{"id":8208,"date":"2020-04-12T18:03:00","date_gmt":"2020-04-12T22:03:00","guid":{"rendered":"https:\/\/www.shortform.com\/blog\/?p=8208"},"modified":"2020-04-24T10:49:05","modified_gmt":"2020-04-24T14:49:05","slug":"self-paradigm-7-habits","status":"publish","type":"post","link":"https:\/\/www.shortform.com\/blog\/self-paradigm-7-habits\/","title":{"rendered":"The Self-Paradigm: How to Master Your Own Destiny"},"content":{"rendered":"\n<p>As humans, we have the power of self-awareness, which means we can think about our own thought processes. You are the master of your own destiny, and you can examine your behavior and your thoughts, and that ability gives you the power to <em>change<\/em> your behavior and thoughts by making or breaking habits.&nbsp; <\/p>\n\n\n\n<p>Creating a self-paradigm will enable you to recognize your behaviors, and form a concept of yourself based on your values and principles. You self-paradigm should be a part of how you interact in relationships and with your own problems. <\/p>\n\n\n\n<!--more-->\n\n\n\n<h2 class=\"wp-block-heading\">Developing Your Self-Paradigm<\/h2>\n\n\n\n<p>In every situation, you have the choice of being reactive or proactive. If you\u2019re reactive, you let your habits and conditioning dictate how you respond to the people and circumstances around you; if you\u2019re proactive, you decide how you\u2019ll respond to create the results you want. <strong>Being proactive requires you to <a href=\"https:\/\/www.shortform.com\/blog\/accepting-responsibility\/\">take responsibility<\/a> for your actions and their consequences, but it also empowers you to take hold of your life and make significant changes to your mindset and behavior.<\/strong> Remember, you are the master of your own destiny and only you have the power to do this. <\/p>\n\n\n\n<p>We can rise above our moods, thoughts, and feelings, and make deliberate choices about our views, actions, and attitudes. Most importantly, we can create our self-paradigm, which dictates <a href=\"https:\/\/www.shortform.com\/blog\/how-we-see-ourselves\/\">how we see ourselves<\/a>.&nbsp;<\/p>\n\n\n\n<p>When you become aware of <a href=\"https:\/\/www.shortform.com\/blog\/how-you-see-yourself\/\">how you see yourself<\/a>, you can also recognize that the way others see themselves and the world around them greatly impacts their words and actions. This understanding of your self-paradigm allows you to relate to people on a deeper level. If you don\u2019t have this awareness about yourself \u2014 and, thus, about others \u2014 you will misinterpret other people\u2019s behaviors and project your own intentions and motivations onto them.<\/p>\n\n\n\n<p>Your self-paradigm is the most critical paradigm in impacting your effectiveness. <strong>If you don\u2019t create your own self-paradigm, you\u2019re left to piece together a self-image that\u2019s based on the opinions and feedback you get from others. <\/strong>Unless the people around you have cultivated their own self-paradigms, their reactions toward you are more likely to be projections of their own thoughts and fears than a true reflection of <a href=\"https:\/\/www.shortform.com\/blog\/your-genius\/\">who you are<\/a>; this can leave you with an inaccurate and disjointed image of yourself, which can cause you to behave in dysfunctional and ineffective ways.&nbsp;<\/p>\n\n\n\n<p>If you don\u2019t choose your self-paradigm and the people around you \u2014 or society or systems \u2014 are telling you that you\u2019re not talented, have no value, and can\u2019t possibly escape your circumstances, then why even try? You\u2019re likely to submit to that self-fulfilling prophecy and resign to the lifestyle and <a href=\"https:\/\/www.shortform.com\/blog\/levels-of-success\/\">level of success<\/a> they say you can achieve. But you are the master of your own destiny. But if you make a conscious choice to reject their opinions and decide for yourself what\u2019s possible for you, then your efforts and actions will reflect that.<\/p>\n\n\n\n<p>Being proactive is all about your power to be the master of your own destiny. As you better understand the concept of paradigms, and your own self-paradigm, you can begin to recognize your own paradigms, or \u201cscripting,\u201d and how they\u2019re shaping your life. 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