{"id":87293,"date":"2022-12-14T13:21:00","date_gmt":"2022-12-14T17:21:00","guid":{"rendered":"https:\/\/www.shortform.com\/blog\/?p=87293"},"modified":"2022-12-28T12:15:23","modified_gmt":"2022-12-28T16:15:23","slug":"how-to-maintain-healthy-relationship","status":"publish","type":"post","link":"https:\/\/www.shortform.com\/blog\/how-to-maintain-healthy-relationship\/","title":{"rendered":"How to Maintain Healthy Relationships & Not Be Your Parents"},"content":{"rendered":"\n

What is the key to maintaining a healthy relationship<\/a>? How does your childhood affect your adult relationships?<\/p>\n\n\n\n

In Adult Children of Emotionally Immature Parents<\/em>, Lindsey Gibson proclaims that childhood emotional neglect can have a negative effect on your relationships in adulthood. This is because victims might be attracted to people who feel familiar.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

Take a look at how to maintain healthy relationships<\/a> to break the cycle.<\/p>\n\n\n\n\n\n\n\n

Emotional Neglect Survivors Repeat the Cycle of Unhealthy Relationships<\/strong><\/h2>\n\n\n\n

Before getting into how to maintain healthy relationships<\/a>, we have to look at the cycle of emotionally neglectful relationships. Gibson asserts that children who grew up shutting down their feelings often end in emotionally disconnected relationships, because the dynamics feel familiar and there\u2019s comfort in familiarity. <\/p>\n\n\n\n

(Shortform note: An alternate explanation for why emotional neglect survivors repeat unhealthy relationship patterns<\/a> is \u201crepetition neurosis<\/a>,\u201d a phenomenon where adults try to reverse<\/em> a familiar parental relationship dynamic to try to achieve a better outcome. For example, if your parent was frequently angry, you might choose a partner who\u2019s often angry, and try to get them to be kinder and more gentle with you\u2014only to discover that they can\u2019t change.)<\/p>\n\n\n\n

Adult children of immature parents may have a looming feeling that something in their relationship is \u201cnot quite right,\u201d but accept that feeling as \u201cnormal\u201d because they\u2019re accustomed to feeling empty, lonely, or ill at ease from living with an emotionally disengaged parent. They may also dismiss the feeling because they grew up overriding their emotions in service to their parents\u2019 needs. Because they can\u2019t connect with or trust their own feelings, they may look to others to tell them how they feel. <\/p>\n\n\n\n

(Shortform note: Gibson doesn\u2019t explicitly say how emotional neglect survivors can learn to trust themselves, but experts say that building trust in yourself is a learning process<\/a>. It begins with paying attention<\/a> to moments in your relationships when you feel angry, ashamed, guilty, or hurt. These are signals that the other person in the relationship may have crossed your boundaries either verbally or through manipulation.)<\/p>\n\n\n\n

Identify and Develop Connections with Emotionally Healthy People<\/strong><\/h3>\n\n\n\n

Gibson says that adult children of emotionally underdeveloped parents often end up in a cyclical pattern of relationship dysfunction because they gravitate to people whose behavior replicates the emotionally unhealthy family dynamics<\/a> they grew up with. To break out of this cycle, you have to make conscious decisions about incorporating emotionally healthy people into your life. <\/p>\n\n\n\n

(Shortform note: Experts agree with Gibson that it\u2019s important to make conscious decisions about bringing healthy people into your life, but they also argue that it can be helpful to spend some time on your own before diving into new relationships<\/a>. Taking time to be by yourself can help you learn more about your true feelings, needs, and interests, putting you at a healthier starting point to begin new relationships.)<\/p>\n\n\n\n

Gibson says that emotionally healthy people share two common characteristics:<\/p>\n\n\n\n

  1. They\u2019re invested in your well-being<\/strong>. They care about, respect, and validate your feelings, individuality, and boundaries, and look out for your best interests.\u00a0<\/li>
  2. Their behavior reflects a high level of emotional intelligence<\/strong>. They\u2019re reliable, consistent, and truthful; they\u2019re self-reflective and interested in growth and change; they acknowledge and address problems directly and can apologize when wrong.<\/li><\/ol>\n\n\n\n

    The more of these qualities a person has, the more likely they\u2019re capable of forming healthy emotional connections with others.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

    (Shortform note: In addition to the characteristics Gibson says are common in emotionally healthy people, psychologists say that emotionally healthy people generally like who they are, have a sense of meaning or purpose, and feel content with the life they\u2019re living<\/a>.) <\/p>\n\n\n\n

    Gibson says that bringing emotionally connected people into your world isn\u2019t a one-way street: equally as important is engaging with them in emotionally healthy ways. To do this, always strive to be your authentic self<\/a>, clearly communicate your true needs, interests and desires, ask for help when you need it, and stay connected with people who support and validate you. <\/p>\n\n\n\n

    (Shortform note: Research supports Gibson\u2019s argument that it\u2019s important to bring your emotionally healthiest, truest self to the table when incorporating new people in your life: Authenticity is connected to greater feelings of security, higher levels of satisfaction, and better outcomes in romantic partnerships<\/a>. This is because when you\u2019re valued for who you truly are<\/a>, you\u2019re able to relax and be yourself.)<\/p>\n","protected":false},"excerpt":{"rendered":"

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