{"id":88157,"date":"2022-12-20T21:03:00","date_gmt":"2022-12-21T01:03:00","guid":{"rendered":"https:\/\/www.shortform.com\/blog\/?p=88157"},"modified":"2023-01-03T10:30:55","modified_gmt":"2023-01-03T14:30:55","slug":"epictetus-control","status":"publish","type":"post","link":"https:\/\/www.shortform.com\/blog\/epictetus-control\/","title":{"rendered":"Epictetus: Control What You Can\u2014Especially Yourself"},"content":{"rendered":"\n<p>What&#8217;s in your control? What isn&#8217;t? How can understanding this help you make decisions and find peace in life?<\/p>\n\n\n\n<p>Stoicism teaches how to live a happy and <a href=\"https:\/\/www.shortform.com\/blog\/living-a-fulfilled-life\/\">fulfilling life<\/a> through thoughtful, rational action. According to the Stoic philosopher Epictetus, control is a major aspect of this. Specifically, you must control what you can and stop worrying about the rest.<\/p>\n\n\n\n<p>Continue reading to understand what this means and how it&#8217;s done.<\/p>\n\n\n\n<!--more-->\n\n\n\n<h2 class=\"wp-block-heading\" id=\"h-what-you-can-control-beliefs-desires-and-actions\">What You Can Control: Beliefs, Desires, and Actions<\/h2>\n\n\n\n<p>According to Epictetus, control is a central issue of the good life. To live well, it\u2019s important to understand what\u2019s in your control and what isn\u2019t; in other words, what you\u2019re able to make choices about. This will help you keep your peace of mind because things that you can\u2019t make decisions about aren\u2019t worth worrying about. You can\u2019t control them, and, therefore, your worry does you no good.<\/p>\n\n\n\n<p>(Shortform note: Epictetus says to stop worrying about things we can\u2019t control but doesn\u2019t offer any practical advice on how to do so. There are <a href=\"https:\/\/www.beyondblue.org.au\/the-facts\/anxiety\/treatments-for-anxiety\/anxiety-management-strategies\" target=\"_blank\" rel=\"noreferrer noopener\">simple exercises<\/a> you can do when you catch yourself worrying that will help you to relax and refocus. For example, you can concentrate on taking deep, slow breaths and consciously relaxing your muscles\u2014by physically calming your body, you\u2019ll find that your mind calms down as well. Another useful tip is to focus on the present, which will distract you from <a href=\"https:\/\/www.shortform.com\/blog\/how-to-stop-worrying-about-the-future\/\">worrying about the future<\/a>; you could do this by studying the room around you and identifying various things you can <a href=\"https:\/\/www.urmc.rochester.edu\/behavioral-health-partners\/bhp-blog\/april-2018\/5-4-3-2-1-coping-technique-for-anxiety.aspx\" target=\"_blank\" rel=\"noreferrer noopener\">see, smell, hear, and touch<\/a>.)<\/p>\n\n\n\n<p><strong>Epictetus believes that the only thing you can fully control is your own reasoning: your beliefs, your interpretations of events, and your desires.<\/strong><strong> <\/strong>He places particular emphasis on controlling your desires to maintain your peace of mind: If you don\u2019t get what you want to get then you\u2019ll be disappointed, and if you don\u2019t avoid what you want to avoid then you\u2019ll be unhappy.<strong>&nbsp;<\/strong><\/p>\n\n\n\n<p>(Shortform note: Again, Epictetus doesn\u2019t give any actionable advice on how to accomplish this goal of controlling what you want. In fact, modern psychology says that doing so <a href=\"https:\/\/www.psychologytoday.com\/intl\/blog\/just-little-anxious\/201205\/you-can-t-always-control-what-you-want\" target=\"_blank\" rel=\"noreferrer noopener\">may be impossible<\/a>; desires are driven by emotion, not reason, meaning you can\u2019t reason yourself out of them. All that you can truly control is your behavior\u2014what you choose to do (or not do) in response to your desires.)<\/p>\n\n\n\n<p>Furthermore, recalling his time as a slave (when someone else owned his body, but not his mind), Epictetus says that the only way to truly control <em>someone else<\/em> is to have control over the things that he or she wants.<strong> Therefore<\/strong><strong>, if you desire only things that are fully in your control\u2014such as a clear mind and strong reasoning skills\u2014then you will always be free;<\/strong> no one else can control those things. Therefore, no one else can truly be your master.<\/p>\n\n\n\n<p>To give a modern example, consider an employee working a job that he dislikes. As long as he wants the paycheck that the job provides, his superiors in the company can control what he does, because they control access to that paycheck\u2014they could fire him if they want to. However, if he gives up his fear of losing that paycheck, he\u2019ll be free to speak his mind and act as he sees fit\u2014he might even be able to create positive changes at that company and thereby make his job more enjoyable.&nbsp;<\/p>\n\n\n\n<figure class=\"wp-block-table\"><table><tbody><tr><td><strong>Control Versus Acceptance<\/strong><br><br>Epictetus says that true freedom comes from disregarding anything that\u2019s not in your control and thereby keeping control over your <a href=\"https:\/\/www.shortform.com\/blog\/thoughts-feelings-and-behaviors\/\">thoughts and feelings<\/a>. In <a href=\"https:\/\/shortform.com\/app\/book\/radical-acceptance\/1-page-summary\" target=\"_blank\" rel=\"noreferrer noopener\"><em>Radical Acceptance<\/em><\/a>, Tara Brach takes a different view: Brach doesn\u2019t think you can always control what you think or feel, but you <em>can <\/em>make sure your thoughts and feelings don\u2019t control you.<br><br>Brach\u2019s strategy is to <a href=\"https:\/\/shortform.com\/app\/book\/radical-acceptance\/1-page-summary#accepting-things-as-they-are\" target=\"_blank\" rel=\"noreferrer noopener\">accept everything that you experience<\/a>, no matter whether it\u2019s enjoyable or painful, internal or external. Brach\u2019s titular practice of <em>Radical Acceptance <\/em>has <a href=\"https:\/\/shortform.com\/app\/book\/radical-acceptance\/1-page-summary#two-aspects-of-radical-acceptance\" target=\"_blank\" rel=\"noreferrer noopener\">two parts<\/a>:<br><br><strong>1. Recognition.<\/strong> Before you can accept something, you have to recognize and understand it. For example, if you feel jittery, feel short of breath, and your heart is racing, you might be experiencing anxiety\u2014but you can\u2019t accept that experience until you\u2019re able to name it.&nbsp;<br><br><strong>2. Compassion. <\/strong>Once you understand what\u2019s happening, the next step is to treat yourself kindly: Give yourself permission to feel whatever you\u2019re feeling, without fighting it or trying to force yourself to feel something different. By simply accepting the experience for what it is, you\u2019ll allow that experience to wash over you and fade away. You won\u2019t feel compelled to <em>react<\/em>, which means that you\u2019ll be able to thoughtfully and productively <em>act <\/em>instead.<\/td><\/tr><\/tbody><\/table><\/figure>\n\n\n\n<h3 class=\"wp-block-heading\" id=\"h-you-re-always-in-control\"><br>You&#8217;re Always In Control<\/h3>\n\n\n\n<p>Along with your thoughts and beliefs, you also control your own actions. Remembering this will help you to live a <a href=\"https:\/\/www.shortform.com\/blog\/virtuous-life\/\">virtuous life<\/a> because you won\u2019t be tempted to blame your bad choices on other people or on outside events\u2014the only one who\u2019s <a href=\"https:\/\/www.shortform.com\/blog\/you-are-responsible-for-your-own-actions\/\">accountable for your actions<\/a> is yourself.<\/p>\n\n\n\n<p>This may seem to contradict Epictetus\u2019s earlier point about being a slave when he said that someone else controlled his body but he was still free because he controlled his mind.<strong> However, even in this extreme situation, Epictetus\u2019s actions were his own.<\/strong> He chose to obey his master because it was the most reasonable course of action; he <em>could <\/em>have chosen to disobey instead, but he decided that the consequences of doing so would be too severe and the benefits too small.&nbsp;<\/p>\n\n\n\n<p>(Shortform note: This lesson is really about <em>autonomy<\/em>: the ability to make your own decisions. <a href=\"https:\/\/shortform.com\/app\/book\/hooked\/chapter-4#autonomy\" target=\"_blank\" rel=\"noreferrer noopener\">People value autonomy<\/a>\u2014they become stressed, reactive, and contrarian when they feel like others are forcing choices on them. However, Epictetus teaches us that we <em>always <\/em>have autonomy, and remembering that will help stop you from making emotionally-driven decisions when others seem to encroach on your autonomy.)<\/p>\n\n\n\n<p>Epictetus adds that, before taking any action, you should take a moment to imagine its worst possible outcome. If you decide that the action is still worth doing in spite of that risk, then do it. If the outcome is better than you imagined, you\u2019ll be pleasantly surprised\u2014if it\u2019s as bad as you thought it would be, you\u2019ll still have no reason to complain, because you\u2019d already decided that the action was worth the risk.<\/p>\n\n\n\n<p>(Shortform note: In <a href=\"https:\/\/shortform.com\/app\/book\/how-to-stop-worrying-and-start-living\" target=\"_blank\" rel=\"noreferrer noopener\"><em>How to Stop Worrying and Start Living<\/em><\/a>, Dale Carnegie also suggests <a href=\"https:\/\/shortform.com\/app\/book\/how-to-stop-worrying-and-start-living\/part-2#analyzing-worry-in-an-emergency\" target=\"_blank\" rel=\"noreferrer noopener\">planning for the worst<\/a>. His reasoning is that, if you figure out the worst thing that could happen and make a plan to deal with it, then you won\u2019t need to worry anymore. Either things will work out better than you\u2019d planned, or you\u2019ll simply use the plan you came up with to deal with the worst outcome. In other words, both Epictetus and Carnegie say to <a href=\"https:\/\/www.shortform.com\/blog\/plan-for-the-worst-hope-for-the-best\/\">plan for the worst<\/a> so that you can act with confidence.)<\/p>\n","protected":false},"excerpt":{"rendered":"<p>What&#8217;s in your control? What isn&#8217;t? How can understanding this help you make decisions and find peace in life? Stoicism teaches how to live a happy and fulfilling life through thoughtful, rational action. According to the Stoic philosopher Epictetus, control is a major aspect of this. Specifically, you must control what you can and stop worrying about the rest. 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