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Do you prefer meeting people on dating apps or in the real world? What’s the best way to meet people to date? <\/p>\n\n\n\n

There’s no right or wrong way to meet people to date. It’s all about what works for you. Online and offline dating<\/a> are both great options to meet potential partners, but they have slightly different dynamics.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

Here are a few tips on how to meet people to date\u2014both offline and online.<\/p>\n\n\n\n\n\n\n\n

How to Meet People Offline<\/strong><\/h2>\n\n\n\n

In her book How to Not Die Alone<\/em>, dating coach Logan Ury explains how to meet people to date in the real world. To that end, she recommends two strategies. First, go to events<\/strong>. Optimize your chances of meeting someone great by attending events<\/strong> that facilitate connections <\/strong>and<\/em> that you\u2019ll likely enjoy: You\u2019ll have a good time even if you don\u2019t meet any potential partners. Consider local meetups, volunteering, or athletic leagues. <\/p>\n\n\n\n

You should also connect with people<\/a> at the event<\/strong>. Start by going alone, since people are more comfortable talking to people who are by themselves than big groups. Introduce yourself to at least one person; if you\u2019re shy, practice first by introducing yourself to people you\u2019re not attracted to. Be friendly during your conversation\u2014and if you find someone you like, ask for their contact information so that you can follow up later.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

Ury\u2019s second strategy is to go on blind dates<\/strong> set up by people you know. To do this successfully, first ask your connections for help, describe the type of person you\u2019re looking for, and send them some good photos of you. Then, actually go<\/em> on the date\u2014and always provide feedback. They\u2019ll appreciate your gratitude if it was a great date. Otherwise, telling them what you liked and what you didn\u2019t will help them provide you with better options next time or allow them to gently point out if you\u2019re being unreasonable.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

How to Meet People Online<\/strong><\/h2>\n\n\n\n

To meet someone online, Ury recommends three strategies for improving your odds: Keep an open mind, limit the number of people you date at once, and present yourself well.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

First, Ury recommends that you keep an open mind when swiping<\/strong>: Reconsider and readjust your filters, and don\u2019t reject someone based on a single trait. Why? Ury explains that apps encourage you to judge people based on limited information and arbitrary criteria. But in real life, we constantly meet people who challenge our initial assumptions about what we want in a partner. For example, you might decide you never want to date a vegetarian because you think they\u2019re all hippies, but then you meet someone great who\u2019s a vegetarian for health reasons. So by judging people too harshly, you may be filtering out a potentially great partner. <\/p>\n\n\n\n

Second, Ury recommends that you limit the number of people you date simultaneously<\/strong>. If you date too many people at once, you won\u2019t get to know any of them on a deeper level. But if you limit the number of people you date, you maximize your chances of getting to know someone<\/a> well and thus connecting with them romantically. <\/p>\n\n\n\n

Third, Ury recommends that you present yourself well. <\/strong>To do so, pick great photos that clearly represent what you look like today<\/strong>. <\/strong>For best results, send a selection of photographs to your friends, since your friends are typically better than you are at choosing which photos you look best in. Additionally, create a profile that invites conversation<\/strong> by providing specific details about your life that someone can easily comment on. For example, instead of writing, \u201cI like books,\u201d list your top five books.<\/p>\n","protected":false},"excerpt":{"rendered":"

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