Confidence Classic: How to Make Hard Work Pay Off with Heather!
In this episode of Creating Confidence, Heather Monahan shares practical strategies for achieving success through hard work, persistence, and strategic thinking. She draws from her own experience of revising a book proposal fifteen times and facing multiple publisher rejections before finally securing a deal, illustrating that success often comes down to a numbers game where you only need one yes.
Monahan also explores how environmental changes and mindset shifts can create opportunities. She discusses the role of decluttering and feng shui principles in opening space for new possibilities, the power of affirmations and gratitude practices in attracting desired outcomes, and the importance of hiring mentors who have already achieved your goals. Throughout the episode, she emphasizes the value of authenticity—living according to your purpose rather than conforming to others' expectations—as essential to making a meaningful impact and attracting the right opportunities.
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Keys to Success: Hard Work, Persistence, and Strategy to Overcome Rejection
Heather Monahan shares that growing up poor taught her that hard work matters more than elite credentials. She emphasizes that success comes from outworking everyone else, not from being the smartest person in the room. Monahan urges others to commit to consistent effort, noting that "the general masses is general for a reason" and encouraging people to "try hard" because mediocrity is common. When you treat yourself like you're worth it through consistent effort and self-value, others will too—creating opportunities and confidence.
Monahan's path to a book deal demonstrates the power of persistence. She and her collaborator revised her proposal fifteen times over nearly a year before her agent finally said yes. When pitching to publishers during the pandemic, six companies rejected the proposal before seven accepted it. This experience reinforced that success is a numbers game where "you're always one ask, one person, one idea away" from a breakthrough—it only takes one yes.
Monahan also advocates studying people who have already accomplished your goals. By learning from their problem-solving and understanding partners' needs, you can position yourself as valuable and accelerate your own progress.
Manifesting Miracles: Feng Shui, Decluttering, Visualization, Gratitude Tools
Monahan describes how decluttering transformed her life. After giving away significant belongings while preparing to move, she immediately felt lighter and happier. Within two weeks, unexpected opportunities appeared, including an invitation to the Dr. Phil show—something she hadn't been pursuing. She connects this to feng shui, the ancient Chinese tradition emphasizing energy flow, which views decluttering as creating space for blessings and miracles to enter.
She suggests intentionally displaying images throughout your home as subconscious reminders of desires and goals. Rather than hanging photos of yourself alone, display images with loved ones to reinforce connection, and place photos symbolizing luxury and aspirational lifestyles to visually affirm abundance. This brings the vision board concept into daily life, keeping intentions constantly visible.
Monahan also recommends integrating real plants and water fountains into your home. She warns against fake plants, which stagnate energy, and notes that water fountains symbolize the steady flow of prosperity. The goal is creating an environment where every element reinforces the desired reality you're manifesting.
Hiring Mentors/Coaches Who Achieved Your Goals
Finding and hiring mentors who have already accomplished your goals can sharply accelerate progress while helping you avoid costly mistakes. For her first self-published book, Monahan hired an editor who had authored 19 books and enlisted Scribe Media for design and layout services. For her book proposal, she invested significantly to work with Peter Economy, a respected authority, trusting that hiring someone who had "been where she wanted to go" would pay off.
Monahan takes a strategic approach to finding mentors. She researched the top female nonfiction author at the time, Rachel Hollis, then identified and contacted Hollis's literary agent. Before reaching out, she considered what would make her a desirable client, positioning herself as noncompetitive and complementary to the agent's roster. She emphasizes that partners are more likely to collaborate if working with you is easy, helps them solve a problem, and generates revenue without extra workload.
Mindset Shift: Attracting Success With Affirmations, Gratitude, and "I Am" Statements
Monahan discusses the transformative power of shifting your mindset using gratitude, affirmations, and "I Am" statements. Instead of praying desperately—pleading with God or the universe—she suggests praying with gratitude, thanking for desires as if already fulfilled. For example, say "Thank you, God, for my new car" rather than "Please, I would like a new car." This approach aligns your energy with confident expectation.
She emphasizes that adopting an expectant and grateful mindset elevates your emotional vibration, attracting the reality you desire. Drawing on biblical wisdom that "the power of the tongue is stronger than that of the sword," she notes that spoken words and affirmations hold creative force.
Monahan urges using strong "I Am" statements: "I am healthy. I am blessed. I am highly favored. I am loved." She recounts how her own affirmations, paired with gratitude, resulted in unexpected brand deals materializing. She advises cultivating the belief that everything is set up for your success—that "everything is rigged in your favor"—and emphasizes that self-care activities elevate your vibration and influence what you attract.
Authenticity: Living Your Purpose Vs. Conforming
Monahan emphasizes the transformative power of authenticity, urging individuals to align with their true calling rather than conforming to external expectations. She advises living according to your life's purpose, not based on what parents, spouses, or anyone else expects. The more you step into your calling, she explains, the more miracles will appear in your life.
Monahan insists on being unapologetically yourself: "I don't wanna be vanilla, right? Like I don't wanna be like everybody else." To be a disruptor and make an impact, you must do things differently and speak your truth, even when unconventional. She acknowledges that standing out attracts criticism, but notes that critics actually amplify your message—when they engage with your posts, they help expand your reach.
She encourages everyone to raise their light higher, insisting that the world needs your uniqueness. By embracing your differences and being "category one of one," you inspire others and fulfill your purpose as a difference maker.
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Counterarguments
- While hard work is important, systemic barriers such as socioeconomic status, discrimination, and lack of access to resources can limit opportunities regardless of effort.
- Elite credentials can provide valuable networks, credibility, and access to opportunities that hard work alone may not secure.
- Outworking others does not always guarantee success; factors like timing, luck, and connections often play significant roles.
- Consistent effort and self-value may not always lead others to value you, especially in environments with bias or rigid hierarchies.
- Persistence is valuable, but repeated rejection can also indicate a need to reassess strategy or goals rather than simply continuing.
- Success is not always a numbers game; quality, timing, and fit can matter more than quantity of attempts.
- Studying successful people can be helpful, but their paths may not be replicable due to unique circumstances or privileges.
- Decluttering and feng shui may improve subjective well-being, but there is limited scientific evidence that these practices directly cause external opportunities or "miracles."
- Displaying images and aspirational symbols may reinforce goals, but there is no guarantee this will lead to material abundance or success.
- The benefits of real plants and water fountains are largely aesthetic or psychological; claims about energy flow and prosperity are not supported by empirical evidence.
- Hiring mentors and experienced professionals can be costly and is not accessible to everyone; success is possible without such investments.
- Strategic positioning may help in some industries, but not all collaborations or partnerships are influenced by perceived ease or noncompetitiveness.
- Mindset shifts, gratitude, and affirmations can improve motivation and outlook, but they do not replace practical action or address structural barriers.
- Praying with gratitude and using affirmations may enhance personal optimism, but there is no scientific consensus that these practices directly influence external outcomes.
- Living authentically and rejecting conformity can be empowering, but may also lead to social or professional risks, especially in unsupportive environments.
- Criticism and standing out can amplify a message, but can also result in negative consequences such as exclusion or reputational harm.
- Embracing uniqueness is valuable, but collaboration and compromise are also important for success and social harmony.
Actionables
- you can create a weekly “effort tracker” where you log hours spent on key tasks and note what you learned or improved, then review your log every Sunday to spot patterns and set a small challenge to outwork your previous week in one area
- (for example, if you spent 3 hours revising a project and got feedback, aim for 3.5 hours next week or try a new revision method; this builds persistence and helps you see progress independent of credentials or external validation)
- a practical way to reinforce your uniqueness and purpose is to write a short “difference statement” about what makes you one of a kind, then place it somewhere visible and read it aloud each morning before starting your day
- (for example, “I bring creative solutions by connecting ideas from different fields,” or “I inspire others by sharing my honest journey”; this daily reminder helps you stay authentic and confident, even when facing criticism)
- you can set up a “micro-declutter” routine by picking one small area (like a drawer or desktop) to clear each week, then intentionally add a single item that symbolizes a goal or value you want to attract
- (for example, after clearing your nightstand, place a small plant or a photo that represents abundance or connection; this combines decluttering with purposeful symbolism to invite positive energy and opportunity)
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Keys to Success: Hard Work, Persistence, and Strategy to Overcome Rejection
Outworking the Competition: Success Through Consistent Effort
Growing up poor, Heather Monahan learns that hard work is the most important driver of achievement, even more than elite credentials like a Harvard degree. She emphasizes that success doesn’t require being the smartest person in the room or having a prestigious background—it requires outworking everyone else. Monahan points out that mediocrity is common, and “the general masses is general for a reason.” She uses this as motivation, urging others to “try hard” and put in the extra effort because that’s how exceptional results happen. This effort extends to every aspect of life, from personal presentation to professional performance. For Monahan, showing up with intention and diligence is a core part of reaching one’s potential, and hard work remains a vital element of her success strategy, even as she adds new tactics. She encourages others to commit to a month of hard work, assuring them that it is “so worth it.” The belief is simple: when you start treating yourself like you’re worth it, others will too. Consistent effort, self-value, and showing up as your best self create opportunities and increase confidence—a “major underrated hack” for success.
Persistence Through Rejection and Reframing Failure Is Key to Success
Monahan’s journey to a book deal demonstrates the power of persistence. She and her collaborator revised her book proposal fifteen times over nearly a year. Each draft was met with reluctance or rejection, and Monahan admits there were moments she questioned if her agent was the right partner. However, it was on the fifteenth submission that her agent finally said yes. Persistence didn’t end there: when they began to pitch the book to publishers in the middle of a pandemic, six compan ...
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- Hard work alone does not guarantee success; systemic barriers such as discrimination, lack of access to resources, or socioeconomic status can limit opportunities regardless of effort.
- Elite credentials and intelligence can provide significant advantages in certain fields, such as access to influential networks or specialized knowledge.
- Outworking others may lead to burnout or negative impacts on mental and physical health, which can ultimately hinder long-term success.
- The emphasis on persistence through rejection may overlook the importance of strategic adaptation, knowing when to pivot, or recognizing when an endeavor is unlikely to succeed.
- Success is not always a numbers game; quality, timing, and unique value propositions can sometime ...
Actionables
- you can set a daily “effort audit” alarm to pause and rate your effort level in real time, then jot down one quick action to raise your effort for the rest of the day, helping you consistently outwork your own baseline rather than comparing yourself to others
- This keeps you focused on incremental improvement and makes hard work a habit, not just a goal. For example, if you rate your effort as a 6 out of 10 at 2pm, you might decide to finish a lingering task or tidy your workspace to boost your score.
- a practical way to build resilience is to keep a “rejection tally” in your notes app, aiming to collect a certain number of rejections each week, and reward yourself for hitting the target rather than for getting accepted
- This reframes rejection as progress and encourages you to persist. For instance, if you’re applying for jobs or pitching ideas, set a goal to receive five rejections per week and treat each one as a step closer to success.
- you can create a “reverse mentorship” list ...
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Manifesting Miracles: Feng Shui, Decluttering, Visualization, Gratitude Tools
Decluttering Opens Energetic Pathways For Miracles and Opportunities
Heather Monahan describes her powerful experience with decluttering. She shares that after giving away and throwing out a significant amount of belongings while preparing to move, she immediately felt lighter, happier, and more in love with her living space. Remarkably, within two weeks of decluttering her home, Heather received unexpected opportunities, including an invitation to appear on the Dr. Phil show—an opportunity she had not been actively pursuing. She notes that these miracles and opportunities appeared seemingly out of nowhere, unrelated to her ongoing work or plans, which reinforced for her the energetic potential unlocked by decluttering.
Heather connects this practice to feng shui, the ancient Chinese tradition emphasizing energy flow in the home. She highlights that feng shui views decluttering as a way to create space for blessings, abundance, and miracles to enter one's life. Her firsthand experience supports this, as clearing clutter opened her home—and her life—to new possibilities. Heather emphasizes that decluttering has no downside; the worst case scenario is simply ending up with a cleaner, more spacious, and organized home.
Live Your Vision Board: Surround Yourself With Visual Goal Reminders to Attract Desires
Heather suggests that intentionally displaying images throughout your home can act as daily, subconscious reminders of your desires and goals. She advises, for instance, against hanging photos of oneself alone, as this may send the message of solitude. Instead, she recommends displaying photos with loved ones to mentally reinforce the idea of being surrounded by love and connection.
Further, she advises placing images that symbolize luxury experiences and aspirational lifestyles—such as photos from expensive vacations—to visually affirm abundance and achievement. This approach brings the vision board concept to life within the home environment, keeping your intentions and goals constantly visible and activated.
Integrating real plants into the home is another recommendation. Heather warns against fake plants, stating that they stagnate energy and inhibit flow. Upon replacing her fake ...
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- There is no scientific evidence that decluttering directly causes miracles or unexpected opportunities; positive outcomes may be coincidental or due to increased motivation and clarity after organizing one’s space.
- The psychological benefits of decluttering, such as feeling lighter or happier, can be explained by reduced stress and increased control over one’s environment, rather than energetic or mystical pathways.
- Feng shui is a cultural tradition and belief system, not a scientifically validated method for attracting abundance or miracles.
- While decluttering generally has positive effects, it can be emotionally challenging for some individuals, especially those with attachment to possessions or hoarding tendencies.
- The idea that displaying certain images or décor can “manifest” specific outcomes lacks empirical support; visual reminders may help with goal focus, but do not guarantee results.
- The claim that fake plants stagnate energy is a matter of belief, not a universally accepted fact; some people may prefer artificial plant ...
Actionables
- You can set a recurring monthly reminder to swap out or rearrange a few items in your living space, like moving a chair, changing a photo, or rotating decorative objects, to keep energy and opportunities flowing and prevent stagnation. This simple shift signals openness to change and can make your environment feel fresh and inviting to new experiences.
- A practical way to reinforce your intentions is to create a small, dedicated “miracle shelf” or tray where you place one object that represents a current goal, a handwritten note of gratitude, and a natural element like a stone or flower; refresh these items as your goals or desires evolve. This visible, evolving spot acts as a daily touchpoint for your aspirations and keeps your focus aligned with what you want to attract.
- You can use a co ...
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Hiring Mentors/Coaches Who Achieved Your Goals
Finding and hiring mentors or coaches who have already accomplished what you aim to achieve can sharply accelerate your progress while helping you avoid costly missteps. Heather’s journey in publishing and business demonstrates the value of investing in those who have already blazed the path you wish to follow.
Hiring an Expert in Your Goal Accelerates Progress and Avoids Costly Mistakes
Heather shares that for her first self-published book, she prioritized investing in expertise. She hired an editor who had authored 19 books to guide her through the writing process. Not knowing how to handle the design, layout, or obtain an ISBN, she enlisted Scribe Media, a company specializing in these services for authors. This support filled Heather’s knowledge gaps and ensured she didn’t waste time or resources learning everything from scratch.
For her next step—crafting a compelling book proposal—Heather turned to Peter Economy, a well-respected authority in the field. She reached out and ultimately invested a significant sum to secure his expertise, trusting that working with someone who had “been where she wanted to go” would pay off. Heather emphasizes that repeatedly, in her journey, she has accelerated her results by finding and hiring the right mentors and experts.
Choosing a Mentor: Identify Success and Make Your Case
Heather takes a strategic approach to finding her mentors. She researched the top female nonfiction author at the time, Rachel Hollis, and then identified Hollis’s literary agent. Before reaching out, Heather put herself in the agent’s shoes to consider what might make her a desirable client. Recognizing that Hollis focused on Christian faith-based topics while Heather’s expertise lay in business, she positioned her proposal as noncompetitive and complementary to the agent’s current roster.
Heather highlights that agen ...
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- Hiring mentors or coaches who have already achieved your goals can be prohibitively expensive, making this strategy inaccessible for many people.
- Relying heavily on external experts may limit the development of self-reliance and problem-solving skills.
- Not all successful individuals are effective mentors or teachers; their expertise in achieving goals does not guarantee they can communicate or guide others effectively.
- The path that worked for one person may not be replicable due to differences in timing, resources, or personal circumstances.
- Overemphasis on hiring experts can discourage experimentation and learning from failure, which are valuable for long-term growth.
- Specialized services and top-tier guidance may not always yield better r ...
Actionables
- you can create a personal “gap map” by listing your goal, breaking it into steps, and identifying where you feel least confident, then use online forums or Q&A platforms to ask targeted questions to experienced people for each gap, so you get tailored advice without needing to hire anyone
- (for example, if you want to self-publish a book, list out steps like editing, cover design, ISBN, and ask specific questions in relevant online communities for each step you’re unsure about)
- a practical way to attract experienced collaborators is to draft a one-page summary of your project and include a section that highlights how your skills or resources can help solve a common problem for potential partners, then share this summary in professional groups or social media to invite interest
- (for example, if you’re writing a book and have marketing experience, mention how you can help promote your collaborator’s work in exchange for their guidance)
- you can build a “success path” docum ...
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Mindset Shift: Attracting Success With Affirmations, Gratitude, and "I Am" Statements
Heather Monahan discusses the transformative power of shifting your mindset to attract success and abundance using gratitude, affirmations, and "I Am" statements. She emphasizes the importance of embodying belief, expectation, and positive energy to draw in what you desire.
Gratitude Prayer Thanks God or the Universe For Desires as if Already Received, Not Begged For Desperately
Monahan explains that instead of praying out of desperation or neediness—pleading with God or the universe—one should pray with gratitude, thanking for desires as if they are already fulfilled. For example, instead of saying, "Oh God, please, I would like to have a new car in my life," you should pray, "Thank you, God, for my new car," even if you haven’t physically acquired it yet. This approach embodies the biblical principle of such confident expectation that you show gratitude before receiving, aligning your energy with the belief that what you want is already manifest.
Elevating Your Vibration to Gratitude and Expectation to Attract Manifestation
Monahan stresses that adopting an expectant and grateful mindset elevates your emotional vibration, which attracts the reality you desire. She highlights that expressing thanks for miracles in advance, saying things like "I'm so incredibly grateful and thankful I received them today and every day," signals to the universe or God that you are ready to receive, fostering a sense of abundance rather than lack.
The Tongue Is Powerful, So Use Affirmations and Gratitude to Create an Energetic Shift That Manifests in Reality
She draws on the biblical wisdom that “the power of the tongue is stronger than that of the sword," emphasizing that one's spoken words and affirmations hold a creative force. By repeatedly expressing gratitude and positive affirmation, you instigate an energetic shift within yourself that can lead to tangible changes and manifested desires in your life.
"I Am" Statements Rewire Self-Perception and Attract Aligning Circumstances
"I Am" statements are presented as a crucial tool for reshaping one's mentality and inviting desired circumstances.
Affirming Positive "I Am" Statements Transforms Your Energy and Attracts Matching Circumstances
Monahan urges the use of strong, affirmative "I Am" statements: “I am healthy. I am blessed. I am highly favored. I am loved.” She encourages saying these statements often and with conviction. She recounts experiences in which her own affirmations, paired with gratitude, resulted in unexpected brand deals and partnerships materializing in her life. By genuinely feeling and thinking as though these wishes have already manifested, she notices opportunities increasingly coming her way. This process, she insists, is accessible to everyone and a ...
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- There is limited scientific evidence supporting the claim that affirmations or "I Am" statements alone can directly attract external success or abundance.
- The concept of "manifesting" through positive thinking and gratitude may overlook the importance of practical action, skill development, and external circumstances in achieving goals.
- Attributing outcomes solely to mindset can unintentionally imply that people facing hardship or lack of success are at fault for not thinking positively enough, which can be dismissive of systemic barriers or personal challenges.
- The idea that expressing gratitude for unreceived desires guarantees their manifestation is not supported by empirical research and may lead to unrealistic expectations or disappointment.
- Focusing primarily on personal energy and vibration may detract from addressing real-world factors such as socioeconomic status, education, or access to resources.
- The belief that spoken words have creative power to shape reality is a ...
Actionables
- You can set a daily phone alarm labeled with a specific outcome you want to attract, so every time it goes off, you pause and imagine how it feels to have already received it, reinforcing belief and expectation throughout your day.
- A practical way to embody positive energy is to create a playlist of songs that make you feel empowered and listen to it while getting ready in the morning, using the music as a cue to stand tall, smile, and move with confidence as if your goals are already unfolding.
- You can keep a small token (like ...
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Authenticity: Living Your Purpose Vs. Conforming
Heather Monahan emphasizes the transformative power of authenticity and urges individuals to align with their true calling instead of conforming to external expectations.
Living By Your Higher Calling Aligns You With Miracles and Fulfillment
Live For Your Calling, Not Others' Expectations
Monahan advises that living according to your life's purpose means not basing your decisions on what your parents, spouse, or anyone else expects of you. Instead, she encourages aligning your life with what you are truly called and meant to do.
Aligning With Your Purpose Brings Miracles and Opportunities
She explains that the more you step into your true calling, the more miracles will begin to appear in your life. By making space for these opportunities, raising your expectations, and keeping your vibration high, you open yourself to a more fulfilling and unfolding life.
Being Unapologetically Yourself, Even if Unconventional, Is Necessary for Impact and Disruption
Disrupt and Stand Alone: Act and Speak Uniquely, Even Without Universal Approval
Monahan insists, “I don't wanna be vanilla, right? Like I don't wanna be like everybody else." To be a disruptor and make an impact in the world, you have to do things differently and speak your truth, even when it goes against the grain or what is considered conventional. Being uniquely yourself means accepting that not everyone will agree with you, and that’s perfectly fine—Monahan mentions her own son thinks she's crazy, but she's unfazed.
Criticism Means You Stand Out
She acknowledges that standing out attracts criticism, but this is a sign that you’re making an impression and refusing to blend in with the crowd.
Critics Amplify Your Message, Using Negative Energy As Fuel to Reach More People
Monahan references Jason Tardick, noting that even haters serve a purpose—when they engage with your posts, they help amplify your reach. Negative engagement on social media ca ...
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- The idea that everyone has a singular "true calling" may not resonate with people who find fulfillment in multiple roles or interests, or who do not believe in a predetermined life purpose.
- Prioritizing authenticity over external expectations can sometimes lead to conflict or harm in relationships, workplaces, or communities where compromise and cooperation are necessary.
- The claim that aligning with your purpose attracts "miracles" and opportunities may not account for systemic barriers, privilege, or circumstances beyond individual control.
- Constantly seeking to disrupt or stand out may not be suitable or desirable for everyone; some people find meaning and satisfaction in collaboration, tradition, or supporting roles.
- Not all criticism is a sign of positive impact; it can also indicate genuine flaws, harmful behavior, or the need for self-reflection and growth.
- The emphasis on individuality may overlook the value of community, shared values, and collective a ...
Actionables
- you can create a weekly “true calling” check-in by setting aside ten minutes every Sunday to write down one decision you made that week based on your own values rather than others’ expectations, then brainstorm one small action for the coming week that aligns even more closely with your personal purpose (for example, choosing a hobby you genuinely enjoy or expressing an opinion you usually keep quiet).
- a practical way to embrace criticism as fuel is to keep a “critique log” where you jot down any negative feedback or criticism you receive (online or offline), then next to each, write how you can use it to clarify or amplify your unique message or approach, treating each critique as a prompt to double down on what makes yo ...
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1-Page Summary- Keys to Success: Hard Work, Persistence, and Strategy to Overcome Rejection
- Manifesting Miracles: Feng Shui, Decluttering, Visualization, Gratitude Tools
- Hiring Mentors/Coaches Who Achieved Your Goals
- Mindset Shift: Attracting Success With Affirmations, Gratitude, and "I Am" Statements
- Authenticity: Living Your Purpose Vs. Conforming
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