{"id":92204,"date":"2023-02-13T16:21:00","date_gmt":"2023-02-13T20:21:00","guid":{"rendered":"https:\/\/www.shortform.com\/blog\/?p=92204"},"modified":"2023-02-15T11:59:26","modified_gmt":"2023-02-15T15:59:26","slug":"feeling-like-a-failure","status":"publish","type":"post","link":"https:\/\/www.shortform.com\/blog\/feeling-like-a-failure\/","title":{"rendered":"Feeling Like a Failure? Here Are 4 Ways to Cope"},"content":{"rendered":"\n<p>Are you overly critical of yourself? Do you feel like you\u2019re not measuring up to your peers in some way?&nbsp;<\/p>\n\n\n\n<p>Everyone has moments when they\u2019re feeling like a failure in life. This sentiment is especially common in the modern day of social media and highlight reels. But criticizing yourself does nothing except demoralize you and diminish your <a href=\"https:\/\/www.shortform.com\/blog\/sense-of-self-worth\/\">sense of self-worth<\/a>.&nbsp;<\/p>\n\n\n\n<p>Below are some recommendations for coping with feelings of failure.<\/p>\n\n\n\n<!--more-->\n\n\n\n<h2 class=\"wp-block-heading\" id=\"h-1-stop-comparing-yourself-to-others\"><strong>1. Stop Comparing Yourself to Others<\/strong><\/h2>\n\n\n\n<p><a href=\"https:\/\/www.shortform.com\/blog\/self-comparison\/\">Comparing yourself to others<\/a> is pointless and often makes you feel that you\u2019re lacking in some way\u2014in reality, everyone\u2019s at a different point in life at different times based on our priorities, values, and other external factors that are out of our control.<\/p>\n\n\n\n<p>Consequently, another person\u2019s life position is irrelevant to you because you\u2019re a different person\u2014you have different values, a different family and upbringing, and different life circumstances. While they might be in their prime now, you might be on the rise and reaching your prime while they\u2019re on their decline.<\/p>\n\n\n\n<p>Many aspects of our society thrive by making us <a href=\"https:\/\/www.shortform.com\/blog\/comparing-ourselves-to-others\/\">compare ourselves to others<\/a> like social media and <a href=\"https:\/\/www.shortform.com\/blog\/how-to-create-a-successful-marketing-campaign\/\">marketing campaigns<\/a> for clothes, makeup, and other material goods\u2014if we don&#8217;t have this thing, this life, or look this way, then we aren\u2019t good enough. Mind coach Vex King (<a href=\"https:\/\/shortform.com\/app\/book\/good-vibes-good-life\" target=\"_blank\" rel=\"noreferrer noopener\"><em>Good Vibes, Good Life<\/em><\/a>) recommends <strong>distancing yourself from<\/strong> <strong>social media and other pressures if you&#8217;re falling trap to the self-comparison complex.<\/strong><\/p>\n\n\n\n<h2 class=\"wp-block-heading\" id=\"h-2-set-your-own-goals\"><strong>2. Set Your Own Goals<\/strong><\/h2>\n\n\n\n<p>In <a href=\"https:\/\/shortform.com\/app\/book\/12-rules-for-life\" target=\"_blank\" rel=\"noreferrer noopener\"><em>12 Rules for Life<\/em><\/a>, Jordan Peterson echoes King\u2019s idea that comparing yourself to others is pointless. But Peterson takes it further and explains that <strong>if you\u2019re feeling like a failure, you need to stop judging yourself by other people\u2019s yardsticks. Instead, you need to set your own. <\/strong>You need a total reworking of your goals, starting with understanding yourself as though you were a stranger. There are three steps to it:<\/p>\n\n\n\n<h3 class=\"wp-block-heading\" id=\"h-step-1-take-a-broader-view-of-your-existence-and-of-other-people\"><strong>Step 1: Take a broader view of your existence and of other people.<\/strong><\/h3>\n\n\n\n<p>You\u2019ve likely identified a single, arbitrary dimension as THE single most important thing to achieve\u2014like money, fame, or status\u2014and you\u2019re feeling like a failure because you don\u2019t have it. But as Peterson points out, your existence is <strong>multidimensional<\/strong>: You have a lot of components to your existence\u2014family, friends, personal projects, hobbies. So, you should <strong>judge your success across all the games you play.&nbsp;<\/strong><\/p>\n\n\n\n<p>Furthermore, there isn\u2019t a binary condition of \u201csuccess\u201d vs \u201cfailure.\u201d There are many gradations in between. <strong>What matters is whether you can get better, not whether you can achieve binary success.<\/strong><\/p>\n\n\n\n<p>Finally, you\u2019re likely only seeing the highlight reel from other people. They don\u2019t expose their deep problems and failings. <strong>You\u2019re likely overvaluing what you don\u2019t have and undervaluing what you do. <\/strong>Even the very people you envy might secretly envy you, in ways you\u2019re not aware.<\/p>\n\n\n\n<h3 class=\"wp-block-heading\" id=\"h-step-2-drill-deeply-into-your-discontent-and-understand-yourself\"><strong>Step 2: Drill deeply into your discontent and understand yourself.<\/strong><\/h3>\n\n\n\n<p>You\u2019re likely discontent about not having something (like money, a particular job, an achievement). Drill into your discontent and transform it. <strong>What do you want? <\/strong><strong><em>Why<\/em><\/strong><strong> do you feel this way?<\/strong><\/p>\n\n\n\n<p>As you question yourself, you may realize that there are multiple conflicting desires at play. List them all out, realize the conflict between them, then prioritize them into a list.<\/p>\n\n\n\n<p>Is the subject of your discontent within your control? If not, look somewhere else. Find something you can fix.<\/p>\n\n\n\n<h3 class=\"wp-block-heading\" id=\"h-step-3-transform-your-goal-into-something-achievable\"><strong>Step 3: Transform your goal into something achievable.&nbsp;<\/strong><\/h3>\n\n\n\n<p>You might have big goals, and that\u2019s good. But break it down to something tractable you can do today. Then you\u2019ll start building ever upwards.<strong>What one small thing can you start doing right now that will improve your life?<\/strong> Do that for a month, then three months, then three years, and now you\u2019re aiming for the stars.<\/p>\n\n\n\n<p class='book-template'>\r\nTITLE: 12 Rules for Life<br>\r\nAUTHOR: Jordan Peterson<br>\r\nTIME: 31<br>\r\nREADS: 78<br>\r\nIMG_URL: https:\/\/www.shortform.com\/blog\/wp-content\/uploads\/2019\/09\/12rules_cover.jpg<br>\r\nBOOK_SUMMARYURL: 12-rules-for-life-summary-jordan-peterson<br>\r\nAMZN_ID: B01FPGY5T0<br>\r\n<\/p>\n\n\n\n<h2 class=\"wp-block-heading\" id=\"h-3-celebrate-your-successes\"><strong>3. Celebrate Your Successes&nbsp;<\/strong><\/h2>\n\n\n\n<p>It\u2019s common to focus more on our failures than our successes. In fact, you may be doing very well in life, but you&#8217;re feeling like a failure because <em>you focus on failure<\/em>. According to Jack Canfield, the author of <a href=\"https:\/\/shortform.com\/app\/book\/the-success-principles\" target=\"_blank\" rel=\"noreferrer noopener\"><em>The Success Principles<\/em><\/a>, there are three main reasons we tend to focus on failure rather than success:&nbsp;<\/p>\n\n\n\n<ol class=\"wp-block-list\"><li><strong>As we grew up, our family and teachers emphasized our failures.<\/strong> For example, your parents may have reacted to a good grade by saying, \u201cNice work,\u201d but to a C or less by giving you a lecture. Or maybe your teachers marked wrong answers with a red pen rather than marking correct answers with a check mark. As adults, we may continue to emphasize our failures rather than our successes.<\/li><\/ol>\n\n\n\n<ol class=\"wp-block-list\" start=\"2\"><li><strong>We remember events associated with negative emotions better than those associated with positive ones. <\/strong>Failure produces strong negative emotions. As a result, many people think they have many fewer successes than they actually do because their memory emphasizes failures.<\/li><\/ol>\n\n\n\n<ol class=\"wp-block-list\" start=\"3\"><li><strong>We define success in a specific way. <\/strong>People tend to define success as an important life event, like graduating from college. But this definition undermines everyday successes like skipping dessert, doing laundry, or making an important phone call at work.<\/li><\/ol>\n\n\n\n<p>Because it&#8217;s more natural for us to dwell on our failures, we have to make a conscious effort to reorient our focus. Canfield recommends several activities to celebrate your successes:<\/p>\n\n\n\n<ol class=\"wp-block-list\"><li><strong>Identify nine major successes you\u2019ve had. <\/strong>Divide your life into three equally sized chunks. For example, if you\u2019re 30 years old, your chunks would be from 0 to 10, 11 to 20, and 21 to 30. Then, write three successes for each stage. For example, a success in the 0 to 10 group might be that you participated in your first piano recital.<\/li><li><strong>Write 100 ways you\u2019ve succeeded. <\/strong>People usually find it easy to come up with about 30, but identifying more can be difficult. To get to 100, include small successes. Examples include saving $50 to buy your first video game, learning to ride a bike, and starting a family.<\/li><li><strong>Surround yourself with symbols of your success. <\/strong>Create a victory wall where you display symbols of your accomplishments. These might include trophies, diplomas, or thank-you cards you\u2019ve received. You can also create a written record of your successes. Every time you succeed, log it in a notebook or on your computer. If you\u2019re preparing for something important and feel anxious, read your log.<\/li><li><strong>Recount your successes in front of the mirror every day. <\/strong>At the end of each day, stand in front of your mirror, look yourself in the eye, and recount your successes aloud. Work through your whole day, citing successes large and small. Finally, tell yourself, \u201cI love you.\u201d At first, you may experience adverse reactions such as anxiety, wanting to cry, or crying. These are normal reactions when you\u2019re not used to acknowledging yourself. They\u2019ll diminish after a few days. Commit to doing the exercise for three months; many people do it longer.<\/li><\/ol>\n\n\n\n<p class='book-template'>\nTITLE: <a href=\"https:\/\/www.shortform.com\/blog\/the-success-principles-by-jack-canfield\/\">The Success Principles<\/a><br>\nAUTHOR: Jack Canfield<br>\nTIME: 90<br>\nREADS: 118.1<br>\nIMG_URL: https:\/\/www.shortform.com\/blog\/wp-content\/uploads\/2020\/11\/the-success-principles-cover.png<br>\nBOOK_SUMMARYURL: the-success-principles-summary-jack-canfield<br>\nAMZN_ID: XYZ<br>\n<\/p>\n\n\n\n<h2 class=\"wp-block-heading\" id=\"h-4-challenge-negative-self-talk\"><strong>4. Challenge Negative Self-Talk<\/strong><\/h2>\n\n\n\n<p>If you constantly think about all the ways you&#8217;re falling short in life, you&#8217;ll view yourself as a failure. Consequently, a negative self-image will hamper your ability to perform successfully because you can only perform up to the level you believe you can.&nbsp;<\/p>\n\n\n\n<p><strong>To stop <a href=\"https:\/\/www.shortform.com\/blog\/stop-negative-self-talk\/\">negative self-talk<\/a>, first, recognize how you communicate with yourself.<\/strong> When you see negative thoughts about yourself for what they are, you can begin separating them from your self-image. As negative thoughts about yourself arise, stop them by setting a rule that you\u2019re not allowed to speak to yourself that way.&nbsp;<\/p>\n\n\n\n<p>Additionally, instead of focusing on the problems that might hinder your success, <strong>focus on the solutions you can use to improve things.<\/strong> When you center your thinking around problems, they become bigger in your mind, and you make decisions based on fear.&nbsp;<\/p>\n\n\n\n<p>For example, if there\u2019s something you don\u2019t understand at work, don\u2019t focus on thoughts like, \u201cI\u2019m not smart enough to do this,\u201d or \u201cI don\u2019t belong here.\u201d Instead, consider possible solutions, like finding resources you can use to research your question or thinking of people you can ask for help.&nbsp;<\/p>\n\n\n\n<h2 class=\"wp-block-heading\" id=\"h-final-words\"><strong>Final Words&nbsp;<\/strong><\/h2>\n\n\n\n<p>Many people struggle with feeling like they\u2019re falling short in life in some way. But this attitude\u2014whether it\u2019s true or not\u2014actually prevents you from succeeding. If you\u2019re feeling like a failure in life, the first step is to understand why you feel that way. Are you judging yourself against an unfairly harsh standard? Do you set unreasonably high expectations for yourself? Or perhaps you let negative thinking get the better of you? Whatever the reason, know that it&#8217;s within your power to transcend these feelings and feel proud of yourself\u2014it&#8217;s just a matter of reorienting your focus.<\/p>\n\n\n\n<p><em>If you enjoyed our article about feeling like a failure, check out the following suggestion for further reading:&nbsp;<\/em><\/p>\n\n\n\n<p><a href=\"https:\/\/shortform.com\/app\/book\/the-subtle-art-of-not-giving-a-f-ck\" target=\"_blank\" rel=\"noreferrer noopener\"><strong><em>The Subtle Art of Not Giving a F*ck<\/em><\/strong><\/a><\/p>\n\n\n\n<p>In <em>The Subtle Art of Not Giving a F*ck<\/em>, Mark Manson argues that you are frustrated in life and feeling like a failure because you value and prioritize the wrong things, thanks in part to society\u2019s emphasis on positive thinking, over-involved parents, and susceptibility to superficial social media messages. This leads us to pursue emotional highs that don\u2019t lead to <a href=\"https:\/\/www.shortform.com\/blog\/lasting-happiness\/\">lasting happiness<\/a>.<\/p>\n\n\n\n<p>The solutions are counterintuitive and include: be wrong, fail, tolerate feeling bad, accept pain, practice rejection. Because we can\u2019t care equally about everything, we need to prioritize and focus on what brings us happiness and meaning. In other words, we need to carefully choose what we give our f*cks about.<\/p>\n","protected":false},"excerpt":{"rendered":"<p>Are you overly critical of yourself? Do you feel like you\u2019re not measuring up to your peers in some way?&nbsp; Everyone has moments when they\u2019re feeling like a failure in life. This sentiment is especially common in the modern day of social media and highlight reels. 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