth-finding journey to reveal your system of love, life and relationships. It practically addresses the manifest behaviors, emotions and needs of the codependent, while simultaneously introducing the precious truths of God's love. This workbook doesn't just diagnose the problem, but offers the healing principles of the Lord Jesus Christ in a fresh and profound way. When applied, you will have the opportunity to walk in freedom and grace, rather than bondage and control. Above all, this journey allows you to find freedom, purpose and identity in Christ. This book is written for anyone who wants to grow closer to the Lord, and to embrace healthy and whole relationships.
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How to Love Better: The Path to Deeper Connection Through Growth, Kindness, and Compassion
Yung Pueblo
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Healing the Shame that Binds You
John Bradshaw
4.1
“I used to drink,” writes John Bradshaw, “to solve the problems caused by drinking. The more I drank to relieve my shame-based loneliness and hurt, the more I felt ashamed.”
Shame is the motivator behind our toxic behaviors: the compulsion, co-dependency, addiction and drive to superachieve that breaks down the family and destroys personal lives. This book has helped millions identify their personal shame, understand the underlying reasons for it, address these root causes and release themselves from the shame that binds them to their past failures.
Key Features This is not just a recovery book. Among other things, it is a classic book on identifying and working through unresolved family issues. Includes affirmations, visualizations, inner voice and feeling exercises. Strong supporting studies make this a popular book with counselors and other professionals. Completely updated and revised
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Friend-ish: Reclaiming Real Friendship in a Culture of Confusion
Kelly Needham
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Bible teacher Kelly Needham debunks our world's constricted, small view of friendship and casts a richer, more life-giving, biblical vision for friendship as God meant it to be.
As the family unit grows more unstable and the average age of marriage increases, a shift is taking place in our culture: for many people, friends now play the role of family. And just as with family relationships, our friendships often don't turn out quite as we envisioned or hoped, and we wonder, Is there a better way to do this?
In Friend-ish, Kelly Needham takes a close look at what Scripture says about friendship. She reveals the distorted view most of us have of it and recasts a glorious vision for a Christian understanding. By teaching us how to recognize symptoms of idolatry and dependency, she equips us to understand and address the problems that arise in friendship--from neediness to discord and even sexual temptation. With hard-fought wisdom, a clear view of Scripture, and been-there perspective, Needham reorients us toward the purposeful, loving relationships we all crave that ultimately bring us closer to God.
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Recommended by Jimmy Needham.
Jimmy Needham
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La Teoría Let Them [The Let Them Theory]: La clave está en soltar [The Key Is to Let Go]
Mel Robbins, Leyla Rangel, and Audible Studios
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The Journey from Abandonment to Healing: Turn the End of a Relationship into the Beginning of a New Life
Susan Anderson
4.1
The fear of abandonment is one of our most primal fears, and deservedly so. Its pain is often overwhelming, and can leave its mark on the rest of your life. In the midst of the hurt, it’s hard to see an end to your feelings of rejection, shame, and betrayal.
In this updated edition of the groundbreaking book, Susan Anderson, a therapist who has specialized in helping people with loss, heartbreak, and abandonment for more than thirty years, shares recent discoveries in neuroscience that help put your pain in perspective. It is designed to help all victims of emotional breakups—whether you are suffering from a recent loss, or a lingering wound from the past; whether you are caught up in patterns that sabotage your own relationships, or you’re in a relationship in which you no longer feel loved. From the first stunning blow to starting over, it provides a complete program for abandonment recovery.
Going beyond comforting words to promote real change, this healing process will help you work through the five universal stages of abandonment—shattering, withdrawal, internalizing, rage, lifting—by understanding their biochemical and behavioral origins and implications. New hands-on exercises for improving your life will teach you how to manage the inevitable pain, then go on to build a whole new concept of self, increase your capacity for love, and find new love on a deeper and richer level than ever before.
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You Are Enough: Is It Love or Your Need for Validation?: Overcoming People Pleasing And Emotionally Unavailable Relationships
Rainie Howard
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One Day at a Time
Danielle Steel
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Danielle Steel celebrates families of every stripe in her compelling new novel—a tale of three very different couples who struggle and survive, love, laugh, and learn to take life…
Coco Barrington was born into a legendary Hollywood family, her last name loaded with expectations. Her mother is a mega-bestselling author who writes under the name of Florence Flowers—and her sister, Jane, is one of Hollywood’s top producers. They’re not your typical family by any means.…Jane has lived with her partner, Liz, for ten years, in a solid, loving relationship. Florence, widowed but still radiant, has just begun a secret romance with a man twenty-four years her junior. And Coco, a law school dropout and the family black sheep, works as a dog walker, having fled life in the spotlight for the artsy northern California beach town of Bolinas.
But when Coco reluctantly agrees to dog-sit in Jane’s luxurious home, she soon discovers how much things can change in just a matter of days.…It turns out Jane’s house comes complete with an unexpected houseguest: Leslie Baxter, a dashing but down-to-earth British actor who’s fleeing a psycho ex-girlfriend. Their worlds couldn’t be more different. The attraction couldn’t be more immediate.
Suddenly Coco is seeing things differently: Leslie is not just a celebrity, he’s a single dad to an adorable six-year-old girl. Her mother is not just a self-centered walking advertisement for great cosmetic surgery, she’s a woman in love, with vulnerability and new insight. And Jane and Liz are about to take the bravest plunge of all—into parenthood. As Coco contemplates a future with one of Hollywood’s hottest stars, as her mother and sister settle into their lives, old wounds are healed and new familes are formed—some traditional, some not so traditional, but all bonded by love.
With wit and intelligence, Danielle Steel’s new novel explores love in all its guises, taking us into the lives of three unusual but wonderfully real couples. Funny, sexy, and wise, One Day at a Time is at once moving, thought provoking, and utterly impossible to put down.
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Healing Your Lost Inner Child: How to Stop Impulsive Reactions, Set Healthy Boundaries and Embrace an Authentic Life
Robert Jackman, Randy Scott, and Wild Horse Recording LLC
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Crushing Fleas: A Step-By-Step Guide to Reclaiming Peace, Self-Love and the Amazing You After An Emotionally Abusive Relationship
Elyssa Nager
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When It's Never About You: The People-Pleaser's Guide to Reclaiming Your Health, Happiness and Personal Freedom
Ilene S. Cohen Ph.D.
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Do you sometimes feel as if you exist only to satisfy others wants and needs, but never your own? Is your physical, mental and emotional health suffering as a result? Everyone loves a people-pleaser. They're always willing to help, to stay late, to fill in, to "go along." But if you're one of them, you often end up feeling violated, ignored, disrespected, and disconnected-from life and others. Silently enduring the ongoing and relentless invalidation of who you are and what you want will reliably wreak havoc on your health and the health of your relationships. So, are you ready to put less "Yes" and more "You" in your life? In "When It's Never About You," psychotherapist, Ilene S. Cohen, uses real-world examples and activities to help you take a systemic look at people-pleasing. You'll learn... - How to reclaim a strong and balanced sense of self-while still being a "good person." - How to break the harmful behavior patterns that keep you from being heard, listened to and respected. - Specific strategies for transforming yourself from selfless to "self-full." -How to go from feeling "vanished" to being clearly differentiated. - How to get what you want and need-while actually earning even more respect from others. Tired of disappearing from life? Ready for the "pleasing prescription"? "When It's Never About You" will give you the tools and confidence to put yourself first, while bringing the best YOU to those who depend on you!
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The Trust Journey: Heal from Broken Trust with Others, Yourself, and God (A Guided Journal to Use Alongside I Want to Trust Y
Lysa TerKeurst
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There is Nothing to Fix: Becoming Whole Through Radical Self-Acceptance
Suzanne Jones
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Do you ever feel not good enough? Are you constantly trying to fix yourself? Do you want to find your way back to the person who you know you are deep down?
Suzanne Jones has helped thousands of participants with her life-changing somatic healing program and has put the knowledge into the last self-help book you will ever need. She leads you on a journey back to your authentic self by guiding you through a personal exploration of recovery, growth, and resilience. There Is Nothing to Fix is The Power of Now meets the #MeToo movement. Interspersed with case studies and stories of real people—stories you can connect with—the book illustrates the power of Jones’s approach to create innate healing and hope.
Jones begins where most teachings on self-compassion, emotional regulation, and healthy relationships end, by going to the source of lasting change—the body. This book provides a practical lens through which readers can understand their responses and emotions while offering step-by-step guidance for changing these responses, all with an emphasis on compassion and empowerment. Through this revolutionary approach you will be able to experience true freedom from the constant urge to fix yourself from the outside. Jones teaches you everyday tools to build self-confidence, self-compassion, and most important, self-acceptance—tools that have been within you all along.
In today’s struggle to feel connection and approval in our chaotic and critical world, There Is Nothing to Fix teaches us how to suspend judgment, become curious, and find emotional freedom from within.
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Love Is a Choice: The Definitive Book on Letting Go of Unhealthy Relationships
Robert Hemfelt, Frank Minirth, Paul Meier
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These bestselling doctors walk you through their ten proven stages to recovery from codependency that results from external circustances. Humans are susceptible to codependency because of our sinful tendency to use defense mechanisms to fool ourselves. In codependent relationships, deceitful games are played, and important Christian principles are often taken out of context and abused. God wants us to have healthy relationships with a balance between being dependent and independent. The doctors describe how the most effective means of overcoming codependent relationships is to establish or deepen a relationship with Christ Himself. They describe the causes of codependency, pointing out the factors that perpetuate it, and lead readers through their ten stages of recovery.
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Ya te dije adiós, ahora cómo te olvido (Spanish Edition)
Walter Riso
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Making Peace with What I Can’t Control: Find Relief from the Exhaustion of Overthinking, Trying to Fix Others, and Wanting to Figure It All Out
Lysa TerKeurst
4.1
#1 New York Times bestselling author Lysa TerKeurst offers a life-giving alternative to the exhausting madness of trying to change people who don't want to be changed, prevent outcomes we fear, and manage things outside of our control.It's not that we want to be controlling people; it's just that we want to prevent bad things from happening and bring stability to the chaos. Especially when we are afraid of what God seems to be allowing. So we come up with plans and get very intentional about trying to make everyone around us line up with what we really think is best.We don't have bad motives. We're just desperate to prevent another hardship, more heartbreak, and all the emotional turmoil that feels so unnecessary. But this only leads to a counterfeit version of control where we believe everything depends on us--a crushing weight we were never meant to bear.In this book, Lysa TerKeurst addresses the tension so many of us live in, where it seems like the Lord isn't paying attention and the only reasonable option is to take matters into our own hands. She shows us how to:Identify the core fears that fuel us to reach for control but only compound the chaos.Know when we're crossing the line from healthy responsibility into the dangerous territory of fear-driven control.Recognize specific tactics of the enemy that keep us in spiritual confusion (about God), fueled by emotional exhaustion (from the relentlessness of life).Stop allowing the decisions of others to rob our peace by learning what to do when we feel tempted to inappropriately intervene, rescue, or control the narrative.Wrestle honestly with the Lord about hard questions like, Why aren't You doing more to change this person or these circumstances? and I didn't see You do it then, so how do I know You'll do it now?Together, we'll learn that it's not too late to take the weight of the world off our shoulders and hand over to God what was always supposed to be His to carry.
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Betrayal Bond: Breaking Free of Exploitive Relationships
Patrick Carnes PhD
4.1
"Some really great books just keep getting better!" For seventeen years "The Betrayal Bond" has been the primary source for therapists and patients wrestling the effects of emotional pain and harm caused by exploitation from someone they trusted.
Divorce, litigation, incest and child abuse, domestic violence, kidnapping, professional exploitation and religious abuse are all areas of trauma bonding. These are situations and relationships of incredible intensity or importance lend themselves more easily to an exploitation of trust or power.
In "The Betrayal Bond," Dr. Carnes presents an in-depth study of these relationships; why they form, who is most susceptible, and how they become so powerful. Dr. Carnes also gives a clear explanation of the bond that compels people to tolerate the intolerable, and for the first time, maps out the brain connection that makes being with hurtful people comparable to 'a drug of choice.' Most importantly, Carnes provides practical steps to identify compulsive attachment patterns and ultimately to change or end them for good.This new edition includes: New science for understanding how our brains can make a prison of bad relationshipsNew assessments and insights based on 50,000 research participantsA new section utilizing the latest findings in attachment research and narrative therapy to concretely rewrite and rescript bad experiencesA redefinition of the factors contributing to addictive relationships
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Drama Free: A Guide to Managing Unhealthy Family Relationships
Nedra Glover Tawwab
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Healing the Child Within: Discovery and Recovery for Adult Children of Dysfunctional Families (Recovery Classics Edition)
Charles L. Whitfield M.D.
4.1
Dr. Whitfield provides a clear and effective introduction to the basic principles of recovery. This book is a modern classic, as fresh and useful today as it was more than a decade ago when first published. Here, frontline physician and therapist Charles Whitfield describes the process of wounding that the Child Within (True Self) experiences and shows how to differentiate the True Self from the false self. He also describes the core issues of recovery and more. Other writings on this topic have come and gone, while Healing the Child Within has remained a strong introduction to recognizing and healing from the painful effects of childhood trauma. Highly recommended by therapists and survivors of trauma.
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Let Go Now: Embrace Detachment as a Path to Freedom
Karen Casey
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WHY MEN MARRY BITCHES: EXPANDED NEW EDITION - A Guide for Women Who Are Too Nice
Sherry Argov
4.1
ONE OF THE 10 MOST ICONIC RELATIONSHIP BOOKS OF THE PAST TEN YEARS." -- YAHOO
Never shy and always laugh-out-loud funny, Sherry Argov's, Why Men Marry Bitches - EXPANDED NEW EDITION, shows women how to get a man's respect, and love. Its the book you will pick up each time you need to feel more confident in your relationship. With girlfriend-to-girlfriend detail, and the kind of heartfelt advice you would only get from a big sister, Argov explains why being overly nice doesn't mean a man will be more attentive. The guide shares real-life interviews with hundreds of men who answer questions and divulge secrets so you understand how men think. The men will explain:
-Why is a strong woman so appealing? --Will some men manipulate a weaker woman to get the relationship to always be...on his terms? --Why are men secretly attracted to a confident woman? -What makes a man fall madly in love?
This new edition has:
--Two new chapters --100 "Desirability Principles" you will read over and over --25 New Principles --And many more interviews with men!
There is a reason why your girlfriends keep telling you to buy Why Men Marry Bitches. And now, the NEW EXPANDED EDITION is even more comprehensive. Whether you are single or married, this book will show you how to feel confident and exude dignity with men. Its the feel-good guide that will show you how to get the love and respect...that you deserve.
Praise for Sherry Argov's books:
One of "The 10 Most Iconic Relationship Books of the Past Ten Years." --Yahoo!
"A self-help classic." --Daily Mail
"America's top relationship guide." --The Book Tribe
"Men don't really go for 'nice.' They go for 'interesting.'" --Chicago Sun-Times
"We're talking about having so much self-respect, Aretha Franklin would high-five you." --Los Angeles Times
"The pejorative meaning of the word 'bitch' has been reclaimed... it means a strong, feisty woman who has moxie, and knows when to use it. A bitch is... sap free." --Pursuit Magazine
"[Argov is] talking about a strong woman. Someone who knows what she's doing in life. Someone who will share the load, but who will stand her ground." --Joy Behar, Co-host of The View
"Sherry Argov shows women how to transform a casual relationship into a committed one." --The Today Show
"The Best of Culture." --Esquire
"A hot book!" --Fox News Channel
"A must-read at Sunday brunch." --New York Daily News
"(Argov's book flew off the shelves.... Men thrive with women who can set boundaries and who push back when they try to cross the line." --Cosmopolitan
"Ultimately Sherry Argov's message boils down to one of confidence and self respect...it's the only sane way to go." --Glo MSN
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Adult Children: The Secrets of Dysfunctional Families
John C. Friel Ph.D., Linda D. Friel M.A.
4.0
It is estimated that as many as 34 million people grew up in alcoholic homes. But what about the rest of us? What about families that had no alcoholism, but did have perfectionism, workaholism, compulsive overeating, intimacy problems, depression, problems in expressing feelings, plus all the other personality traits that can produce a family system much like an alcoholic one?
Countless millions of us struggle with these kinds of dysfunctions every day, and until very recently we struggled alone. Pulling together both theory and clinical practice, John and Linda Friel provide a readable explanation of what happened to us and how we can rectify it.
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Recovery from Narcissistic Abuse, Gaslighting, Codependency and Complex PTSD (4 Books in 1): Workbook and Guide to Overcome Trauma, Toxic ... and Recover from Unhealthy Relationships)
Linda Hill
4.0
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Codependent: No more Toxic Relationships and Emotional Abuse. A Recovery User Manual to Cure Codependency Now. Boost Your Self-Esteem Restoring Peace and Melody in Your Life
Dana Jackson and Ross Covert
4.0
Do you feel a pain and suffering that robs you the healthy and happy life that you so truly deserve?If you want to protect yourself from the affliction and sadness some behavior can bring then you have to face the problem of a codependent relationshipDo you want to know better Codependency and how to recover from its afflictions?
The nature of codependent relationships may differ, whether it's that of a child living with codependent parents, a spouse living with a codependent partner or a person spending time with a codependent friend, the pain and suffering caused by such relationships are very much the same.
Fortunately, there is a growing number of insights, techniques and tricks that can help a person to both recognize codependency in their life and to recover from its effects. Codependent is a comprehensive collection of these insights, techniques and tricks. It presents a thorough examination of the true nature of codependency, ranging from the forms of abuse that it can enable as well as some of the more subtle elements of codependent behavior that many people fail to recognize. By understanding the nature of codependent behavior a person will better be able to protect themselvesfrom the pain and suffering such behavior can bring.
Codependent also delves into the various methods and techniques needed for an individual to liberate themselves from the prison of a codependent relationship and help a person to begin rebuilding their life, thereby transforming themselves from a victim of codependency to the author of a healthy, happy and fulfilling life.
Some of the points covered in this book include:
The nature of codependency Types of codependent behavior Types of codependent relationships How to detach from codependent influences How to cope with the anger created by codependency Establishing independence Restoring self-esteem Establishing healthy and happy relationships How to end a codependent relationship How to salvage a codependent relationship
By the time you finish reading "Codependent No more toxic relationships and abuse ..." you will have all the tools you need to not only free yourself from the pain and suffering of codependent relationships, you will also be able to create the life you deserve, one that is healthy, happy and full of promise.
No matter the nature of your codependent relationships!
The information in this book will enable you to rise above the role of victim and become the independent, strong person that you are capable of being.
If you are ready to put codependency behind you once and for all and start living the life of your dreams click the 'buy now' button and start your journey today!
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Breaking Free: A Recovery Handbook for 'Facing Codependence'
Pia Mellody
4.0
In her pioneering Facing Codependence, Pia Mellody traced the origins of codependence back to childhood and a wide range of emotional, spiritual, intellectual, physical, and sexual abuses. Now in this innovative new workbook, she presents a step-by-step journal-keeping method for moving toward recovery from codependence. Based on such concepts as the "precious child" and the five core symptoms of codependence, along with the Twelve-Step process of recovery used by Codependents Anonymous, Breaking Free provides strategies and insights for attacking the fundamental problem in codependence--the lack of dependence on self. In a three-part approach to recovery, Mellody first shows recovering codependents how to move beyond denial of their childhood history of abuse. She then offers techniques to identify concrete ways in which the symptoms of codependence operate in their lives. Finally, Mellody guides users through the process of identifying and recording specific instances of improvement in their lives as an aid to greater self-awareness and further recovery.
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Start Here: A Crash Course in Understanding, Navigating, and Healing From Narcissistic Abuse
Dana Morningstar
4.0
Are you in a relationship or dynamic with a person that can be best described as an emotional rollercoaster, toxic, draining, crazy making, or confusing?
Have you wondered why they never seem to change--no matter how much you are willing to do for them, or how much love, understanding, rehab, religion, therapy, second (or twenty second) chances you've given them?
Do you feel as though if you tried harder that eventually you could earn their love, respect, loyalty, honesty, or be treated with dignity and respect?
If so, you are not alone and this book is a great place to start.
This book covers:
- The most common words and definitions (along with examples) surrounding narcissists, sociopaths, and narcissistic abuse, such as "flying monkeys," "hoovering," "narcissistic abuse," "love bombing," "trauma bonding," "C-PTSD," "scapegoat," "reactive abuse," as well as dozens of additional words and concepts that will most likely help everything make a lot more sense.
- Understanding the cycle of narcissistic abuse (and what is really looks like in motion).
- The different ways that emotional manipulators go about exploiting your vulnerabilities.
- Frequently asked questions about narcissistic abuse.
- Elements to consider if you are planning to leave so you can do it as safely as possible.
- What to anticipate after breaking up with a narcissist, sociopath, psychopath, or any other type of emotional manipulator.
- How to find a support group, and privacy concerns to consider when joining one.
- A section for friends and family for how to help support a loved one who is in a narcissistically abusive relationship or dynamic.
And much, much more.
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Communicate Your Feelings (Without Starting a Fight): What to Say and What Not to Say to Your Partner
Nic Saluppo
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Homecoming: Reclaiming and Healing Your Inner Child
John Bradshaw
4.0
Using a wealth of practical techniques, informative case histories and unique questionnaires, John Bradshaw demonstrates how your wounded inner child may be causing you pain. You'll learn to gradually, safely, go back to reclaim and nurture that inner child - and literally help yourself grow up again. Homecoming shows you how to:
Validate your inner child through meditations and affirmations Give your child permission to break destructive family roles and rules Adopt new rules allowing pleasure and honest self-expression Deal with anger and difficult relationships Pay attention to your innermost purpose and desires...and find new joy and energy in living.
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Emotional Blackmail: When the People in Your Life Use Fear, Obligation, and Guilt to Manipulate You
Susan Forward, Donna Frazier
4.0
Emotional blackmail is a powerful form of manipulation in which people close to us threaten to punish us for not doing what they want. Emotional blackmailers know how much we value our relationships with them. They know our vulnerabilities and our deepest secrets. They can be our parents or partners, bosses or coworkers, friends or lovers. And no matter how much they care about us, they use this intimate knowledge to win the pay-off they want: our compliance.
In Emotional Blackmail, bestselling author Susan Forward dissects the anatomy of a relationship damaged by manipulation to give blackmail targets the tools they need to fight back. In a clear, no-nonsense style, she outlines the specific steps readers can take, offering checklists, practice scenarios, and concrete communications techniques that will strengthen relationships and break the blackmail cycle for good.
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101 Clinical Interventions for Trauma: Activities & Worksheets for Moving Your Client and Therapy Forward
Linda Curran
4.0
This is the workbook that all mental health professionals wish they had at the beginning of their careers. Containing over 100 approaches to effectively deal with trauma, this workbook pulls together a wide array of treatments into one concise resource. Equally useful in both group and individual settings, these interventions will provide hope and healing for the client, as well as expand and solidify the professional's expertise. Proven strategies from the most effective trauma modalities:
-Guided Imagery
-EMDR
-Energy Psychology
-Mindfulness
-DBT
-Sensorimotor Somatic Experiencing
-Hypnotherapy
-Art & Movement Therapies
-Yoga
-Tai Chi
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The words I never dared to say: A journey toward emotional freedom and healing through therapeutic writing
Isabelle Miumiu
4.0
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The Avoidant Attachment Workbook: Get Over the Fear of Intimacy, Uncover Deactivation Triggers, and Move to Secure Attachment
Melanie Barnett
4.0
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Find Your Light: Practicing Mindfulness to Recover from Anything
Beverly Conyers
4.0
Author Beverly Conyers—one of the most respected voices in wellness and recovery—has guided hundreds of thousands of readers through the process of recognizing family roles in addiction, healing shame, building healthy relationships, releasing trauma, focusing on emotional sobriety, as well as acknowledging self-sabotaging behaviors, addictive tendencies, and substance use patterns. With her newest work, Conyers shows us how the practice of mindfulness can be a game-changing part of recovering from any- and everything.
Early in our recovery journey, we focused on healing. Further along in the process of recovering, we dare to believe it’s possible to embark on a new chapter, but often feel stuck. At times, we wonder…how do we create the breakthroughs we want?
With a mindfulness practice—meditation and other habits of awareness—we develop the courage to look within. As we hold space for ourselves, we find the light within that can spark change, personal growth, and self-compassion. Mindfulness is an irreplaceable part of the health and healing toolkit because it illuminates our true selves; as a result, it illuminates our recovery.
Conyers gives us an approachable mindfulness book with carefully designed reflections and practices that set us on a path forward. Her insight guides our way whether recovering from unhealthy relationships, addictions of all types, compulsive habits, anxiety and stress, workaholism, disordered eating, or mental health and emotional challenges—and whether we follow the Twelve Steps or not.
Discover why Beverly Conyers’ books have been a mainstay for support groups the world over, and why so many have turned to her insights and guidance. As the author of the recovery classic Addict in the Family, she has inspired hope and healing in a way few others have managed to match.
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Breaking Trauma Bonds with Narcissists and Psychopaths: Stop the Cycle of Manipulation, Exploitation, and Abuse in Your Roman
Shahida Arabi MA, Rachel Perry, and Tantor Media
4.0
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Who Deserves Your Love: How to Create Boundaries to Start, Strengthen, or End Any Relationship
KC Davis LPC and Simon & Schuster Audio
4.0
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Disarming the Narcissist: Surviving and Thriving with the Self-Absorbed
Wendy T. Behary LCSW
4.0
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The Abandonment Recovery Workbook: Guidance through the Five Stages of Healing from Abandonment, Heartbreak, and Loss
Susan Anderson
4.0
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Owning Your Own Shadow: Understanding the Dark Side of the Psyche
Robert A. Johnson
4.0
This powerful work from the acclaimed Jungian analyst and best-selling author of He, She, and We explores our need to "own" our own shadow—the term Carl Jung used to describe the dark, unlit part of the ego. In this rich work, Robert Johnson guides us through an exploration of the shadow: what it is, how it originates, and how it interacts and is made through the process of acculturation.
Johnson asserts that until we have undertaken the task of accepting and honoring the shadow within us, we cannot be balanced or whole, for what is hidden never goes away, but merely—and often painfully—turns up in unexpected places.
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Out of the Shadows: Understanding Sexual Addiction
Patrick Carnes
4.0
With the revised information and up-to-date research, Out of the Shadows is the premier work on sex addiction, written by a pioneer in its treatment.
Sex is at the core of our identities. And when it becomes a compulsion, it can unravel our lives. Out of the Shadows is the premier work on this disorder, written by a pioneer in its treatment. Revised and updated to include the latest research--and to address the exploding phenomenon of cybersex addiction--this third edition identifies the danger signs, explains the dynamics, and describes the consequences of sexual addiction and dependency. With practical wisdom and spiritual clarity, it points the way out of the shadows of sexual compulsion and back into the light and fullness of life.
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Stop Walking on Eggshells for Partners: What to Do When Your Partner Has Borderline or Narcissistic Personality Disorder
Randi Kreger, Bill Eddy LCSW JD, Rachel Perry, and Tantor Audio
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Dangerous Personalities: An FBI Profiler Shows You How to Identify and Protect Yourself from Harmful People
Joe Navarro and Toni Sciarra Poynter
4.0
What makes a narcissist go from self-involved to terrifying? Joe Navarro, a leading FBI profiler, unlocks the secrets to the personality disorders that put us all at risk complete with new foreword in the paperback edition of this national bestseller.
“I should have known.” “How could we have missed the warning signs?” ”I always thought there was something off about him.”
When we wake up to new tragedies in the news every day—shootings, rampages, acts of domestic terrorism—we often blame ourselves for missing the mania lurking inside unsuspecting individuals. But how could we have known that the charismatic leader had the characteristics of a tyrant? And how can ordinary people identify threats from those who are poised to devastate their lives on a daily basis—the crazy coworkers, out-of-control family members, or relentless neighbors?
In Dangerous Personalities, former FBI profiler Joe Navarro has the answers. He shows us how to identify the four most common "dangerous personalities" and how to analyze the potential threat level: the Narcissist, the Predator, the Paranoid, and the Unstable Personality. Along the way, he provides essential tips and tricks to protect ourselves both immediately and in the long-term, as well as how to heal the trauma of being exposed to the destructive egos in our world.
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Cure Codependency and Conquer as an Empath: The Ultimate Guide to Codependent Survival and Empath Empowerment Through Self Healing and Recovery From Narcissistic Relationships
Leanne Walters
4.0
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Surrounded by Psychopaths: How to Protect Yourself from Being Manipulated and Exploited in Business (and in Life) [The Surrounded by Idiots Series]
Thomas Erikson
4.0
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Breaking Free of the Co-Dependency Trap
Janae B. Weinhold Ph.D., Barry K. Weinhold Ph.D., et al.
4.0
This bestselling book, now in a revised edition, radically challenges the prevailing medical definition of co-dependency as a permanent, progressive, and incurable addiction. Rather, the authors identify it as the result of developmental traumas that interfered with the infant-parent bonding relationship during the first year of life.Drawing on decades of clinical experience, Barry and Janae Weinhold correlate the developmental causes of co-dependency with relationship problems later in life, such as establishing and maintaining boundaries, clinging and dependent behaviors, people pleasing, and difficulty achieving success in the world. Then they focus on healing co-dependency, providing compelling case histories and practical activities to help readers heal early trauma and transform themselves and their primary relationships.
Breaking Free of the Co-dependency Trap presents a groundbreaking developmental road map to guide readers away from their co-dependent behaviors and toward a life of wholeness and fulfillment.
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Amar o depender
Walter Riso
4.0
“Aunque la psicología ha avanzado en el tema de las adicciones, en el tema de la adicción afectiva el vacío es innegable… Este libro está dirigido a todas aquellas personas que quieren hacer del amor una experiencia plena, alegre y saludable”. —Walter Riso
Entregarse afectivamente no implica desaparecer sino integrarse en el otro. El amor sano es una suma de dos en la que nadie pierde. Sin embargo, millones de personas en todo el mundo son víctimas de relaciones amorosas inadecuadas y no saben qué hacer al respecto, ya que el miedo a la pérdida, a la soledad o al abandono contamina el vínculo amoroso y lo vuelve altamente vulnerable. Un amor inseguro es una bomba que puede estallar en cualquier momento y lastimarnos profundamente. En ¿Amar o depender?, Walter Riso, uno de los más conocidos autores de autoayuda, nos enseña que sí es posible vivir con independencia y aun así seguir amando, eliminando las ataduras psicológicas y manteniendo vivo el fuego del amor.
La adicción afectiva es una enfermedad que tiene cura y, lo más importante, puede prevenirse. Este revelador libro pretende ayudar a aquellas personas que son o han sido víctimas de un amor malsano y guiar a las parejas sanas para que sigan trabajando en la costumbre de amar intensamente y sin apegos.
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Should I Stay or Should I Go: Dealing with Detachment from a Codependent or a Narcissist. Healing form an Emotional Destructive Relationship. Survival Guide to Narcissism and Codependency
Dana Jackson
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The Power of the Pussy - How to Get What You Want From Men: Love, Respect, Commitment and More!: Dating and Relationship Advice for Women
Kara King
4.0
Kara King's controversial book, "The Power of the Pussy", shares 12 powerful secrets that will transform any woman into the type of strong, desirable woman that can effortlessly obtain what she wants from men; including the love, respect and relationship she desires.
In this book you'll learn valuable lessons that will teach you how to...
~Flip the switch in your female brain, so you can beat men at their own game...
~Have men lining up to date you and desperate for your attention...
~Heal from a broken heart and never be sad over a man again!
~Become the type of woman that commands respect from men...
~Get the proposal, the ring, and the man of your dreams!
Get what you want from men and have the time of your life while doing it! This book has empowered women and dramatically changed their lives by changing the way they think about men and dating, and it can change your life too!
DISCLAIMER: This book contains strong language, sexual content and subject matter that may be offensive to some readers.
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How to Be an Adult in Love: Letting Love in Safely and Showing It Recklessly
David Richo
4.0
How to let love into our lives, and how to express that love to the world at large--the latest from a best-selling author.
We were made to love and be loved. Loving ourselves and others is in our genetic code. It’s nothing other than the purpose of our lives—but knowing that doesn’t make it easy to do. We may find it a challenge to love ourselves. We may have a hard time letting love in from others. We’re often afraid of getting hurt. It is also sometimes scary for us to share love with those around us—and love that isn't shared leaves us feeling flat and unfulfilled.
David Richo provides the tools here for learning how to love in evolved adult ways—beginning with getting past the barriers that keep us from loving ourselves, then showing how we can learn to open to love others.
The first challenge is that we have a hard time letting love in: recognizing it, accepting it from others. We're afraid of it, of getting hurt. The second, related problem is that we're unable to share love with those around us--and love that isn't shared isn't truly love. The first step to learning to love and be loved, according to Richo's model, is to identify the different levels of love so that you can hit each one separately. He breaks it down to three:
• Level One: Positive Connection. As simple as being courteous, respectful, helpful, and honest, and decent in all our dealings. Pretty basic, but it makes the world a better place, and it's the essential foundation for growing in love.
• Level Two: Caring and Personal Connection. Intimacy and commitment to friends, family, partners, lovers. Commitment to others.
• Level Three: Unconditional and Universal. Transcending the love of individuals to the love of all beings; self-sacrificing. The love expressed in the Sermon on the Mount and the Bodhicharyavatara. This level of love isn't for a heroic few, it's everyone's calling.
He then shows us how to incorporate these varieties of love into our lives. It's a relief to know that even just aspiring to incorporate them really changes things. He also provides exercises and guided meditations for identifying and getting through the things that keep you from getting and giving love at each of these three levels.
Through the lens of these types of love, Richo covers topics such as: how to still be yourself while loving another; how to embrace your dark side; what to do when the one who loves you dies; need versus fear; clinging; healthy sexuality, including fantasies and how to experience pleasure without guilt; how to break distructive patterns in your relationships; and how to have safe conversations with your loved one.
Richo provides wisdom from Buddhism, psychology, and a range of spiritual traditions, along with a wealth of practices both for avoiding the pitfalls that can occur in love relationships and for enhancing the way love shows up in our lives. He then leads us on to love’s inevitable outcome: developing a heart that loves universally and indiscriminately. This transcendent and unconditional love isn’t just for a heroic few, Richo shows, it’s everyone’s magnificent calling.
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Addictive Thinking: Understanding Self-Deception
Abraham J Twerski M.D.
4.0
The unpredictability and anxiety associated with the coronavirus pandemic can cloud and confuse everybody's thinking. Excuses, self-deception and addictive logic can harm your recovery and relationships. Don't let it.
Author Abraham Twerski reveals how self-deceptive thought can undermine self-esteem and threaten the sobriety of a recovering individuals and offers hope to those seeking a healthy and rewarding recovery.
Abnormal thinking in addiction was originally recognized by members of Alcoholics Anonymous, who coined the term "stinking thinking." Addictive thinking often appears rational superficially, hence addicts as well as their family members are easily seduced by the attendant--and erroneous--reasoning process it can foster.
In Addictive Thinking, author Abraham Twerski reveals how self-deceptive thought can undermine self-esteem and threaten the sobriety of a recovering individual. This timely revision of the original classic includes updated information and research on depression and affective disorders, the relationship between addictive thinking and relapse, and the origins of addictive thought. Ultimately, Addictive Thinking offers hope to those seeking a healthy and rewarding life recovery.
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Is It Love or Is It Addiction: The book that changed the way we think about romance and intimacy
Brenda Schaeffer D.MinM.A.L.P.C.A.S.
4.0
A fresh, updated, and expanded edition of the book that changed the way we think about romance and intimacy.
Many of us confuse longing and obsession with true love. Through two previous editions, Is It Love or Is It Addiction? has helped countless people find their way from the trials and confusion of addictive love to the fulfillment of whole and healthy relationships. As the author reveals, we can begin to work through relationship difficulties with compassion and lasting effect by increasing our awareness of the ways that we express love.In this expanded third edition, Brenda Schaeffer draws on years of feedback and new developments to foster an understanding of love addiction: what it is and what it is not, how to identify it, and, even more important, how to break free of it. Stories of real people struggling to develop sound relationships illustrate the characteristics of healthy love and help readers to free themselves to find real intimacy. Included is the most up-to-date information about the biological basis of addictive behaviors and the impact of technology on intimate relationships. The author also explores the influence of past abuse and trauma on the predisposition to love addiction.
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The CBT Workbook for Perfectionism: Evidence-Based Skills to Help You Let Go of Self-Criticism, Build Self-Esteem, and Find Balance
Sharon Martin DSW LCSW
4.0
If you feel an intense pressure to be perfect, this evidence-based workbook offers real strategies based in cognitive-behavioral therapy (CBT) to help you develop a more balanced and healthy perspective.
Do you hold yourself—and perhaps others—to extremely high standards? Do you procrastinate certain tasks because you’re afraid you won’t carry them out perfectly? If you’ve answered “yes” to one or both of these questions, chances are you’re a perfectionist. And while there’s nothing wrong with hard work and high standards, perfectionism can also take over your life if you let it. So, how can you find balance?
With this workbook, you’ll identify the causes of your perfectionism and the ways it is negatively impacting your life. Rather than measuring your self-worth by productivity and accomplishments, you’ll learn to exercise self-compassion, and extend that compassion to others. You’ll also learn ways to prioritize the things that really matter to you, without focusing on attaining fixed goals.
Life isn’t perfect, and neither are we. If you’re ready to break free from out-of-control perfectionism and start living a richer, fuller life, this workbook will help you get started.
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Prodependence: Moving Beyond Codependency
Robert Weiss LCSWCSAT-S
4.0
Human beings are meant to work together, not to go it alone. We enter the world reliant on others for shelter, nutrition, and emotional support, and these core requirements to do not change as we grow older. Yet somehow, as we move into adulthood, our intrinsic need for emotional connection (i.e., love) gets discounted. This despite the fact that people who spend their lives "apart from" rather than "a part of" do not function as well as those who feel emotionally connected. Nowhere is this more apparent than when dealing with addiction. Nevertheless, loved ones of addicts, instead of being encouraged to care for themselves as well as their addicted loved one, are often encouraged to care for themselves instead of their addicted loved one.
"Prodependence," a new psychological term created by Robert Weiss and Stefanie Carnes to describe healthy interdependence in the modern world, turns this around. Rather that preaching detachment and distance over continued bonding and assistance, as so many therapists, self-help books, and 12-step groups currently do, prodependence celebrates the human need for and pursuit of intimate connection, viewing this as a positive force for change. Simply stated, prodependence occurs when attachment relationships are mutually beneficial--with one person's strengths filling in the weak points of the other, and vice versa. And this can occur even when an addiction is present.
In Prodependence, Weiss and Carnes present a research-based social and psychological understanding of human interdependence. This groundbreaking work presents a new paradigm for useful and healthy support, offering both the lay reader and professional an evolved prism through which they can examine, evaluate, and improve not just relationships affected by addiction (though that's the primary focus of this book), but relationships in general.