{"id":87299,"date":"2022-12-16T13:40:00","date_gmt":"2022-12-16T17:40:00","guid":{"rendered":"https:\/\/www.shortform.com\/blog\/?p=87299"},"modified":"2022-12-28T12:22:18","modified_gmt":"2022-12-28T16:22:18","slug":"how-to-fix-relationship-with-parents","status":"publish","type":"post","link":"https:\/\/www.shortform.com\/blog\/how-to-fix-relationship-with-parents\/","title":{"rendered":"How to Fix Relationships With Parents Who Are Neglectful"},"content":{"rendered":"\n

Do you have a bad relationship with your parents? How do you fix relationships with parents?<\/p>\n\n\n\n

If you have an emotionally immature parent, it can be tough to get along. Luckily, Adult Children of Emotionally Immature Parents<\/em> by Lindsey Gibson tells you how to fix relationships with parents who don’t have your best interest at heart.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

If you want a healthier relationship with your parents, keep reading.<\/p>\n\n\n\n\n\n\n\n

1. See Your Parent Objectively<\/h2>\n\n\n\n

Gibson argues that to learn how to fix relationships with parents, you must first see them objectively. This can be challenging because you may desperately want your parent to change, but the unfortunate reality is that most emotionally immature parents lack the tools necessary to have healthy, emotionally connected relationships with their children.<\/strong><\/p>\n\n\n\n

Coming to grips with this realization, though painful, enables you to interact with your parent based on the reality of who they are<\/em> rather than who you wish them to be<\/em>\u2014better preparing you to manage their limitations when you interact with them. (Shortform note: Experts offer more detailed suggestions than Gibson on how to decide whether to create space between you and your parent<\/a>. They recommend that you seek out emotional support such as therapy to help make the decision, consider whether you can reasonably maintain the relationship with your parent while preserving your mental health and well-being, and ask yourself if you\u2019re acting from a place of self-care, not spite.)<\/p>\n\n\n\n

2. Reframe your Relationship<\/h2>\n\n\n\n

Gibson says that once you understand that your emotionally immature parent likely won\u2019t change, your goal must shift from trying to forge an emotional connection <\/strong>with<\/em><\/strong> them, to finding ways to interact with them that aren\u2019t emotionally damaging<\/strong>. Three strategies can help you manage and create emotional distance from your parent each time you engage with them:<\/p>\n\n\n\n

Strategy 1: Enter each interaction with a clear goal<\/strong>. Setting a goal from the outset helps you take control of the interaction and redefine boundaries with your parent. For example, your goal might be to tell your parent that you can only talk on the phone for five minutes because you\u2019re busy, or that you\u2019ll only spend one night with them over the holidays instead of two. <\/p>\n\n\n\n

Strategy 2: Focus on speaking your piece clearly and unemotionally<\/strong>. Expressing what you want rather than focusing on your parent\u2019s reaction to you helps honor your authentic needs and feelings. This makes you less likely to be disappointed in their behavior and a step closer to building healthy relationships<\/a> with others.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

Strategy 3: Observe and manage each interaction like an outsider looking in<\/strong>. Observing your interaction with your parent from an emotionally detached place will make you feel less like a powerless participant trapped in an unhealthy relationship. For example, think of yourself as a researcher studying a subject. Silently note, in your head, how your parent\u2019s tone of voice changes, how long they talk to you, and how you\u2019d describe what they say to another person.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

Potential Outcomes of Your Efforts<\/h3>\n\n\n\n

Gibson says that in some cases, creating new boundaries with your emotionally underdeveloped parent can relax them and decrease the toxicity of your interactions<\/strong>. This is because when you accept their limitations and they don\u2019t feel that you\u2019re asking them to change, they may be less emotionally triggered and reactive. In most cases, however, your parents will show displeasure or protest<\/strong>. If your parent is unhappy with your attempts to heal and move forward in a healthier way, remind yourself that your actions are legitimate and necessary. <\/p>\n\n\n\n

Gibson says that at this point, you may decide that your parent does more damage than good in your life. If you conclude that you don\u2019t want to regularly spend time with your parent, you can pull back from or discontinue contact with them completely. This can be a challenging decision, but taking an extended or permanent break from your parent can give you space to heal, connect more deeply with your authentic self, and move forward in a healthier way. <\/p>\n\n\n\n

3. Identify and Develop Connections with Emotionally Healthy People<\/strong><\/h2>\n\n\n\n

Now that you have the emotional tools to redefine your view of and relationship with your parents, we\u2019ll discuss how to identify and build relationships with emotionally healthy people.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

Gibson says that adult children of emotionally underdeveloped parents often end up in a cyclical pattern of relationship dysfunction because they gravitate to people whose behavior replicates the emotionally unhealthy family dynamics<\/a> they grew up with. To break out of this cycle, you have to make conscious decisions about incorporating emotionally healthy people into your life. <\/p>\n\n\n\n

Gibson says that emotionally healthy people share two common characteristics:<\/p>\n\n\n\n

  1. They\u2019re invested in your well being<\/strong>. They care about, respect, and validate your feelings, individuality, and boundaries, and look out for your best interests. <\/li>
  2. Their behavior reflects a high level of emotional intelligence<\/strong>. They\u2019re reliable, consistent, and truthful; they\u2019re self-reflective and interested in growth and change; they acknowledge and address problems directly and can apologize when wrong.<\/li><\/ol>\n\n\n\n

    The more of these qualities a person has, the more likely they\u2019re capable of forming healthy emotional connections with others.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

    Gibson says that bringing emotionally connected people into your world isn\u2019t a one-way street: equally as important is engaging with them in emotionally healthy ways. To do this, always strive to be your authentic self<\/a>, clearly communicate your true needs, interests and desires, ask for help when you need it, and stay connected with people who support and validate you. <\/p>\n","protected":false},"excerpt":{"rendered":"

    Do you have a bad relationship with your parents? How do you fix relationships with parents? If you have an emotionally immature parent, it can be tough to get along. Luckily, Adult Children of Emotionally Immature Parents by Lindsey Gibson tells you how to fix relationships with parents who don’t have your best interest at heart. 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