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Are you frustrated with how your life turned out? How do you accept reality<\/a> and move on?<\/p>\n\n\n\n

Many people would love to believe they can make life difficult by changing their fate, but there’s actually a better way to cope with your situation. In When Things Fall Apart, <\/em>Pema Ch\u00f6dr\u00f6n suggests accepting reality<\/a> for how it is because ultimately, there’s nothing any of us can do to change it.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

Continue reading to learn how to accept reality<\/a> and move on.<\/p>\n\n\n\n\n\n\n\n

Accept Reality as It Is<\/strong><\/h2>\n\n\n\n

Ch\u00f6dr\u00f6n\u2019s recommendation for coping more gracefully with difficulty is to learn how to accept reality and move on. When you stop resisting reality, you can relax and accept whatever is happening in your life and experience more peace, even if your circumstances are painful and stressful.\u00a0<\/p>\n\n\n\n

(Shortform note: Accepting reality as it is doesn\u2019t mean that you resign to or approve of the way things are. Like giving up hope, accepting reality may seem like a counterproductive approach to achieving peace if your reality is difficult, overwhelming, and unjust. However, many leaders in psychology assert that if you don\u2019t accept reality, you waste a lot of mental and emotional effort on resisting it<\/a>\u2014feeling angry and cheated, for example\u2014that could be used toward cultivating compassion<\/a> and making positive changes. A common saying in the mental health field is \u201cwhat you resist persists.\u201d<\/a>)<\/p>\n\n\n\n

Ch\u00f6dr\u00f6n says to accept reality, you must acknowledge the limited knowledge and control you have in life. In doing so, you can accept the present moment as it is without trying to predict or control the future. Our minds confidently develop inaccurate ideas about ourselves and reality all the time, and we tend to cling to our ideas, even when they\u2019re negative because they provide us with a sense of familiarity and security. However, this sense of security is false, as everything, including ourselves, is in a constant state of change. Ch\u00f6dr\u00f6n explains that when you accept how little you know about the present and future, you open more to the possibility that your challenging circumstances may have a positive outcome that you can\u2019t yet imagine.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

Develop a regular meditation<\/a> practice and practice mindfulness in your daily life to learn how to stop resisting reality and fighting with yourself and your circumstances. Every time you acknowledge your thoughts, let them go, and return your attention to your breath, you\u2019re strengthening your ability to compassionately accept yourself and reality. Ch\u00f6dr\u00f6n argues that there is nothing so big or overwhelming that mindfulness and compassion can\u2019t help.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

The Wisdom of Surrender in Spiritual and Mental Health Contexts<\/strong>

Another way that spiritual traditions and mental health programs talk about letting go of our ideas about the world and acknowledging the little control we have over our lives is in the practice of surrender<\/em>. 

In Hinduism, the term ishvara pranidhana<\/em> refers to the practice of letting go of the ego’s need for control and recognizing that there is a greater power at work in the universe<\/a>. It\u2019s a way of acknowledging and surrendering to divine will rather than trying to impose your own will on the world. Ishvara pranidhana is a powerful approach for cultivating acceptance, inner peace, and connection to the present moment and can be achieved through prayer, meditation, and yoga.

In a mental health context, 12-step programs like Alcoholics Anonymous (AA) often encourage surrender as a part of recovery. One of the first steps in AA states that you should surrender your will and life to the care of a higher power.<\/a> This step is seen as a key component of recovery from addiction, as it involves recognizing the limits of your control over your life and seeking guidance and support from something greater than you.<\/td><\/tr><\/tbody><\/table><\/figure>\n","protected":false},"excerpt":{"rendered":"

Are you frustrated with how your life turned out? How do you accept reality and move on? Many people would love to believe they can make life difficult by changing their fate, but there’s actually a better way to cope with your situation. In When Things Fall Apart, Pema Ch\u00f6dr\u00f6n suggests accepting reality for how it is because ultimately, there’s nothing any of us can do to change it. 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