What are the tell-tale signs of a toxic person? What should you do if you\u2019ve become involved with someone who exhibits toxic behaviors?<\/p>\n\n\n\n
You’re going to encounter toxic people<\/a> in your life. With some of them, you\u2019ll even form close and intimate relationships. Sooner or later, however, their toxic traits will come up to the surface and may even negatively impact your life. <\/p>\n\n\n\n Keep reading to learn about the importance of letting go of toxic people and how to recognize toxic qualities. <\/p>\n\n\n\n\n\n\n\n If you hang out with toxic people who see the world through a negative lens, have ulterior motives, or try to bring you down (consciously or unconsciously), you\u2019re doing yourself a disservice. Toxic people are often unaware of the toxic effect they have on others: They\u2019re so consumed by their problems and insecurities that they don\u2019t realize all that negative energy is spilling onto others.\u00a0<\/p>\n\n\n\n If you want to be happy and successful in life, letting go of toxic people is the first step on this path. Take inventory of your friendships: Are your friends supportive of your personal growth<\/a>? Do they have goals of their own? Are they open-minded and committed to lifelong learning<\/a>? Are they genuinely happy for your success? If not, they\u2019ll drag you down, and you should limit or eliminate your time with them. <\/p>\n\n\n\n Perhaps the most common toxic type is someone who is extremely pessimistic and who spreads negative vibes.<\/strong> Vibes are contagious\u2014if the people you\u2019re with are thinking negatively and behaving in a toxic manner, their negativity will rub off on you. For example, if you hang out with someone who is constantly complaining, criticizing, gossiping, moping, and so on, you\u2019ll probably end up in a bad mood, even if you are a positive person. These people can be anyone from friends and coworkers to family and partners. So if you continue to be around these people, you\u2019ll be unable to maintain good vibes. However, letting go of toxic people isn\u2019t easy: It\u2019s heartbreaking to cut off someone you are close with from your life, but it may be necessary for your own well-being. <\/p>\n\n\n\n If you\u2019re honest with the other person and explain the toxic behaviors and their effect on you, they may be understanding and willing to change. Experts make a number of suggestions on how and how not to deal with toxic behavior<\/a>:<\/p>\n\n\n\n \nTITLE: Good Vibes, Good Life \u201cNegative Nancy\u201d may be the most common toxic type, but it\u2019s not the most dangerous one. In his book The<\/em> Laws of Human Nature<\/em><\/a>, Robert Greene describes the 10 most dangerous toxic types and how to deal with each (if no more specific directions are given on how to handle each type, you should avoid them altogether). <\/p>\n\n\n\n Type #1: Extreme perfectionists.<\/strong> At first, perfectionists appear hardworking and dedicated. If they yell at people for their performance, this can be excused because they care about doing a job right, which is admirable. <\/p>\n\n\n\n In reality, however, these traits stem from a desire for control. Perfectionists can\u2019t delegate or depend on others, and anything they lead is disorganized because they can\u2019t create a reporting structure, as everything has to go through them. While initially successful, they often later suffer from health problems and burnout. They eventually fail and blame others. <\/p>\n\n\n\n Greene recommends avoiding working for them.<\/em><\/p>\n\n\n\n Type #2: Exaggerated rebels. <\/strong>At first, rebels appear exciting, and they appeal to everyone\u2019s adolescent desire to be free<\/a> of authority. Their humor can be mean, which can be excused as authenticity. In reality, however, these traits come from a desire to feel superior. Likely, as children, their parents disappointed them and as a result, they can\u2019t stand authority or criticism. In the past, they probably ended relationships on bad terms.<\/p>\n\n\n\n Type #3: Oversensitives.<\/strong> At first, these people seem thoughtful and sensitive, and often considerate, intelligent, and slightly sad. In reality, however, they take everything personally. Their parents probably didn\u2019t give them enough attention and care, and they\u2019re constantly reminded of this when they encounter others. In the past, they probably ended many relationships, and they always think they were the victim. Eventually, they\u2019ll get touchy and brooding. <\/p>\n\n\n\n Avoid oversensitives because they hold grudges and seek revenge.<\/em><\/p>\n\n\n\n Type #4: Dramatics.<\/strong> At first, these people seem exciting, humorous, energetic, and fun. In reality, however, they\u2019re seeking attention. As children, they discovered that they had to exaggerate and dramatize their problems to maintain their parents\u2019 attention. In the past, they had confrontations in relationships, and they always acted like the victim. <\/p>\n\n\n\n Avoid getting enmeshed with dramatics. If you do get involved, it will be difficult to get out, because they\u2019ll make you feel guilty. <\/em><\/p>\n\n\n\n Type #5: Fountains of ideas.<\/strong> At first, these types appear to have good ideas and you\u2019ll be tempted to get on board and back their projects. In reality, however, these people never complete projects. They want power and attention, but they\u2019re scared to pursue their ideas because it takes effort, and they always give up. As children, they probably had disorganized parents and never want to be in a situation in which they\u2019re judged again. In the past, they probably haven\u2019t completed anything but will blame others for this. <\/p>\n\n\n\n Avoid getting involved with any of these type\u2019s work<\/em><\/p>\n\n\n\n Type #6: Free lovers.<\/strong> At first, these types seem unrepressed and capable of appropriately mixing professional and personal boundaries. In reality, however, they see all their relationships as sexual. As children, they were probably sexually abused, and sex becomes about validation. If they don\u2019t get enough validation, they can get depressed.<\/p>\n\n\n\n Type #7: Spoiled royalty. <\/strong>At first, these people seem regal, calm, and confident. In reality, however, they want to be pampered, and they\u2019re good at getting others to do it. You might find yourself doing them favors. As children, their parents probably spoiled them and protected them, and they may have acted helpless to get this treatment. If they don\u2019t get what they want, they behave childishly, such as by throwing a tantrum. <\/p>\n\n\n\n Type #8: People pleasers.<\/strong> At first, pleasers appear considerate, accommodating, and charming. In reality, however, this niceness is a defense mechanism. As children, their parents were probably harsh and they acted deferential and polite to avoid judgment or punishment. These types usually resent having to act this way and are often passive-aggressive and good at lying. They may secretly wish to hurt whoever\u2019s above them.<\/p>\n\n\n\n Type #9: Rescuers.<\/strong> At first, these people seem like godsends\u2014you have a problem and they want to help you. In reality, however, these types want to control you and tamp down your independence<\/a>. As children, they often had to take on a caregiving role. <\/p>\n\n\n\n Type #10: Moralizers.<\/strong> At first, these people seem eloquent and moral because they\u2019re angry at injustice. In reality, however, they have no sense of nuance. They\u2019re judgmental and everything is black and white. As children, they were sometimes punished for their desires, which resulted in repression. They secretly want whatever they speak out about against.<\/p>\n\n\n\n \nTITLE: The Laws Of Human Nature Letting go of toxic people isn\u2019t easy, especially when it\u2019s someone close or dear to you\u2014it can even be a family member! However, if their behavior doesn\u2019t change, you must eliminate or minimize communication with them as much as possible. <\/p>\n\n\n\n The first step to letting go of toxic people is to learn how to spot toxic qualities. Once you know what to watch out for, you\u2019ll attract less toxic people into your life because you can see them from miles away. <\/p>\n\n\n\n If you enjoyed our article about letting go of toxic people, check out the following suggestions for further reading: <\/em><\/p>\n\n\n\n Games People Play<\/em><\/strong><\/a><\/p>\n\n\n\n You probably know someone who regularly blows things out of proportion, or who insists on having the same argument over and over, or constantly tries to one-up other people. According to Dr. Eric Berne, a pioneering psychiatrist who broke away from the Freudian tradition, those are just two of the games that people play in work, love, sex, and friendship.<\/p>\n\n\n\n Games People Play<\/em> is Dr. Eric Berne\u2019s 1964 classic about the many ways that we habitually relate to one another through \u201cgames.\u201d These aren\u2019t fun, harmless social games, though\u2014they\u2019re subtle, largely unconscious patterns that harm us and our relationships. Berne explains how most of us don\u2019t even notice our games, and how we\u2019re missing out on the fulfillment of game-free living.<\/p>\n\n\n\n The 48 Laws of Power<\/em><\/strong><\/a><\/p>\n\n\n\nHow to Deal With Toxic Types<\/strong><\/h2>\n\n\n\n
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