{"id":95880,"date":"2023-03-15T11:50:00","date_gmt":"2023-03-15T15:50:00","guid":{"rendered":"https:\/\/www.shortform.com\/blog\/?p=95880"},"modified":"2023-03-20T13:52:12","modified_gmt":"2023-03-20T17:52:12","slug":"emotional-intelligence-in-relationships-2","status":"publish","type":"post","link":"https:\/\/www.shortform.com\/blog\/emotional-intelligence-in-relationships-2\/","title":{"rendered":"Why Emotional Intelligence Is Missing in Most Relationships"},"content":{"rendered":"\n<p>Why is there a lack of <a href=\"https:\/\/www.shortform.com\/blog\/emotional-intelligence-in-relationships\/\">emotional intelligence in relationships<\/a>? What is Romanticism and how does it affect relationships?<\/p>\n\n\n\n<p>According to <em>The School of Life<\/em>, emotional intelligence is missing in most modern relationships because we&#8217;ve developed an unhealthy view of love and marriage. The authors argue that, rather than focusing on emotional intelligence, most relationships focus on Romanticism, which is unrealistic and unhealthy.<\/p>\n\n\n\n<p>Read on to learn more about the <a href=\"https:\/\/www.shortform.com\/blog\/lack-emotional-intelligence\/\">lack of emotional intelligence<\/a> in relationships, according to the authors.<\/p>\n\n\n\n<!--more-->\n\n\n\n<h2 class=\"wp-block-heading\" id=\"h-the-lack-of-emotional-intelligence-in-relationships\">The Lack of Emotional Intelligence in Relationships<\/h2>\n\n\n\n<p>The authors of <em>The School of Life <\/em>argue that, because we\u2019re not taught <a href=\"https:\/\/www.shortform.com\/blog\/how-to-understand-anything-deeply\/\">how to understand<\/a> and cope with our feelings and the feelings of others, this leads us to <a href=\"https:\/\/www.shortform.com\/blog\/make-bad-choices\/\">make poor decisions<\/a> and to be miserable in life. However, by developing emotional intelligence across several realms of life, you can better <a href=\"https:\/\/www.shortform.com\/blog\/how-to-understand-yourself\/\">understand yourself<\/a> and feel more satisfied. Specifically, the authors describe the importance of overcoming a lack of emotional intelligence in relationships, arguing that today&#8217;s society has primed us to focus on Romanticism over <a href=\"https:\/\/www.shortform.com\/blog\/emotional-intimacy-in-a-relationship\/\">emotional intimacy<\/a>. <\/p>\n\n\n\n<p>In this article, we&#8217;ll explain why the authors claim that emotional intelligence is missing in most of today&#8217;s relationships.<\/p>\n\n\n\n<h3 class=\"wp-block-heading\" id=\"h-why-we-fail-to-develop-emotional-intimacy\">Why We Fail to Develop Emotional Intimacy<\/h3>\n\n\n\n<p>We often fail to <a href=\"https:\/\/www.shortform.com\/blog\/develop-emotional-intelligence\/\">develop emotional intelligence<\/a> in our relationships because our conception of love is almost completely defined by the 18th-century intellectual and artistic movement, Romanticism. Among other things, Romanticism proposes the following:<\/p>\n\n\n\n<ul class=\"wp-block-list\"><li>Marriage should be both emotionally and sexually fulfilling and also a practical living arrangement. It assumes after 30 years of marriage that you\u2019ll feel the same way about your partner as you did when you first met.<\/li><\/ul>\n\n\n\n<ul class=\"wp-block-list\"><li>You should marry for love and not for financial or other considerations; thinking about finances and other practical questions is inappropriate and unromantic.<\/li><\/ul>\n\n\n\n<ul class=\"wp-block-list\"><li>You should love and accept <em>every<\/em> aspect of your partner.<\/li><\/ul>\n\n\n\n<figure class=\"wp-block-table\"><table><tbody><tr><td><strong>An Alternative to Romanticism<\/strong><br><br>In <a href=\"https:\/\/shortform.com\/app\/book\/the-defining-decade\" target=\"_blank\" rel=\"noreferrer noopener\"><em>The Defining Decade<\/em><\/a><em>, <\/em>Meg Jay proposes a view of long-term relationships that\u2019s dramatically different from the above Romantic ideas. Her book is written for people in their 20s who face <a href=\"https:\/\/www.shortform.com\/blog\/important-decisions-in-life\/\">important decisions<\/a> like whom to date, live with, and settle down with. Jay\u2019s advice is therefore highly practical and based on research. Let\u2019s look at how her recommendations veer from Romantic philosophy.<br><br><a href=\"https:\/\/shortform.com\/app\/book\/the-defining-decade\/finding-love#people-stay-because-of-sunk-costs\" target=\"_blank\" rel=\"noreferrer noopener\"><strong>People often slip into marriage passively<\/strong><\/a><strong>: <\/strong>Jay argues that the Romantic belief in the infallibility of marriage is misguided. According to her, people often only get married because they feel they\u2019ve already invested so much time into the relationship that it would be a waste to back out\u2014not because they derive complete emotional and sexual fulfillment from the relationship. What\u2019s more, many couples don\u2019t understand how stressful marriage will really be, and often <a href=\"https:\/\/shortform.com\/app\/book\/the-defining-decade\/finding-love#people-dont-fully-understand-marriage\" target=\"_blank\" rel=\"noreferrer noopener\">the added pressures (kids, bills, and so on) change the relationship<\/a> or make it impossible to feel the same way about your spouse.&nbsp;<br><br><a href=\"https:\/\/shortform.com\/app\/book\/the-defining-decade\/finding-love#dont-date-down\" target=\"_blank\" rel=\"noreferrer noopener\"><strong>You shouldn\u2019t date people who are less mature than you:<\/strong><\/a><strong> <\/strong>Jay recommends not dating someone you believe you\u2019d have dated at an earlier stage of your life when you were less settled and mature. An extension of this idea is that, contrary to Romantic beliefs, it\u2019s OK to consider another person\u2019s career goals and financial maturity.&nbsp;<br><br><a href=\"https:\/\/shortform.com\/app\/book\/the-defining-decade\/finding-love#seek-a-similar-personality\" target=\"_blank\" rel=\"noreferrer noopener\"><strong>Actively seek out compatible personalities<\/strong><\/a><strong>: <\/strong>Jay advises you look for people who have personalities that mesh well with yours as a way to minimize the amount of life choices you disagree on. However, Jay doesn\u2019t say that you can ever find the <em>perfect <\/em>personality match or that you have to love every facet of your partner\u2019s personality. There will always be differences, and you have to learn how to resolve them, not pretend they\u2019re not there.&nbsp;&nbsp;<\/td><\/tr><\/tbody><\/table><\/figure>\n\n\n\n<p>The authors contend that Romanticism and the <a href=\"https:\/\/www.shortform.com\/blog\/impossible-expectations\/\">unrealistic expectations<\/a> it places on intimate relationships have made it difficult to have <a href=\"https:\/\/www.shortform.com\/blog\/building-healthy-relationships\/\">healthy relationships<\/a>. But when you know that your ideal of a successful romantic relationship is flawed, you can <a href=\"https:\/\/www.shortform.com\/blog\/self-forgiveness\/\">forgive yourself<\/a> for not meeting it and develop a more workable approach to romance by building your emotional intelligence.&nbsp;<\/p>\n\n\n\n<p>(Shortform note: Some feel that the influence of Romanticism has <em>declined<\/em> in contemporary society and that today, people are indeed taking a more practical approach to love. Polls show that only <a href=\"https:\/\/www.cnn.com\/2022\/06\/19\/health\/romance-love-decline-wellness\/index.html#:~:text=In%20spite%20of%20the%20rise,singles%20or%20fewer%20romantic%20gestures.\" target=\"_blank\" rel=\"noreferrer noopener\">44% of Millennials were married in 2019<\/a> compared to 62% of baby boomers when they were a similar age. Some believe this is because Millennials have higher standards for partners and would rather wait for someone with the right qualities. While this sounds as if it applies the attributes of emotional intelligence, such an approach to relationships could also be interpreted as Romantic. Thinking there\u2019s a near-perfect person out there for you and that you\u2019d rather wait for them than settle for someone decent could be seen as more Romantic than sensible.)<\/p>\n","protected":false},"excerpt":{"rendered":"<p>Why is there a lack of emotional intelligence in relationships? What is Romanticism and how does it affect relationships? 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