In this episode of Modern Wisdom, hosts Jonny Watson, Chris Williamson, Yusef Smith, and George Mack explore mindfulness practices and their effects on daily life. The group discusses different meditation approaches, including Sam Harris's Waking Up app and Jhana meditation, while examining how mindfulness can change one's relationship with thoughts, emotions, and everyday experiences.
The conversation extends to the psychology of goal-setting and achievement, with the hosts sharing insights about the temporary nature of goal-related satisfaction and the benefits of treating goals as experiments. They also delve into the concept of "deep sparring"—engaging in meaningful exchanges with trusted peers for personal growth—and address the challenges leaders face in expressing vulnerability and finding appropriate outlets for their concerns.

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In a thoughtful discussion, Jonny Watson, Chris Williamson, Yusef Smith, and George Mack explore the transformative effects of mindfulness and meditation. Watson highlights the Waking Up app's theory series as instrumental in establishing his daily meditation practice, crediting Sam Harris's fundamental teachings for changing his understanding of meditation's importance.
Through consistent practice, Watson describes experiencing a profound shift in perspective, learning to detach from being consumed by thoughts and emotions. George Mack introduces an alternative approach through Jhana meditation, which focuses on joy rather than breath. Watson shares how being a father enhanced his appreciation of ordinary experiences, suggesting that mindfulness can transform our relationship with the present moment.
The discussion shifts to examining the psychology of goals and achievement. Yusef Smith addresses what he calls the "happiness trap," explaining that achieving goals often leads to only temporary satisfaction. Chris Williamson reinforces this point, reflecting on how reaching subscriber milestones brought diminishing returns of excitement.
The group advocates for reframing goals as experiments. George Mack introduces the "this time technique," treating decisions as experiments to inform present choices. The participants emphasize that the growth experienced while pursuing goals often proves more valuable than achieving the goals themselves.
George Mack explains the concept of "deep sparring" - engaging in meaningful exchanges with trusted individuals for personal growth. He suggests that discussing problems with respected peers can provide valuable outside perspective, equating it to gaining 20 IQ points compared to solving problems alone.
The conversation concludes with insights about leadership and vulnerability. Jonny Watson discusses the challenges leaders face in admitting struggles, while Chris Williamson emphasizes the importance of having trusted outlets where leaders can express their true feelings and uncertainties.
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Jonny Watson, Chris Williamson, Yusef Smith, and George Mack discuss the transformative power of mindfulness and meditation, using personal anecdotes and the Waking Up app by Sam Harris as a reference point for establishing consistent practice and gaining deeper insights into their lives.
Jonny Watson speaks highly of the Waking Up app, particularly the fundamentals section, known as the "theory series," which consists of five audios with Sam Harris explaining why meditation is essential. Watson credits this series with helping him establish a daily meditation habit for the first time. This series, called The Fundamentals, designed to encourage users to meditate, significantly changed Watson's approach to meditation and his understanding of its importance.
Through consistent meditation, Watson experienced a shift in perceiving meditation and life. The Waking Up app's theory series offers an analogy comparing life to being in a dream where one is in prison and trying to make it nicer, while meditation is the process of waking up from that dream. This shifted Watson’s perspective, helping him to detach from being absorbed in thoughts and emotions. Similarly, Chris Williamson's experience of mistaking water for lemonade and then recognizing the mistake highlights the potential for immediate reactions to thoughts or emotions to be corrected.
George Mack speaks about Jhana meditation, which focuses on joy rather than breath, describing a state comparable to a joy-filled panic attack, emphasizing a different kind of detachment from typical mindfulness practices. Watson also shares glimpses of realizing his reality is like ...
Mindfulness and Personal Growth
Yusef Smith, Chris Williamson, and Jonny Watson take a deep dive into the psychology of goal-setting and achievement, discussing the conventional traps and the more rewarding paths for personal growth.
Participants in the discussion reveal the limitations of setting goals purely for the satisfaction of achievement.
Yusef Smith addresses the happiness trap, explaining that achieving goals often leads to only temporary releases of neurochemicals that create short-lived happiness, perpetuating a cycle of seeking fulfillment through continuous achievements. Chris Williamson reflects on reaching milestones like subscriber counts and finding that the satisfaction was fleeting, and that celebration and excitement diminish with each milestone. These admissions support the idea that the fulfillment from achievements is temporary and does not bring lasting happiness.
Jonny Watson talks about his experiences of reaching various goals, yet finding that they did not change his fundamental worries or problems. George Mack introduces the "this time technique," which involves using past experiences to inform present decisions, effectively treating decisions as experiments. This reflects a focus on the growth experienced from pursuing challenges rather than the actual achievements themselves. Chris Williamson echoes this sentiment by suggesting that the process, personal development, and growth from striving for a goal are more important than the goal itself.
The discussion reveals a shift in how goals are perceived, advocating for a more flexible and experimental approach to decision-making.
The participants speak to the concept of treating decisions as reversible experiments to lighten the weight of important life choices. Williamson and Smith discuss reframing major life decisions as experiments, decreasing the pressure one feels and allowing for more flexible and adaptable life planning. They imply that considering decisions as temporary and adjustable can lead to greater satisfaction and personal growth.
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Goal-Setting and Achievement
George Mack elaborates on the concept of "deep sparring," which he describes as engaging in meaningful exchanges with trusted individuals, potentially as a method for personal growth or problem-solving.
Mack emphasizes that discussing personal problems with close people not directly involved in one's work, but whose opinions are respected, can offer invaluable perspectives. He equates the insights gained from others to a boost of 20 IQ points when advising others, contrasting it with a subjective loss of 20 IQ points when attempting to solve one's own problems.
The group acknowledges the similar emotional trajectories that emerge from discussing life events with each other, as experienced by a friend upon entering new parenthood. Chris Williamson notes the importance of reciprocity in vulnerability, which tends to lead to sincere and open discussions – particularly valuable for men who might be less inclined to earnestness in conversations. Smith highlights the transformative power of these discussions, as evidenced by Jonny Watson’s personal growth through the experience of fatherhood.
Leadership brings with it unique interpersonal challenges related to sharing doubts and seeking support.
Jonny Watson discusses the difficulty leaders face in admitting struggles due to the responsibility they feel as a figure o ...
Interpersonal Relationships and Feedback
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