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What does it take to change your life<\/a>? Why do people get stuck in their old patterns and struggle to change against their best interests?<\/p>\n\n\n\n

Change doesn’t happen overnight. People who think that they can overhaul their life quickly are so focused on hitting the next milestone that they fail to recognize smaller, slower progression. As a result, they feel discouraged even when making progress.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

Here’s why change is a journey, according to Michelle Obama. <\/p>\n\n\n\n\n\n\n\n

Michelle Obama: Change Is a Slow Process<\/strong><\/h2>\n\n\n\n

Many people believe change happens quickly and all at once, only requiring an initial burst of effort to set in motion\u2014much like sledding down a hill only requires a quick push before gravity takes over. However, change is a slow process involving gradual progress, making hard decisions<\/a>, and compromising. In other words, real change isn\u2019t as easy as sledding down a hill\u2014it\u2019s more like training to be a downhill skier, putting in years of hard work and practice before finally being able to safely and swiftly reach the bottom of the hill.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

In her book The Light We Carry<\/em>, Michelle Obama describes her own experiences with misunderstanding change as<\/strong> occurring in times of great stress,<\/strong> such as the Covid-19 pandemic. These experiences led her to create the strategies for understanding change and nurturing personhood we\u2019ll discuss in this section.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

Why People Misunderstand Change<\/strong>

We might misunderstand change because our brains simplify complex situations to make them easier to understand, according to The Art of Thinking Clearly<\/em><\/a> by Rolf Dobelli. Instead of recognizing a complex web of causes that create an end result, we tend to simply credit one<\/em> cause<\/a>. Thus, we may look at a significant change and credit it solely to some recent action. We then believe that said change happened quickly, when in reality, change is a journey and the result of years of effort.

For example, we might look at the Civil Rights Act of 1964\u2014which banned discrimination in employment and public accommodations\u2014and credit it solely to Martin Luther King Jr.\u2019s<\/a> speech \u201cI Have A Dream,\u201d which he gave the year before. In reality, this legislation was the result of years of protests and demonstrations. While King\u2019s speech was important and widely publicized, his speech likely wouldn\u2019t have caused such change if it weren\u2019t for the previous, less publicized efforts.

To overcome this misunderstanding of change, focus on seeing the whole web of influences<\/a> on an event or situation. Consider all possible causes for the situation and how you could interact with those causes to improve the situation. This requires a lot of logical thinking, which may explain why Obama struggled with misunderstanding change when stressed: Logical thinking occurs in the prefrontal cortex,<\/a> a part of the brain that helps with processing the stress produced by the amygdala, the emotional part of the brain. Obama may have struggled to think rationally because Covid-related stress<\/a> made it difficult for her prefrontal cortex<\/a> to quiet the fears raised by her amygdala.<\/td><\/tr><\/tbody><\/table><\/figure>\n\n\n\n

Misunderstanding Change Makes People Feel Unsuccessful<\/strong><\/h3>\n\n\n\n

People who believe that change happens quickly tend to focus solely on whether they\u2019ve met their overarching goals and are less likely to recognize smaller, slower progression. This means they feel unsuccessful even when making good progress, just because they haven\u2019t completely fulfilled their aspirations quickly. In addition, they don\u2019t realize how much time and energy reaching their larger goals requires, so they don\u2019t set reasonable sub-goals or pace their efforts. This means they quickly lose energy, exacerbating their feelings of incompetence.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

For instance, let\u2019s say Caleb\u2019s goal is to become a famous singer. He believes posting videos online of his singing<\/a> will help him get a record deal quickly. In the next months, Caleb builds a respectable online following. He doesn\u2019t see this as success, though, because he\u2019s focused solely on getting a record deal. Instead of feeling happy with his progress, he feels discouraged and like he\u2019s not good enough to meet his goals. Eventually, these feelings make him quit.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

(Shortform note: Obama says people who fixate on quickly meeting their overarching goals are less likely to feel successful because they don\u2019t recognize smaller progressions. In The 10X Rule<\/em><\/a>, Grant Cardone rejects the idea that recognizing smaller progression is important. <\/em>He says you must set extreme goals to feel successful because motivation is tied to how ambitious your goals are. Setting extreme goals results in extreme motivation, which lets people take \u201cmassive action\u201d and succeed in ways they couldn\u2019t if they focused on smaller progressions. Cardone says people who feel unsuccessful haven\u2019t set high enough goals<\/a>, and would likely tell Caleb to increase his motivation by focusing on winning a Grammy rather than getting a record deal.)<\/p>\n\n\n\n

Feeling unsuccessful can cause mental health issues, <\/strong>Obama says. If you don\u2019t <\/em>feel successful in your efforts to create change, you won\u2019t feel satisfied or confident. You\u2019ll doubt your abilities and efforts, which can lead to feelings of hopelessness and depression.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

(Shortform note: Feeling unsuccessful may cause mental health issues by specifically reducing dopamine production. Dopamine provides motivation and is part of the pleasure system. Scientists believe this hormone helps you remember times you\u2019ve felt pleasure<\/a> before and alerts you when you\u2019re in similar situations, encouraging you to repeat that experience and earn more pleasure. When you meet a goal, dopamine connects \u201cmeeting goals\u201d to the pleasure of success, increasing motivation. If you don\u2019t <\/em>succeed, that connection weakens. Over time, your brain stops producing dopamine when you try to meet your goals, leaving you unmotivated and unhappy.)<\/p>\n\n\n\n

Embrace Gradual Progress<\/strong><\/h3>\n\n\n\n

To nurture your personhood and avoid misunderstanding change, embrace gradual progress<\/strong>, Obama says. By doing so, you can recognize the steps you\u2019ve made toward your goals, increasing feelings of success. In addition, understanding how much you\u2019ve advanced helps you determine how to succeed further. (Shortform note: In The 12 Week Year<\/em><\/a>, Brian Moran agrees that embracing gradual progress and assessing how far you\u2019ve advanced toward your goals is important. He suggests doing so by reviewing your progress every week<\/a>. Regular reviews help you recognize any problems that may stop you from reaching your goals<\/a> and give you the chance to adjust your strategy going forward.)<\/p>\n\n\n\n

Embrace gradual progress by setting small, manageable goals.<\/strong> Obama stresses that these tasks should be easy to fulfill so you\u2019re almost guaranteed to succeed in meeting them and thus feel a sense of satisfaction and confidence. These goals can be as small as making your bed or attending a town meeting. Over time, these small steps compound to create large change. (Shortform note: Setting small goals strengthens your brain\u2019s connection between meeting goals and pleasure, as discussed previously. The stronger this connection, the more motivation you\u2019ll feel<\/a>, which makes it easier to graduate to larger goals.)<\/p>\n\n\n\n

Continuing our example, let\u2019s say Caleb sets the manageable goal of gaining five followers every week for one month, then 10 followers a week the next month, and so on. Meeting these goals makes him feel successful and confident, which encourages him to make more videos. In turn, making more videos helps him gain followers faster. After building up a large following, he starts playing live shows and reaching out to record companies. With the confidence and success from completing his smaller goals, Caleb reaches his larger goal and signs a record deal.<\/p>\n","protected":false},"excerpt":{"rendered":"

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