PDF Summary:Outer Order, Inner Calm, by Gretchen Rubin

Do you feel overwhelmed by clutter and disorganization? In Outer Order, Inner Calm, Gretchen Rubin explores the profound connection between our external surroundings and our mental well-being. With practical advice and thoughtful insight, she guides readers in decluttering their spaces, curating their possessions, and establishing routines to maintain order.

Rubin demonstrates that physical organization extends far beyond mere aesthetics. By streamlining our environments, we create sanctuaries that foster productivity, reduce stress, and cultivate inner peace. With her empowering strategies, you'll gain a newfound sense of control and clarity, transforming your living and working spaces into havens that nurture your best self.

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• Is it necessary? This inquiry addresses practicality.

• Do I cherish it? This addresses emotional attachment.

• Do I use it? This inquires about real usefulness.

Necessary or Not?

Rubin points out that while a thing may not meet all three criteria, if it fails to meet any of them, it's likely clutter. Even something you cherish yet never use or something you need yet don’t cherish still takes up space and may contribute to feelings of overwhelm.

By consciously asking these questions about every possession, we push ourselves to confront the reasons we're keeping things and to reach more objective decisions about what truly deserves a place in our lives.

Other Perspectives

• Rubin's approach might encourage a disposable culture where items are too readily discarded, which could have negative environmental impacts.
• Items that are needed but not cherished might be essential for practical purposes, such as tools or equipment for home maintenance, which may not inspire joy but are necessary for daily living and should not be considered clutter.
• This approach may not account for items that are kept for future use, as a part of a collection, or for their potential to appreciate in value.

Identify Beneficiaries for Unneeded Items to Ease Letting Go

Donating unwanted possessions is a powerful way to reduce guilt and find purpose in decluttering.

Donating Belongings to Appreciative People or Organizations

Rubin recommends identifying specific people or organizations who might benefit from our unneeded belongings. Knowing that our discarded possessions will find a new life with someone who genuinely needs or appreciates them can make releasing them far simpler.

She suggests researching local charities that accept donations such as clothing, books, toys, furniture, electronics, or household goods. This process not only streamlines the act of removing possessions but also transforms decluttering into a positive act of giving.

Practical Tips

• Partner with local artists or craftsmakers to upcycle your items into new creations. Reach out to local artisans who can transform your old possessions into art or functional items, which can then be sold or donated. For example, an old wooden chair might be repurposed into a unique sculpture or a set of picture frames, giving it a new lease on life and making its release more meaningful.
• Volunteer for a 'charity liaison' role in your workplace or social club to coordinate donation drives, ensuring that the collective effort supports local charities effectively. You could organize themed donation months, like "Tech September" where everyone brings in old electronics, or "Warm Winter Gear" in November.

Curate Sentimental Mementos and Refrain From Saving Excessively

Sentimental items, while often holding deep emotional value, can rapidly clutter your living space.

Minimizing Mementos Prevents Clutter

Rubin acknowledges the importance of retaining meaningful belongings, although she cautions against keeping everything. She encourages a mindful approach to selecting mementos, picking some cherished items representative of a specific time period or relationship rather than keeping every associated object.

She suggests creative alternatives to keeping physical objects, such as capturing images of meaningful items before donating them or creating digital scrapbooks to preserve recollections without collecting physical clutter. This method enables us to honor the past without letting it overwhelm our current spaces.

Practical Tips

• Implement a "Memento Audit" every six months where you review your keepsakes and decide which ones to keep. During the audit, ask yourself specific questions about each item, such as "Does this bring me joy?" or "Have I looked at this in the last year?" If the answer is no, consider letting it go. This regular practice helps you keep your collection of mementos fresh and meaningful, ensuring that you're surrounded by items that truly matter to you.
• Host a storytelling dinner where guests bring an item of significance and share its story. Invite friends or family members to a meal where the entry 'fee' is a cherished object and the story behind it. As you dine, each person takes a turn to explain their item's significance, allowing everyone to celebrate and acknowledge the diverse tapestry of experiences that shape our lives. This can deepen relationships and provide a new appreciation for the personal histories that surround us.
• Create a digital scrapbook of your donated items to revisit memories without physical clutter. By using a simple photo editing app, you can arrange pictures of your donated items into a digital album, adding captions and dates to each image. This way, you can reminisce about the past and the stories behind each item without needing to keep them in your space.
• Create a virtual memory jar where you and your loved ones can contribute photos, notes, and videos throughout the year. Use a shared online document or app where everyone can post and view contributions. On special occasions, like anniversaries or the end of the year, go through the virtual jar together to relive and celebrate memories.
• Create a memory box for each significant period or event in your life. By selecting a few cherished items that represent different eras or important events, you can keep the essence of those memories without cluttering your living space. For example, for your college years, you might choose a graduation program, a favorite study mug, and a photograph of your closest friends, all stored in a decorative box that you can slide onto a bookshelf or store under your bed.

Establishing Structure and Order in Your Environment

Once the initial decluttering phase is complete, the following action is to intentionally establish and uphold order within our environments. This involves developing systems for organizing our things in ways that make sense to us, assigning distinct locations for each object, and developing habits that prevent clutter from reappearing.

"Fix" Disorder or Disregard to Develop Wholeness

Rubin emphasizes the importance of addressing areas of neglect or disrepair, as they can negatively impact our sense of well-being.

Eliminate Sticky, Moldy, Musty Areas to Remove Neglect

Rubin encourages us to identify and address spots in our living or working spaces that feel unpleasant or neglected. This might involve removing sticky spills, eliminating mold or mildew, organizing cluttered compartments, or simply giving forgotten spaces a thorough cleaning.

By taking care of these often overlooked areas, we foster a feeling of wholeness and renewal in our environment. Addressing small issues when they appear prevents them from becoming larger problems and contributes to a more enjoyable and satisfying living experience.

Practical Tips

• Implement a "spotlight day" once a month where you focus on rejuvenating one neglected area. Choose a day where you have some free time, select one spot from your diary that you've been ignoring, and dedicate a few hours to transforming it. This could involve deep cleaning, redecorating, or reorganizing. For instance, if you've been overlooking the space under your stairs, use this day to clean it out, add some lighting, and turn it into a reading nook or storage area with labeled bins.
• Use old credit cards or loyalty cards as scrapers for sticky spills. Keep a few in your cleaning caddy to avoid using knives or other sharp objects that could damage surfaces. These cards can effectively lift sticky substances without scratching countertops or tables.
• Schedule a bi-monthly "mold audit" where you check and clean your refrigerator seals, window sills, and other often-overlooked areas. Keeping a calendar reminder will help you maintain a routine, ensuring these spots stay dry and clean, thus reducing the chances of mold and mildew formation.
• Create a "forgotten space" checklist for your home to identify and prioritize areas that need attention. Start by walking through each room and noting down corners, closets, or surfaces that are often overlooked during regular cleaning. For example, the space behind your fridge, the tops of bookshelves, or the inside of your utility cabinet might be areas that haven't been cleaned in a while.
• Implement a 'digital sunset' by setting a specific time each evening when all electronic devices are turned off, promoting a sense of calm and wholeness before bedtime. This practice encourages a natural winding down of the day, allowing for activities like reading, meditation, or gentle stretching, which can enhance sleep quality and overall well-being.
• Create a "trouble log" in a notebook or digital app to jot down minor inconveniences or issues as they arise during your day. By keeping track of small problems, you can schedule a weekly review to address them before they escalate. For example, if you notice your desk chair is slightly uncomfortable, add it to the log and use your weekly review to research ergonomic solutions or schedule a repair.
• Develop a 'skill-swap' network with friends or neighbors to learn new hobbies without financial investment. Partner with people in your community to teach each other skills you each possess. For example, if you're good at cooking and a friend excels at gardening, you can exchange lessons. This not only broadens your skill set but also fosters a sense of community and shared learning.

Organize Items for Easy Access

Rubin advocates for organization systems that prioritize accessibility. She believes that if something is difficult to retrieve, we're less likely to use that item.

Locate Essential Items Precisely and Avoid "Miscellaneous Drawers"

Instead of relying on catch-all drawers for odds and ends or vague storage plans, Rubin suggests assigning specific places for frequently used items. She recommends designating precise locations for essentials like keys, important documents, frequently used tools, or everyday things such as scissors or tape.

This level of specificity ensures that all members of the household or workspace know the location of items and where to return them. It promotes efficiency and reduces the frustration of searching for missing items.

Practical Tips

• Create a weekly "reset" ritual where you spend 10 minutes ensuring everything is in its proper place. This can be a calming activity to start your week, ensuring that misplaced items are returned to their designated spots and giving you a fresh, organized start.
• Create an inventory list on your phone for items that are used infrequently but are critical when needed. Use a simple note-taking app to list items like seasonal decorations, special tools, or important documents, along with their specific storage locations. When you need to find these items, refer to the list to locate them without frustration.

Routinely Clean to Prevent Clutter

Rubin stresses the importance of establishing regular cleaning habits to prevent clutter from accumulating.

Tidy Up Immediately

Rubin advises immediately returning items to where they belong after use. Hanging up clothes, washing dishes, sorting your correspondence, and filing documents promptly prevents these tasks from piling up and becoming overwhelming.

She highlights the value of incorporating small acts of tidying in our daily routines. This "tidy as you go" approach prevents clutter from taking root and makes staying organized a less daunting task.

Practical Tips

• Implement a "borrowing log" for items that tend to wander, like tools or kitchen gadgets. Whenever you or someone else uses an item, jot it down in the log along with its designated spot. This accountability system ensures that everyone knows where an item should be returned after use.
• Create a designated "staging area" in your laundry room or near your closet: equip it with hangers, a small folding table, and a bin for items that need special care. As soon as clothes are dried, bring them to this area to sort, fold, and hang immediately. This setup makes the process efficient and less daunting, encouraging you to hang up clothes as part of your laundry routine.
• Challenge yourself to a "zero dish backlog" week where you commit to washing dishes immediately after use, no exceptions. Track your progress on a calendar or app and reward yourself with a small treat at the end of the week for maintaining the habit, reinforcing the behavior through positive reinforcement.
• Create a rule in your email software that automatically flags messages from key contacts or with specific keywords. This helps you to instantly recognize important correspondence that needs immediate attention, allowing you to sort and respond to these first before moving on to less critical emails.
• Set up a digital filing system with a mobile scanning app that allows you to immediately scan and file receipts and other documents on the go. By doing this, you ensure that even when you're away from your primary filing area, you can maintain your filing system.
• Turn your morning coffee ritual into a tidying trigger by wiping down the kitchen counter and organizing your coffee supplies as the water heats up. This pairs a daily habit with a small cleaning task, ensuring your kitchen stays neat without feeling like an extra chore.
• Turn tidying into a game by setting a timer for 10 minutes each day and see how much you can organize before it goes off. This makes the task feel like a challenge and can be surprisingly effective in keeping your space tidy without feeling overwhelmed.

Use Techniques Like Grouping Items and Using Trays/Baskets

Rubin offers specific techniques for establishing visual organization and managing smaller items.

Organization Methods for Visual Appeal and Easy Item Access

Rubin suggests using trays, containers, or dividers to corral smaller items and provide visual coherence. By grouping similar items together, we create order and simplify locating what we need.

She encourages us to experiment with different organization methods. Some people prefer to sort items by color, creating a more visually appealing display, while others prioritize functionality, grouping items based on their intended use.

Practical Tips

• Create a magnetic spice rack for your kitchen by attaching small magnets to the bottom of spice containers and placing them on a metal tray mounted to the wall or fridge. This keeps spices in sight and orderly, making cooking more efficient and enjoyable.
• Create a modular shelving system with adjustable compartments that can be resized according to the items you're grouping. This allows you to customize the space for different item sizes within the same category, ensuring that small items don't get lost among larger ones. For instance, in a shelf for office supplies, you can have a small compartment for paper clips and a larger one for notebooks.
• Create a "Mix & Match" binder for organizing paperwork where each section uses a different organizational method, such as alphabetical, thematic, color-coded, or chronological. This allows you to test which method you find most intuitive for retrieving documents. You might discover that you prefer color-coding for bills but chronological for medical records.
• When hosting a dinner party, plan your table setting and decor by selecting dishes, napkins, and centerpieces that follow a color scheme. This can elevate the dining experience for your guests by creating a cohesive and visually stimulating environment.

Understanding You and Others to Customize Your Strategy

Rubin emphasizes that there isn't a single "right" way to approach decluttering and organizing. She encourages readers to understand their own personalities, preferences, and habits to develop systems that work best for them.

Identify Your "Peeves" About Mess and Focus Accordingly

Rubin suggests that we pay attention to what kinds of mess bother us the most. Certain individuals might be particularly sensitive to a disorganized environment, while others might be more troubled by the functional challenges of misplaced items.

Clothing vs. Paper Clutter: What Bothers You More?

By identifying our "clutter peeves," we can prioritize our efforts. Concentrating on the places that cause us the most stress or discomfort can maximize our sense of satisfaction and accomplishment.

Practical Tips

• Use color-coded stickers to visually map out clutter hotspots in your home or workspace. Place a red sticker on areas that cause the most stress, a yellow sticker on moderate problem areas, and a green sticker on well-organized spots. This will help you visually prioritize decluttering efforts, starting with the red sticker areas.
• Implement a "Challenge of the Day" routine. Each morning, decide on one small but uncomfortable task you've been avoiding, such as making a difficult phone call or addressing a complex problem at work. By setting a daily goal to tackle discomfort, you'll gradually build a habit of facing challenges head-on and feeling a sense of achievement after completing them.

Practical or Spiritual Beliefs About Possessions

Rubin explores the various ways people relate to what they own. Some view objects purely practically, while others imbue them with sentimental or even spiritual significance.

It's Simpler to Release Non-Living Things Vs. Having Spirit

Understanding our views enables us to approach decluttering with greater ease. Those who take a pragmatic perspective might have an easier time discarding unused items, while those with a more sentimental attachment might benefit from rituals or strategies to aid their detachment.

Context

• Incorporating mindfulness can aid in becoming more aware of why we hold onto certain items, helping to release them with intention and gratitude.
• People with a pragmatic mindset may prioritize efficiency and simplicity, valuing space and order over sentimental value.
• Having support from friends or family during the decluttering process can provide encouragement and validation, making it easier to let go of sentimental items.

How Personality and Habits Impact Clutter Approach

Rubin's model of the four tendencies offers insight into how our personalities might influence our approach to establishing and keeping order.

Upholders, Questioners, Obligers, and Rebels Respond Differently

She suggests that Upholders, who readily meet both external and internal demands, might benefit from creating plans and task lists for decluttering. Questioners, who require understanding the rationale behind expectations, might benefit from focusing on the practical and emotional advantages of decluttering. Obligers, who excel at fulfilling others' expectations but have difficulty meeting their own, might benefit from creating external accountability systems. And Rebels, who resist both internal and external demands, might find success in framing decluttering as a personal choice aligned with their own desires.

Other Perspectives

• While Upholders may generally benefit from plans and task lists, some may find overly rigid structures counterproductive, leading to stress or a feeling of being overwhelmed.
• Some Questioners may require empirical evidence or data to be convinced of the benefits of decluttering, rather than just practical and emotional reasoning.
• Some Obligers may prefer to develop their internal motivation over time, rather than relying on external systems, as a means of personal growth and self-reliance.
• The strategy of aligning decluttering with a Rebel's desires assumes that they have a desire for the outcomes of decluttering, which may not be the case for all individuals who identify as Rebels.

Overbuyer vs. Underbuyer: Addressing Root Cause

Rubin observes that messiness often stems from overbuying or underbuying.

Overbuyer vs. Underbuyer: Addressing Root Cause

Overbuyers frequently struggle with an abundance of items they don't use, while underbuyers might live amidst broken or inadequate possessions due to their reluctance to purchase replacements. Recognizing these tendencies allows us to develop strategies to address the root cause of our clutter challenges.

Other Perspectives

• The term "struggle" is subjective; what one person sees as a struggle, another might see as a comfort or a sign of preparedness.
• Some underbuyers may choose to live minimally and could have few possessions that are all functional and adequate for their needs.
• Some individuals may not fit neatly into the categories of overbuyer or underbuyer, making the strategy less applicable to them.

Routines and Aesthetics to Sustain Organization

Once we've decluttered and organized our spaces, the crucial next step is to establish habits that will prevent clutter from retaking control. Rubin also emphasizes the importance of incorporating beauty into the environment to make these spaces both visually appealing and emotionally nurturing.

Establish Daily and Weekly Routines to Maintain Order

Rubin offers various recommendations for incorporating decluttering habits into our daily and weekly routines.

Strategy to Quickly Handle Small Tasks in a Minute or Less

She advocates for following the "Sixty-Second Rule," tackling any task that can be done in under a minute immediately. This includes actions like hanging outerwear, filing a document, or storing a stray item. By handling small tasks promptly, we prevent them from becoming larger, more daunting chores.

Other Perspectives

• The rule does not take into account the potential need for a break or rest; continuously addressing tasks without pause can lead to burnout.
• Hanging outerwear immediately might not always be practical if the space designated for outerwear is full or if the outerwear needs to air out after use.
• Some tasks, even if they appear to take less than a minute, can act as a gateway to unplanned and time-consuming activities, disrupting workflow and efficiency.

A Quick Routine for the Day's End

Rubin also suggests implementing a "Ten-Minute Closer" to conclude each day, both at home and at work. This involves a quick sweep of the areas around us to tidy up, put items where they belong, and prepare for tomorrow. This routine helps maintain feelings of organization and sets us up for a smoother, less stressful start to the following day.

Practical Tips

• Pair your "Ten-Minute Closer" with a physical routine to reinforce the habit. For instance, cleaning your desk, shutting down your computer, or making a cup of tea can be physical cues that it's time to reflect and plan for the next day.
• Implement a "one-touch" rule to keep surfaces clear and reduce clutter. When you use an item, make it a habit to put it back in its designated spot immediately after use, rather than setting it down on a counter or table. This strategy prevents the accumulation of clutter and makes quick sweeps much easier since there's less to tidy up.
• Create a "morning launchpad" area in your home where you place everything you need for the next day. This might include your keys, wallet, phone, and any work materials. Having a designated spot ensures you don't forget anything and can leave the house quickly and efficiently.
• You can create a visual organization board in your living space to keep track of routines. Use a large corkboard or whiteboard and divide it into sections for daily, weekly, and monthly tasks. For each task, pin or write a brief description, and use color-coded pins or markers to indicate the task's status: to-do, in progress, or completed. This visual representation can help you maintain a sense of order and accomplishment.

Foster a Visually Appealing and Harmonious Environment

Rubin suggests that aesthetics can contribute to both external organization and internal peace. By incorporating hues, textures, and arrangements we like, we create a setting that's emotionally nurturing and more welcoming.

Consistent Color Theme, Natural Elements, Whimsical Touches

She recommends techniques like selecting a standout color or pattern to provide visual cohesion, incorporating natural elements like plants or flowers, and introducing unexpected touches of playfulness or personality. By adding these personal touches, we transform our spaces from merely functional areas into self-expressions.

Practical Tips

• Enhance your digital presence by applying a unique color or pattern to your social media profiles. Use a consistent header image, profile picture frame, or post template that includes your selected visual element. This creates a recognizable online identity and can make your profile more memorable to others.
• Create a plant swap group with friends or neighbors to diversify the natural elements in your space without incurring much cost. By exchanging cuttings or plants you've grown too many of, you can introduce a variety of greenery into your home or office. This not only refreshes your environment but also builds a sense of community and shared interest in nature.
• Host a 'mystery lunch' with your colleagues where the restaurant or the menu isn't revealed until you arrive. This adds an element of surprise and excitement to routine team lunches, fostering a more relaxed and playful atmosphere that can improve team bonding and communication.
• Design a custom scent for your home using essential oils or scented candles that reflect your personality or evoke cherished memories. If you find peace in the forest, consider blending pine and cedarwood scents. This olfactory touch can make your space feel more uniquely yours and enhance your mood.

Spotlight Meaningful and Loved Possessions

Instead of letting treasured objects be buried in a sea of disorganization, Rubin encourages us to intentionally highlight the things that spark joy or meaning in our lives.

Hold Onto Things That Bring You Joy, Not Out of Obligation

She suggests keeping only belongings that "spark joy," a concept popularized by Marie Kondo. As we surround ourselves with possessions we genuinely love, we create a more positive and uplifting environment. This might involve prominently displaying a collection of beloved books, showcasing pictures of loved ones, or creating an area dedicated to a cherished hobby. By focusing on what brings us joy, we elevate our environment and improve our feelings of well-being.

Practical Tips

• Create a 'positivity playlist' with songs that have upbeat lyrics and melodies, and share it with friends or family. Listening to and sharing music that promotes good vibes can elevate your mood and spread cheer to others.
• Start a rotating showcase of your interests by selecting a prominent shelf or tabletop that you will dedicate to a different theme each month. For example, one month could be dedicated to your favorite books, another to family photos, and another to artifacts from your hobby. This keeps your living space dynamic and continuously reflects different facets of your personality and passions.
• Create a "joy inventory" by listing activities, people, and places that make you happy and schedule at least one into your daily routine. This strategy ensures that every day includes a moment that elevates your mood and environment. For example, if playing guitar brings you joy, set aside 20 minutes each day for practice.