In this episode of On Purpose with Jay Shetty, beauty influencer Mikayla Nogueira shares her journey from small-town dreamer to TikTok star with millions of followers. She discusses her early passion for makeup, her viral breakthrough during the pandemic, and the creation of her skincare brand POV with Sephora. Mikayla opens up about the authenticity that resonated with audiences—including showing her severe cystic acne—and how her relatability built her platform.
Beyond her professional success, Mikayla reveals personal struggles including the mental health challenges of navigating online fame, intense public scrutiny, and the pressures of maintaining her identity in the spotlight. She discusses her marriage to Cody, his battle with addiction, the difficult decision to divorce, and her reconnection with her high school boyfriend Zach. Through it all, Mikayla reflects on the lessons learned about partnership, resilience, and staying true to herself while building a career in the demanding world of social media.

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Mikayla Nogueira grew up with entrepreneurial parents who instilled a strong work ethic and belief in her potential for success. Her mother, skilled in sewing, created distinctive outfits that made them both stand out, teaching Mikayla to embrace self-expression despite bullying. By age ten, she was already experimenting with makeup, and between twelve and fourteen, she launched a YouTube channel and beauty blog. She even wrote a 50-page business plan at sixteen about becoming an influencer, persisting despite mockery from classmates in her conservative town.
During college, Mikayla gave up on her beauty dreams, deleting her YouTube channel and social pages. As graduation approached, she realized she needed to work in beauty and applied to Ulta. Manager Lindsay hired her as a makeup artist instead of a cashier, recognizing her potential and providing the critical encouragement Mikayla needed to reignite her passion.
In 2020, after losing her Ulta job to the pandemic, Mikayla downloaded TikTok to help her mother create educational videos. She discovered the app's powerful algorithm and decided to create her own content. Her first makeup transition video, revealing her severe cystic acne before showing flawless coverage, went viral. A follow-up tutorial exploded to 15 million views in a day, causing products to sell out for months. Mikayla's rapid growth to 15 million followers stemmed from both her technical skills and her authentic, relatable personality—she filmed alone, treating videos like a candid video diary.
Her decision to display her real, acne-prone skin deeply resonated with viewers facing similar insecurities, forming strong parasocial relationships built on vulnerability. Mikayla's bold personality, eclectic style, and entertaining videos set her apart from other beauty creators, attracting audiences who valued authenticity over perfection.
Mikayla's meteoric rise brought intense scrutiny and frequent controversies. Her first major cancellation over filter accusations led to unprecedented online hate, causing her to call her manager in tears, feeling so overwhelmed she considered quitting. A later controversy over her comment "Try being an influencer for a day" proved even more distressing than the 2023 L'Oréal lash incident, though having endured heavy backlash prepared her to handle future controversies with greater resilience.
Her manager warned against becoming emotionally numb, encouraging her instead to build confidence in her character. Mikayla adopted practical strategies like turning off her phone at night, blocking her own name on TikTok to avoid hate videos, and avoiding negative comments. She emphasizes that she developed genuine emotional resilience rather than shutting down feelings, allowing her to remain authentic and connected to her emotions.
Navigating fame led Mikayla to separate her public and private identities. She practices code-switching, modulating her voice and accent depending on context—sometimes exaggerating her Boston accent in videos for entertainment, but toning it down in professional settings. She reserves her truest self for family and close friends rather than strangers online.
Despite ongoing insecurity struggles, Mikayla maintains deep confidence in her core identity. Her self-awareness of her insecurities, mental health challenges, and self-sabotage tendencies fosters confidence through understanding rather than trying to control flaws. She acknowledges that insecurities are mental noise but refuses to let them prevent her from achieving great things.
Mikayla met Cody on Tinder at a major turning point for both. She was starting her influencer career and had just moved into her first apartment, while Cody had recently moved across the country to enter rehab and pursue sobriety. Both were navigating massive life changes, connecting immediately over their shared vulnerability and ambition to transform their lives. Cody was open about his addiction from the beginning, and Mikayla supported his recovery by attending AA meetings.
As Mikayla's career intensified, she faced escalating online criticism while traveling constantly. Cody struggled watching her suffer under public scrutiny and felt helpless. Mikayla became emotionally detached and passive, unable to fully support Cody as he relapsed repeatedly. She admits her career became both a refuge and a wedge, contributing to a growing power imbalance and divide in their relationship.
One night, Mikayla woke to find Cody unconscious and overdosing. Following 911 instructions, she tried to revive him until ambulances arrived. Though he survived, the traumatic experience left her in constant vigilance, always checking cameras and his location, afraid she would wake to find him gone. The incident made her realize how deeply addiction affected every part of their lives.
As Cody cycled through sobriety and relapse, Mikayla's emotional reserves dwindled. She struggled with how much she should sacrifice her own ambition to support him, ultimately realizing she couldn't be the partner he needed. In their final year together, addiction and mental health struggles transformed Cody into someone she no longer recognized. After an explosive fight, Mikayla asked for a divorce, collapsing in tears as she confronted this truth.
Mikayla decided on divorce in early 2025 while Cody was in rehab. The process began with lawyers and Cody moving out, all while she was preparing to launch her own brand. She leaned heavily on her best friends Sam and Sydney, calling them daily while crying and shaking from fear about her uncertain future. The divorce finalized in eight months—on the day of the Zoom hearing, she and Cody smiled at each other as the judge read their wedding date, recognizing both the beauty and bittersweet finality. Afterward, she hugged Sydney and cried, ready for her next chapter.
Mikayla admits she put her career above Cody while also recognizing the immense difficulty of supporting someone battling addiction. She emphasizes respect for those who remain partners to addicts, understanding now that honesty with oneself and one's partner is essential. Her view of marriage has evolved—she realizes they were too young and unprepared, both needing to find themselves first. She sees her divorce not as a failure but as a chance for growth and new possibilities for both.
Following her divorce, Mikayla reconnected with Zach, her first love from high school. They had remained friends through the years, even as Zach enlisted in the Air Force. When Mikayla publicly began her divorce, Zach messaged her with support, and their bond deepened. A casual dinner at the Cheesecake Factory turned into a realization that they belonged together, with Zach affirming his commitment to fighting for her. Since then, they have been inseparable, and Mikayla remains grateful for this next chapter.
Working at Ulta, Mikayla connected deeply with customers struggling with acne and skin conditions. She realized improper skin prep was a common cause of makeup mishaps, but there wasn't a simple, approachable solution. This inspired her to create a straightforward product to teach proper skin prep.
As her influence grew, investors approached with pre-established brand concepts, but Mikayla refused, insisting on her own idea. She pitched her skincare prep-focused vision, and investors ultimately trusted her expertise and let her take creative control.
Mikayla chose Sephora for its strong portfolio of founder-led brands like Patrick Ta and Charlotte Tilbury, each maintaining authentic identities. Sephora's "in the Kitchen" program, where founders collaborate on product development, appealed to her. After her first month, she confirmed the partnership was collaborative, authentic, and genuinely supportive of her vision.
At 28, Mikayla achieved her dream of launching her own product line after building a platform with millions of followers and selling products for other brands. She repeatedly affirms how "huge" launching POV is for her, expressing deep gratitude and reflecting on how unbelievable this would seem to her 14-year-old self. Her success reflects her influencer status, consumer insight, parental business acumen, and relentless work ethic, showcasing what's possible when passion, insight, and hard work converge.
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Mikayla Nogueira grows up in a household where both parents are entrepreneurs. She witnesses their relentless work ethic and internalizes the mindset that she is destined for big things. This environment ingrains in her a commitment to hard work and fosters a belief that she can accomplish massive success in life, undeterred by conventional paths or fear.
Mikayla’s mother, skilled in sewing, creates unique, colorful dresses and big bows for Mikayla and herself, making them both stand out at school. This daily display of self-expression earns her admiration from teachers, who foresee her doing something interesting in life. Despite being bullied for her distinctive outfits, Mikayla never regards her difference as negative, learning instead to celebrate individuality from her mother’s openness.
By age ten, Mikayla is already experimenting with winged eyeliner and lipstick, quickly developing strong makeup skills. At a young age, she immerses herself in beauty YouTube, eager to learn and master techniques. Between twelve and fourteen, she starts a YouTube channel and beauty blog, producing her first makeup video — filmed on a new Canon camera, edited on her own, and initially shared with family and friends. Despite living in a conservative town where standing out isn’t the norm, Mikayla persists, undaunted by classmates who mock her efforts and flood her pages with negative comments. She continues to post makeup content through most of high school, writing a 50-page business plan at sixteen about becoming a successful influencer and winning a business competition. Even as others doubt her ambitions, she remains resolute about pursuing a career in the beauty industry.
During her college years, Mikayla briefly gives up on her passion for beauty. The conservative environment and overwhelming doubts about making it as an influencer weigh on her. She deletes her YouTube channel, beauty blog, and beauty social pages, resigning herself to more traditional career choices.
As graduation nears, Mikayla realizes she will be unhappy if she doesn’t work in the beauty industry. She applies for a job at Ulta, interviewing in bold purple cut crease eyeshadow to demonstrate her skills and passion.
Mikayla applies for a cashier position, but Lindsay, the Ulta manager, recognizes her potential and hires her as a makeup artist, despite Mikayla’s lack of professional experience. Being seen and valued for her passion marks a pivotal moment in Mikayla’s confidence, allowing her to fully envision herself in beauty. Lindsay’s encouragement becomes the critical boost Mikayla needs and her advice to never give up stays with Mikayla. Her time at Ulta immerses her in the industry, solidifying her sense of belonging and reigniting her dreams.
In 2020, Mikayla loses her Ulta job and is unable to continue her master’s program due to the pandemic. She downloads TikTok to help her mother, a retired school counselor, make educational videos for remote teaching. While filming and editing these, Mikayla is struck by the app’s algorithm: even users with no followers see their videos go viral, revealing enormous potential for discoverability.
Mikayla decides to produce her own content, following the trend of transition videos. She films herself revealing her severe cystic acne, then transitions to a flawlessly made-up look, publicly displaying her bare skin for the first time. The video immediately grabs viewers’ attentio ...
Journey to Success: From Passion to Stardom
Mikayla Nogueira achieved rapid success, amassing 15 million followers within just two to three years—an abnormal pace for an influencer. This meteoric rise brought intense scrutiny and frequent controversies. From the outset, her videos became a subject of widespread discussion and debate, and everything she said online seemed to generate countless reactions and commentary.
Despite her early innocence, Mikayla faced her first experience with cancellation over filter accusations, which she insists are unfounded. A viral video accused her of using filters, leading to unprecedented online hate. She recalls the parasocial nature of online backlash, recounting an incident where a former critic apologized in person and admitted their hatred was misplaced, highlighting the disconnect between online hate and real-world interactions.
The pressure from this relentless negativity had a severe impact on Mikayla's mental health. She remembers calling her manager in tears after one cancellation, feeling so overwhelmed and anxious that she wanted to throw up. During these early years, she experienced dark moments and frequently questioned whether she could or should continue her career, noting that being an influencer is ultimately a choice.
Multiple cancellations left Mikayla distraught. After her first major cancellation, she called her manager, crying and shaking with anxiety. She describes how overwhelming the hate can be, at times making her want to quit the industry altogether. The early years of her influencer journey were marked by these intense struggles with mental health.
In 2023, Mikayla faced notable criticism concerning a L’Oréal lash product, the debate over which appeared in every major magazine and online forum. However, she reveals that this controversy did not affect her as deeply as a prior incident involving her comment, "Try being an influencer for a day." This earlier controversy stemmed from a misunderstood response to criticism about influencers not having "real jobs." Though she quickly deleted the video after realizing the error, the moment resurfaced years later and proved more distressing than the lash incident. Having already endured such heavy backlash prepared her to handle future controversies with greater resilience.
Mikayla’s manager cautioned her against becoming numb as a defense against negativity, warning that emotional numbness can be just as damaging. Instead, her manager encouraged her to foster confidence in her character and maintain self-awareness.
Mikayla adopted practical strategies to set healthy boundaries. She stopped bringing her phone to bed to avoid doomscrolling through hate comments at night, an act that previously left her upset and affected her daily mood. She also blocked her own name on TikTok so that hate videos would not appear in her feed, sacrificing the possibility of seeing positive content in favor of mental health protection.
Mikayla emphasizes the importance of developing genuine emotional resilience instead of shutting down feelings altogether. Building confidence in her identity and character helps her withstand online hate without letting it affect her sense of self or her love for her work. She takes pride in having developed strength, not numbness, allowing her to remain authentic and connected to her emotions.
Navigating fame has led Mikayla to separate her public a ...
Mental Health and Influencer Fame
Mikayla Nogueira met Cody at a major turning point in both their lives. She was starting her influencer career, experiencing meteoric growth, and had moved out on her own to her first apartment. Feeling overwhelmed by her new world and craving someone to share her experiences with, Mikayla got on Tinder and matched with Cody. At that same time, Cody had just moved across the country to Massachusetts to enter rehab and pursue recovery from addiction. Freshly sober and living in a sober house, Cody was also seeking a partner to accompany him on his journey toward sobriety.
Both were navigating massive life changes, and they connected immediately over their shared vulnerability and ambition to transform their lives. Cody was open about his status as an addict from the beginning, and Mikayla—though inexperienced with addiction—appreciated his honesty and embraced his journey as part of theirs. She supported his recovery by attending AA meetings and hearing him speak about sobriety, drawing inspiration from his willingness to change.
Mikayla reflects that their stories reminded her of the couple in her life who successfully managed addiction and marriage for decades, making her believe they could achieve the same. Their rapid, intense connection drew from these shared, life-changing moments, strengthening their bond and accelerating their relationship.
As Mikayla’s influencer career intensified, she faced escalating online criticism and hate. Cody struggled watching her suffer under public scrutiny and felt helpless, unable to shield her from the deeply personal toll it took. The demands of Mikayla's career meant she was constantly traveling and rarely home. Early in the relationship, she became emotionally detached and passive, admitting that she wasn't able to fully support Cody as he relapsed repeatedly under the mounting pressures of both their lives.
This dynamic contributed to a growing power imbalance as Mikayla’s career soared and Cody found himself relapsing and struggling financially and personally. Mikayla admits that her career became both a refuge and a wedge; it provided distraction from the stress and darkness of addiction but also contributed to the growing divide in their relationship. She acknowledges that prioritizing her career over Cody was a factor in the eventual breakdown of their marriage.
The severity of Cody’s addiction crystallized one night when Mikayla woke up at 1 a.m. to find Cody unconscious and overdosing. Panicked and unsure of what to do, she first called Cody’s mother, who told her to call 911. The dispatcher instructed Mikayla to slap Cody as hard as she could to try to revive him. Despite her shock, she followed the instructions, but Cody remained unresponsive until ambulances arrived. He survived, but the experience traumatized Mikayla. Afterward, she lived in a state of constant vigilance, checking cameras and Cody’s location, always afraid she would wake up to find him gone. The incident marked a turning point, making her realize just how deeply the addiction affected every part of their lives.
Over the years, as Cody cycled through sobriety and relapse, Mikayla’s emotional reserves dwindled. She describes the breaking point as a moment of recognition: she could not save Cody, no matter how committed she was to his journey. She struggled with the question of how much she should dim her own light or reel in her ambition to support Cody. Ultimately, she realized she couldn’t be the partner he needed, and that staying meant sacrificing too much of herself.
In their final year together, Cody changed dramatically. Addiction and mental health struggles—compounded by the pressures of Mikayla’s influencer lifestyle and her growing career—transformed him into someone she no longer recognized. After an explosive fight marked by screaming and despair, Mikayla asked for a divorce, collapsing in tears and panic as she confronted the truth that their marriage was over.
Mikayla decided on divorce in early 2025, with both agreeing while Cody was in rehab. The process began with lawyers and Cody moving out, all while Mikayla was about to launch her own brand. She learned from her attorney that divorce could take up to a year, sometimes longer. Fortunately, since there were no children and limited assets, Mikayla and Cody finalized their divorce in eight months.
During this time, Mikayla leaned heavily on her best friends Sam and Sydney, calling them daily, crying and shaking from intense fear and anxiety about her uncertain future. Her friends became concerned as Mikayla appeared lifeless and drained from the emotional toll. On the day of the court hearing—conducted over Zoom—Mikayla and Cody smiled at each other as the judge read their wedding date, recognizing both the beauty of the moment and the bittersweet finality. Afterward, Mikayla hugged Sydney and cried, finally ready for her next chapter.
Mikayla admits that throughout her marriage, she put her career above C ...
Personal Relationships and Life Challenges
Working at Ulta was a pivotal experience for Mikayla Nogueira. She describes it as a special position, connecting deeply with customers who, like her, struggled with acne and various skin conditions such as burns, rosacea, PCOS, eczema, and skin cancer. Customers often confided their insecurities, seeking solutions in makeup but soon realizing their makeup didn’t look the way they hoped. Mikayla constantly heard, “I don’t know what I’m doing wrong. Please help me.” She realized that improper skin prep was a common cause of makeup mishaps. There wasn’t a simple, approachable solution to help these customers; instead, she had to ask extensive questions about skin type and texture, making the process daunting for both customer and consultant. Inspired by these challenges, Mikayla wanted to create a straightforward, approachable product to teach proper skin prep, an idea that struck her during her years at Ulta.
As her influence grew, investors began approaching Mikayla with pre-established brand concepts, wanting her to act as the face of their brands. She was adamant in her refusal: “No, no, no, I have the idea.” Mikayla pitched her long-standing concept focused on the importance of skin preparation to investors, passionately conveying her understanding of the market gap and her vision for an effective solution. The investors ultimately trusted her expertise and let her take creative control, ensuring the brand would be a genuine extension of her point of view and not just another influencer-fronted label.
When it came time to launch, Mikayla considered both Ulta and Sephora, but ultimately chose Sephora. Her decision was influenced by Sephora’s strong portfolio of founder-led brands including Jacob Imario, Patrick Ta, Charlotte Tilbury, and Patrick Star, each with a distinct, recognizable identity that stayed true to its originator’s vision. Mikayla saw that if one removed the founder’s name, people could still identify the brand, testifying to Sephora’s commitment to authenticity. Additionally, Sephora’s “in the Kitchen” program, where founders collaborate with Sephora’s team on product development and market trend analysis, appealed deeply to Mikayla. After her first month with Sephora, she confirmed the partnership was everything she hoped—collaborative, authentic, and genuinely supportive of her vision.
Launching POV at Sephora is the culmination of Mikayla's lifelong dedication to beauty. From her days as a makeup-obsessed 14-year-old writing a blog and uploading videos, to selling millions of products and promoting nume ...
Entrepreneurship and Brand Building
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