{"id":9672,"date":"2020-06-28T11:06:00","date_gmt":"2020-06-28T15:06:00","guid":{"rendered":"https:\/\/www.shortform.com\/blog\/?p=9672"},"modified":"2020-06-28T19:43:21","modified_gmt":"2020-06-28T23:43:21","slug":"start-with-heart-crucial-conversations","status":"publish","type":"post","link":"https:\/\/www.shortform.com\/blog\/start-with-heart-crucial-conversations\/","title":{"rendered":"Start With Heart: How to Listen in Crucial Conversations"},"content":{"rendered":"\n<p>What does it mean to start with heart? How can starting with heart in crucial conversations make a difference? <\/p>\n\n\n\n<p>In crucial conversations, starting with heart can help you learn to open your mind and truly listen to another person. 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This is called &#8220;start with heart.&#8221; Here\u2019s how to do it.<\/p>\n\n\n\n<h3 class=\"wp-block-heading\"><strong>Start With Heart \u2014 Listen<\/strong><\/h3>\n\n\n\n<ul class=\"wp-block-list\"><li><strong><a href=\"https:\/\/www.shortform.com\/blog\/be-sincere\/\">Be sincere<\/a>: <\/strong>When you ask people to share what\u2019s on their minds, make sure you mean it and be prepared to listen. People instantly recognize insincerity.<\/li><li><strong>Be curious: <\/strong>When others express intense emotions, you should become curious. Wonder what\u2019s behind the emotion \u2014 getting to the source is the only way to get back to dialogue.<\/li><li><strong>Remain curious. <\/strong>When people begin to share their emotionally charged or unflattering stories, it\u2019s natural to start judging them. To avoid overreacting, maintain your curiosity. As yourself why a reasonable person would react this way. When you retrace the other person\u2019s path, you generally understand their conclusion.<\/li><li><strong>Be patient: <\/strong>After others have shared their feelings and opinions, give them time to wind down before moving on with the conversation. Adrenaline stays in the bloodstream and emotions take time to dissipate.<\/li><\/ul>\n\n\n\n<p>To start with heart in crucial conversations can be tough, especially when the other person doesn&#8217;t have the same approach. Stick to it, and make sure you keep hold of your stories and your intent. <\/p>\n\n\n\n<h2 class=\"wp-block-heading\">Start With Heart: <strong>Encourage Others to Rethink Their Path<\/strong><\/h2>\n\n\n\n<p>Others need help to retrace their path to action, but most of us fail to do this. <em>Crucial Conversations<\/em>&#8216; &#8220;start with heart&#8221; advice can help. <\/p>\n\n\n\n<p>We typically enter the conversation at the end of their path, when they\u2019re starting to act out their story (with silence or violence). Start where they are and help them work backward to the source \u2014 from feelings, to what they concluded, to what they observed.<\/p>\n\n\n\n<ul class=\"wp-block-list\"><li><strong>Break the cycle: <\/strong>The typical response to nonconstructive behavior is to match it. But you need to stop the cycle by stepping away from the interaction and making it safe for the other person to talk about their path to action. Help them to move away from intense feelings and reactions and return to the cause (the facts and story behind the emotion).&nbsp;<\/li><li><strong>Ask: When someone is upset, they have a story and facts to share<\/strong>. Be genuine and sincere in inviting them to share, regardless of their emotions. Listen in a way that makes it safe for them to share. They must believe they won\u2019t offend or suffer from speaking honestly.<\/li><\/ul>\n\n\n\n<h3 class=\"wp-block-heading\"><strong>How to Listen<\/strong><\/h3>\n\n\n\n<p>To encourage others to share, use four listening tools: Ask, mirror, paraphrase, prime (<a href=\"https:\/\/www.shortform.com\/blog\/crucial-conversations-ampp\/\">AMPP<\/a>). These are great tools to start with heart. <\/p>\n\n\n\n<h5 class=\"wp-block-heading\">A: Ask<\/h5>\n\n\n\n<p><strong>Ask to get things going: <\/strong>Often all it takes to break an impasse is to seek to understand others\u2019 views. When you show genuine interest, people feel less compelled to use silence\/violence. For example, use phrases like, \u201cWhat do you mean? I\u2019d like to hear your concerns.\u201d Other invitations include: \u201cWhat\u2019s going on?\u201d \u201cPlease let me know if you see it differently.\u201d \u201cDon\u2019t worry about hurting my feelings; I really want to hear your thoughts.\u201d<\/p>\n\n\n\n<h5 class=\"wp-block-heading\">M: Mirror<\/h5>\n\n\n\n<p><strong>Mirror to confirm feelings: <\/strong>Mirroring can help build more safety. It consists of playing the role of mirror by describing to the person how they look or act. We see their actions and reflect them back.<\/p>\n\n\n\n<p>Mirroring is most useful when the other person\u2019s tone\/gestures are inconsistent with their words.<\/p>\n\n\n\n<p>For example, they may say, \u201cDon\u2019t worry, I\u2019m fine,\u201d when clearly they\u2019re not fine. A mirroring response would be, \u201cReally? It doesn\u2019t sound like you are.\u201d Explain that while the person may be saying one thing, his <a href=\"https:\/\/www.shortform.com\/blog\/body-language-crucial-conversations\/\">body language<\/a> or tone belies it. For instance, \u201cYou look nervous about signing the contract. Are you sure you\u2019re OK with buying this car?\u201d<\/p>\n\n\n\n<p>With your tone, convey that you\u2019re OK with them feeling the way they\u2019re feeling; respond calmly rather than being upset. You can even convey your intent to start with heart in your tone. <\/p>\n\n\n\n<h5 class=\"wp-block-heading\">P: Paraphrase<\/h5>\n\n\n\n<p><strong>Paraphrase to acknowledge the story: <\/strong>When you get a clue for why the person is feeling the way they do, you can build additional safety by paraphrasing what you heard. Don\u2019t just parrot back what they say, but put the message in your own words in abbreviated form. For instance, \u201cLet\u2019s see if I\u2019ve got this right. You\u2019re upset because\u2026\u201d<\/p>\n\n\n\n<p>Don\u2019t react negatively. Stay focused on figuring out how a reasonable person could have concluded this. Rephrase in a way that suggests it\u2019s OK to speak, that you\u2019re trying to understand.<\/p>\n\n\n\n<h5 class=\"wp-block-heading\">P: Prime<\/h5>\n\n\n\n<p><strong>Prime when you\u2019re still stalled: <\/strong>When you believe another person still has something to share and might do so with further encouragement, you can try <a href=\"https:\/\/www.shortform.com\/blog\/priming-meaning\/\">priming<\/a> the conversation. Offer a guess at what the other person is thinking or feeling, and she may respond. For example, \u201cAre you thinking that the only reason we\u2019re doing this is to make money?\u201d<\/p>\n\n\n\n<p>In crucial conversations, starting with heart is important if you want to connect and work toward a solution. 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