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Do you want to know how to stop sabotaging yourself<\/a>? What skills do you need to overcome self-sabotage<\/a>?<\/p>\n\n\n\n

Everyone has the potential to become the person they want to be. What’s blocking you is the self-sabotaging narratives you tell yourself about what you can and cannot do. <\/p>\n\n\n\n

With this in mind, here’s how to stop sabotaging yourself<\/a> by reframing self-limiting narratives. <\/p>\n\n\n\n\n\n\n\n

Heal Yourself by Changing Unhealthy Narratives<\/strong><\/h2>\n\n\n\n

In his book Personality Isn’t Permanent<\/a>, <\/em>Hardy says you can change your unhealthy narratives <\/strong>so they don\u2019t block you from meeting your primary goal and becoming your optimal self. To do this, reshape your narratives to be in service of your future goal, choosing narratives that frame you in a positive light and as empowered.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

We\u2019ve synthesized Hardy\u2019s advice on how to stop sabotaging yourself by changing your general unhealthy narratives into four main strategies: identify with your future self<\/a>, focus on the positives, consider more of the context, and\u2014specifically for healing traumatic narratives\u2014share your trauma.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

1) Identify With Your Future Self<\/strong><\/h3>\n\n\n\n

Rather than thinking about yourself as the person who has your current limitations, think of yourself as the person who\u2019s going to overcome these limitations<\/strong>\u2014defining yourself based on who you will <\/em>be, not who you\u2019ve been<\/em>. For instance, instead of thinking of yourself as someone who\u2019s not confident and never has been, think of yourself as someone who will be confident in the near future. By identifying more with your future self than your current limitations, you see your limitations as temporary\u2014and therefore feel empowered to overcome them. As a result, you feel more deeply that you can change, and you have greater hope and motivation.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

(Shortform note: In addition to thinking about yourself in terms of your optimal self, the opposite\u2014thinking about an undesired future self\u2014is helpful too<\/a>. When you imagine a future where you\u2019ve failed to reach your primary goal, you\u2019re likely to feel discomfort and anxiety. You can use these uncomfortable emotions as fuel to meet your goals. Since you feel motivated to avoid feeling this way in the future, you\u2019ll feel more motivated to keep working toward your primary goal.)<\/p>\n\n\n\n

2) Focus on the Positives<\/strong><\/h3>\n\n\n\n

When an event happens to you that you wish hadn\u2019t, it\u2019s easy to tell yourself narratives that frame you as a disempowered victim of bad circumstances. But Hardy argues that no event is intrinsically good or bad\u2014they all have positive and negative aspects.<\/strong> <\/p>\n\n\n\n

By focusing on the positive<\/a> aspects of events, it becomes easier to accept them. This helps you feel motivated and empowered to keep working toward your goal when things happen that would usually make you feel unmotivated and disempowered. Telling yourself narratives that focus on being grateful for the positives in a situation helps you see the negative aspects as less important and helps you feel less victimized. <\/strong>As a result, you can more easily recover from a negative experience without losing momentum or hope. <\/p>\n\n\n\n

For example, if your car breaks down, your gut reaction might be to tell yourself the narrative that this is an awful event that will ruin your day and get in the way of working on your goal. Instead, tell yourself a more positive narrative. You might focus on the fact that you broke down in a convenient location, and tell yourself that this lucky fact means you can still have a good day and get your work done. <\/p>\n\n\n\n

In addition to making the best of a negative situation, you can also turn a negative situation into a positive one.<\/strong> With creative problem-solving, you can make events that would usually present obstacles to your goals into events that help <\/em>you meet your goals. To do this, find the opportunities the obstacle presents you with, and take advantage of them. For instance, maybe you\u2019ve been wanting to get more fit. Your car breaking down can be the perfect excuse to begin biking to work. <\/p>\n\n\n\n

3) Consider More of the Context<\/strong><\/h3>\n\n\n\n

According to Hardy, unhealthy narratives are often the result of failing to see the big picture<\/a><\/strong>\u2014noticing only the details of an event that support a negative view of yourself. By considering details that don\u2019t feed into your unhealthy narratives, you can change your narratives and break free from negative beliefs about yourself. <\/p>\n\n\n\n

For instance, imagine you get turned down for a date. It might feel natural to tell yourself that it\u2019s because you\u2019re unappealing, but this ignores tons of factors that could have contributed to getting rejected. Perhaps the person who rejected you was having a bad day and would be thrilled to meet you on a different day. And even if they weren\u2019t attracted to you, this doesn\u2019t mean that others won\u2019t be.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

(Shortform note: One phenomenon that contributes to developing unhealthy narratives thanks to seeing only some<\/em> of a situation\u2019s context is confirmation bias<\/a>. Confirmation bias<\/a> is a common cognitive bias<\/a> where people tend to seek out\u2014and therefore notice\u2014evidence to support what they already suspect is true.<\/strong> If you tend to think of yourself in negative terms, you’ll be more likely to notice details about events that support a negative interpretation of the event. The way to counteract confirmation bias is to adopt a \u201cfalsification bias<\/a>,\u201d trying to notice evidence that\u2019s contrary<\/em> to your suspicions. While it\u2019s not intuitive, it\u2019s highly effective for cutting through bias and is the fundamental strategy of scientific reasoning<\/a>.)<\/p>\n\n\n\n

4) Heal Trauma by Sharing It<\/strong><\/h3>\n\n\n\n

While all the techniques for healing general unhealthy narratives apply to trauma, Hardy states that healing trauma is often a little more complicated to heal. Since traumas are more deeply rooted in your emotions and subconscious than other, everyday unhealthy narratives, restructuring your narratives around trauma requires more than just challenging the way you think<\/strong>.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

Reframing and healing traumatic memories requires you to share and process these memories with a trusted, compassionate person. When you process your trauma with a safe person, you gain clarity about it and see it in new ways.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

Why Does Sharing Trauma With a Safe Person Help?<\/strong>

Besides gaining clarity about your trauma and seeing it in new ways, there are several more ways that sharing<\/em> trauma helps you heal.<\/a>

Not sharing your trauma reinforces the belief that the event is something to feel ashamed about. When you share your trauma, and the person accepts you without judgment, this undermines that belief, which leads to greater acceptance of the event and self-compassion<\/a>.

Additionally, telling the full story of your trauma out loud helps you put it all into perspective. <\/strong>Usually, traumatic memories are disorganized, with greater significance assigned to the aspects of the memory that support self-limiting narratives and beliefs. When you tell the full story out loud, you think of the event more chronologically. By organizing the memory, you see more of the context, including the aspects that undermine your self-limiting beliefs<\/a> about it. This helps you interpret the memory and develop new narratives that don\u2019t reinforce self-limiting beliefs.<\/td><\/tr><\/tbody><\/table><\/figure>\n","protected":false},"excerpt":{"rendered":"

Do you want to know how to stop sabotaging yourself? What skills do you need to overcome self-sabotage? Everyone has the potential to become the person they want to be. What’s blocking you is the self-sabotaging narratives you tell yourself about what you can and cannot do. 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