In this episode of Creating Confidence with Heather Monahan, Heather explores how authenticity and energy influence the people and opportunities that enter your life. She shares personal stories demonstrating that inauthenticity attracts misaligned connections while being true to oneself draws the right circumstances. Heather explains how thoughts, feelings, and energy shape reality, emphasizing the importance of maintaining high vibration and recognizing signs from the universe.
Heather also discusses the necessity of taking personal responsibility for success through "messy action"—imperfect steps that lead to learning and unexpected opportunities. She reflects on how her job loss, initially devastating, became a catalyst for writing books, starting a podcast, and building new businesses. The episode covers building confidence through adversity, learning from mistakes, and trusting intuition when navigating uncertainty.

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Heather Monahan emphasizes that staying true to oneself draws the right people and opportunities. She shares that her failures came when she molded herself for others' approval, becoming what she calls a "watered-down B-rate version" of herself. This inauthenticity attracted the wrong people and led to personal and professional collapse.
Monahan illustrates this through a coaching client who initially relied on scripts and altered her appearance while aspiring to be a professional speaker. When Monahan encouraged her to embrace her natural style and personality, the client transformed within a week—becoming more engaging and effective. She also recounts auditioning to narrate her own audiobook, initially upset until a friend advised her to "just be you," leading her to realize that authenticity was the source of her power.
Monahan connects authenticity to energy, explaining that being inauthentic in her corporate environment caused her to vibrate at a lower frequency and attract negativity. During this period, she was surrounded by what she describes as "villains" and experienced a traumatic gas station robbery. She believes that being untrue to herself and tolerating toxic situations drained her energy and invited further misfortune.
After removing toxic influences and reclaiming her authenticity, Monahan shares a contrasting gas station experience where a friendly police officer appeared, offering warmth and protection. She uses this to demonstrate that when one is aligned and vibrating at higher energy, "the right people, the right things... just start going better for you."
Heather Monahan discusses how mindset, energy, and manifestation shape reality, emphasizing that thoughts and feelings attract particular experiences and people.
Heather explains that her chiropractor helped her recognize that even before consciously understanding these principles, she embodied them through unwavering certainty. She recalls knowing with absolute clarity that she would become chief revenue officer and, in her twenties, that selling her company would generate financial success. This certainty directed her actions and manifested these outcomes.
She shares a story about needing a new nanny and confidently announcing at physical therapy that someone must know an amazing candidate. Her conviction led to a quick connection with the nicest nanny she'd ever met. Heather also highlights the importance of recognizing signs and synchronicities, noting that when her spin instructor mentioned people praising her podcast, she saw this as validation from the universe.
Heather stresses the need to actively observe and manage one's mental state, as this directly influences what is attracted into life. She emphasizes prioritizing oneself to raise energetic vibration, while self-neglect and exposure to negativity lower vibration and attract undesirable experiences.
She illustrates these principles through a recent morning when she rushed her son to the bus only to learn it was a late start day. Initially frustrated, she shifted her energy, and what began as an aggravating morning transformed into a serendipitous experience with friendly encounters at both the gas station and Starbucks.
Heather Monahan emphasizes that real success comes from personal effort, not waiting for others to provide opportunities.
Heather describes receiving a message from a woman wanting to become a keynote speaker who asked for Heather's speaking contacts rather than doing her own research. Heather refused, noting it's not her responsibility to provide a blueprint or pause her career to do someone else's work.
She advises aspiring speakers to research competitors, identify organizations they speak for, pitch themselves proactively, and speak for free initially to build a portfolio and gather testimonials.
Heather advocates for taking "messy action"—starting even when the path isn't clear. She explains that doing fosters learning and reveals unpredictable opportunities. After losing her job, she wrote a book without knowing if it would succeed, then entered the speaking business and launched coaching programs during the pandemic. She stresses that taking action leads to building relationships, discovering effective use of one's efforts, and forging a personalized path forward.
Heather insists that everyone starts as a beginner, and competence—and thus confidence—develops through perseverance and repeated effort. She emphasizes that evolving professionally depends on consistent learning through books, research, and podcasts, which enables continuous growth.
Heather Monahan shares how setbacks, uncertainty, and intuition can foster growth and open unforeseen opportunities.
Despite achieving C-suite status after 25 years in media and being named one of the most influential women in radio, Heather was suddenly fired after 14 years at one company. She now recognizes this as the greatest gift she received, as it led to opportunities she never would have pursued: writing books, starting a podcast, earning a board seat, and becoming a keynote speaker.
Bound by an 18-month non-compete, Heather couldn't return to her industry. Instead of starting over in an unfamiliar corporate environment, she decided to bet on herself. She acknowledges the journey wasn't painless, but growth required stepping into discomfort.
For eighteen months, Heather navigated constant uncertainty without corporate structure to guide her. She focused on "messy action"—taking imperfect steps like writing a book with uncertain sales and starting unfamiliar businesses. Posting about being fired landed her a radio show invitation where she was told to write a book. Her first book, "Confidence Creator," beat Donald Trump's biography for the number one spot in its category. During the pandemic, she started a coaching business, and her second book found a publisher on the fifteenth try. Each imperfect step led to unexpected opportunities.
Heather began actively asking for signs from God or the universe to reassure herself she was on the right path. This openness fostered serendipity and helped her embrace uncertainty as inviting possibilities. She shares a moment with her son, Dylan, who struggles to fasten a necklace clasp behind his head while encouraging himself with positive affirmations until he succeeds. Heather sees this as a powerful lesson in building self-belief and resilience through uncharted territory.
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Heather Monahan emphasizes the importance of staying true to oneself, asserting that authenticity draws the right people and opportunities. She notes that times she fell short were always when she tried to mold herself for others’ approval, particularly in environments where she struggled to be accepted. Trying to gain approval led her to become, in her own words, a “watered-down B-rate version” of herself. Instead of gaining true success or happiness, this approach led to attracting the wrong people and opportunities, ultimately causing her to dislike herself and experience personal and professional collapse.
Monahan illustrates the power of authenticity through a coaching experience with a client aspiring to be a professional speaker. Initially, the client relied on a script and altered her appearance, suppressing her natural self. Monahan encouraged her to embrace her signature hairstyle, ditch the notes, and simply trust her authentic personality. Within one week, the client transformed—she stopped filler words, became more engaging, and made a striking impression by showing up as her real self, demonstrating that alignment with authenticity enhances effectiveness and attracts meaningful opportunities.
Monahan also shares a lesson learned from an audition to narrate her own audiobook with Harper Collins. Initially upset at having to audition to play herself, she sought advice from a friend, who told her to “just be you.” Monahan realized that feigning another persona would only lead to disappointment for everyone involved; the power of her work, as always, comes from authenticity. Ultimately, she succeeded by simply being herself.
Monahan connects authenticity and energy, explaining that inauthenticity in a corporate environment led her to vibrate at a lower frequency and attract negativity. She recounts a period marked by negative relationships at work and in her personal life. She was surrounded by people she describes as “villains,” which dragged down her vibe and seemed to lead to recurring negative experiences.
Her story of a traumatic gas station robbery during this phase underscores her belief that allowing toxic people and environments to persist drains energy and draws further n ...
Authenticity and Being True to Yourself
Heather Monahan discusses the critical role of mindset, energy, and the practice of manifestation in shaping one’s reality, emphasizing how thoughts and feelings attract particular experiences and people into one’s life.
Heather explains that her journey with the concepts of mindset, energy, and manifestation is relatively recent in terms of conscious application. In a conversation with her chiropractor, she realizes that even before fully understanding these principles, she subconsciously embodied them in her past. The chiropractor suggests that Heather’s career was marked by inherent certainty and belief in positive outcomes, which must have shaped her success.
Reflecting on her pivotal career moments, Heather recognizes clear examples where her unwavering certainty led to actualized outcomes. She recalls knowing with unshakeable clarity that she would become chief revenue officer at her media company. Similarly, in her twenties, as an equity partner, she felt sure that selling the company would generate financial success. In each instance, Heather acted from a position of absolute knowing, which directed her actions and ultimately brought about these outcomes. She now sees that this certainty was a form of manifestation at work, even if she did not realize she was intentionally directing these results at the time.
Heather shares a personal story about needing a new nanny after her previous one quit. At physical therapy, she confidently announced to the room that someone there must know an amazing nanny or babysitter and requested leads. With strong conviction that someone would have a solution, she was quickly approached by a college girl who provided a contact—the person who became the nicest nanny Heather had ever met. This instance, among others, illustrates how certainty and directed intention manifested positive results.
Heather also underscores the value of recognizing signs and synchronicities. She recounts a moment when her spin instructor revealed that several people had praised Heather’s podcast, which she regards as validation from the universe that she is on the right path. Such signs, she insists, are everywhere for those attuned to them, supporting the belief that high-frequency seekers receive confirmation they are aligned with their journeys.
Heather emphasizes the need to be acutely aware of the thoughts, feelings, and energy we bring into every situation. She notes that conscious observation and active management of one’s mental state directly influence what is attracted into one’s life.
Heather discusses the importance of mindfully tracking what one is thinking and feeling, recognizing how even subtle negativity can shape reality. She expresses regret over past periods where negativity—allowed to linger unexamined—consumed her energy and pulled more negativity into her life.
She stresses the importance of prioritizing oneself ...
Mindset, Energy, and Manifestation
Heather Monahan emphasizes that real success is built on personal effort and action, not on waiting for someone else to provide opportunities or shortcuts.
Heather describes receiving a direct message from a woman who wanted to become a keynote speaker. After sharing her struggles, the woman asked Heather for her speaking contacts to kickstart her business. Heather notes she often receives similar requests from people wanting to break into speaking, many of whom expect to be handed answers or contacts instead of conducting their own research and building expertise.
Heather recounts that she chose not to respond when the woman insisted on direct company contacts rather than pursuing Heather's suggestions for self-driven research. She stresses that it's not her responsibility to provide a blueprint or pause her own career to do the work that someone else should do for themselves.
Heather advises aspiring speakers to take actionable steps: identify and research competitors, visit their websites, document the organizations they speak for, and then proactively pitch themselves to those organizations as alternative speakers. She also recommends speaking for free at first to gather footage and testimonials, illustrating the necessity of building a track record through personal initiative.
Heather advocates for taking "messy action"—starting, even when the path isn’t fully clear. She explains that doing fosters learning, forges new relationships, and reveals opportunities that are impossible to predict from the sidelines.
After losing her job, Heather stepped into authorship without knowing if her book would succeed. Once she learned that speaking could help sell books, she leveraged her decades of experience in corporate speaking to enter the business. Highlights of her journey include interviewing Sarah Blakely live, landing a promoted TEDx talk, and seeing her speaking business flourish before the pandemic upended everything. Adaptively, Heather acted again, reading her DMs and discovering demand for coaching and consulting, which spurred her to launch those programs amid uncertainty.
Throughout her career transitions, Heather underscores that taking action naturally leads to making connections, discovering the most effective use of one's efforts, and forging a path pe ...
Taking Action and Personal Responsibility
Heather Monahan shares her journey of personal and professional transformation, highlighting how setbacks, uncertainty, and intuition can foster growth, purpose, and success. Her experiences illustrate how adversity can catalyze authentic self-discovery and open unforeseen opportunities.
Heather details her climb through corporate America, achieving C-suite status after 25 years in the media business and being named one of the most influential women in radio. Despite multiple promotions over 14 years at one company, she was suddenly fired—a shocking and painful betrayal. However, in hindsight, she recognizes this as the greatest gift she was ever given. That loss forced her to shift perspectives and led to opportunities she never would have pursued if she had stayed: writing books, starting a podcast, earning a board seat, and becoming a keynote speaker.
Losing her job prompted Heather to reassess her identity and career goals. What seemed devastating at the time became the catalyst for building an authentic personal brand, unmoored from corporate expectations.
Bound by an 18-month non-compete and non-solicit, Heather could neither return to her previous industry nor hire any former colleagues. She faced the prospect of starting over as a rookie. Instead of joining an unfamiliar corporate environment, she decided to "roll the dice" on herself. This leap required reinventing herself from scratch.
Heather acknowledges that the journey was far from painless. Growth demanded stepping into discomfort and repeatedly picking herself back up after setbacks. The transformative magic, she says, happened in those uncomfortable moments.
Heather’s story is marked by long stretches of uncertainty, indecision, and self-doubt. She describes toggling between going back to another corporate job or committing to building her own business. She lacked clarity and confidence at first but persisted and eventually listened to her intuition.
For eighteen months, Heather navigated a constant state of uncertainty, without the familiar structure of corporate life to guide her. She emphasizes the importance of pushing through that ambiguity and not giving up.
During her non-compete, she realized that by betting on herself—despite being a beginner and making mistakes—she could create unexpected value and meaning. She focused on "messy action," taking imperfect steps forward whether it was writing a book, launching a coaching program, or pivoting to new industries.
Heather didn’t have a grand epiphany; instead, she took action, asked for help, and watched as new doors opened. For example, posting about being fired landed her an invitation to the Elvis Duran show, where she was told she should write a book—even though she never considered it possible. She wrote "Confidence Creator" in five months not knowing whether anyone would buy it, only to see it beat Donald Trump’s biography for the number one spot in its category. Later, during the pandemic, s ...
Resilience and Growth Through Adversity
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