{"id":8199,"date":"2020-04-14T17:31:00","date_gmt":"2020-04-14T21:31:00","guid":{"rendered":"https:\/\/www.shortform.com\/blog\/?p=8199"},"modified":"2020-04-24T10:49:29","modified_gmt":"2020-04-24T14:49:29","slug":"autobiographical-listening-7-habits","status":"publish","type":"post","link":"https:\/\/www.shortform.com\/blog\/autobiographical-listening-7-habits\/","title":{"rendered":"Autobiographical Listening Hurts Relationships\u2014Here\u2019s Why"},"content":{"rendered":"\n<p>While we ideally want to work toward <a href=\"https:\/\/www.shortform.com\/blog\/empathic-listening-covey-7-habits\/\">empathic listening<\/a> methods, we also need to understand some of undesirable listening habits, to make sure we don&#8217;t use them in our relationship. Autobiographical Listening is one type of listening we want to learn to avoid. But what is Autobiographical Listening? <\/p>\n\n\n\n<p>Autobiographical Listening is any attempt by the listener to make the conversation about them. This is detrimental to relationships.<\/p>\n\n\n\n<p>Read more to find out about <a href=\"https:\/\/www.shortform.com\/blog\/how-to-listen-crucial-conversations\/\">how to listen<\/a> and avoid Autobiographical Listening. <\/p>\n\n\n\n<!--more-->\n\n\n\n<h2 class=\"wp-block-heading\">What is Listening? Why Should We Listen Empathically? <\/h2>\n\n\n\n<p>In an interpersonal relationship, it\u2019s just as important that you\u2019re understood as it is that you understand the other person. To help the other person understand your perspective, you need to effectively express it. This is why it can be harmful to employ Autobiographical Listening. <\/p>\n\n\n\n<p>Ethos, pathos, and logos represent not only the different aspects of expressing your perspective, but also the order in which to carry them out. Many people start with logos, trying to make the logical argument for their case, but <strong>you\u2019re more likely to get the other person to understand if you start from a foundation of principled character and a trusting, open relationship.<\/strong>&nbsp;<\/p>\n\n\n\n<p>Empathic listening requires a <a href=\"https:\/\/www.shortform.com\/blog\/change-your-paradigm-covey-7-habits\/\">paradigm shift<\/a> for most people, because <strong>often people listen in order to reply, and their responses are based more on their own experience and interpretation than what the other person is saying. <\/strong>People typically listen in one of four ways, using Autobiographical Listening instead of Empathic Listening. <\/p>\n\n\n\n<ol class=\"wp-block-list\"><li>Ignoring: In this case, you\u2019re really not listening to the other person.<\/li><li>Pretending: This is when you give automated responses like \u201cright\u201d or \u201cabsolutely\u201d at the appropriate cues, but you\u2019re not actually listening.&nbsp;<\/li><li>Selective Listening: You\u2019re only listening to pieces of what the other person is saying, as we tend to do when small children are going on incessantly.&nbsp;<\/li><li>Attentive Listening: You\u2019re listening closely to everything the person is saying.<\/li><\/ol>\n\n\n\n<h2 class=\"wp-block-heading\">What Happens When We Fail? What is Autobiographical Listening?<\/h2>\n\n\n\n<p><strong>When we fail to listen empathically \u2014 from the other person\u2019s perspective \u2014 we listen autobiographically, interpreting everything through our own lens and experiences.<\/strong> Autobiographical Listening tends to yield one of four responses.&nbsp;<\/p>\n\n\n\n<ol class=\"wp-block-list\"><li>Evaluate: You determine sides and agree or disagree. You are jumping to decisions without fully understanding the situation, which robs the person of the emotional space she needs to process a problem.&nbsp;<\/li><li>Probe: You ask questions based on your interpretations and experiences, and not based on what the person is saying. This controls the conversation and is invasive to the other person without getting you any closer to understanding; probing often creates communication barriers between parents and children (e.g. \u201cHow was school?\u201d \u201cFine.\u201d \u201cWhat did you learn?\u201d \u201cStuff.\u201d \u201cWhat\u2019s wrong?\u201d \u201cNothing.\u201d). This approach also uses left-brained logic for the right-brained task of understanding emotion.&nbsp;<\/li><li>Advise: You offer advice on what to do and how to fix the problem, prescribing before diagnosing.&nbsp;<\/li><li>Interpret: You try to figure out the person\u2019s motives and behaviors based on how you would act in that situation; this is different than trying to understand the other person\u2019s <em>perspective<\/em>.&nbsp;<\/li><\/ol>\n\n\n\n<p>Autobiographical Listening can take a toll on our relationships. Make sure you think about the types of listening above in order to avoid Autobiographical Listening and work toward listening empathically. <\/p>\n","protected":false},"excerpt":{"rendered":"<p>While we ideally want to work toward empathic listening methods, we also need to understand some of undesirable listening habits, to make sure we don&#8217;t use them in our relationship. Autobiographical Listening is one type of listening we want to learn to avoid. But what is Autobiographical Listening? Autobiographical Listening is any attempt by the listener to make the conversation about them. This is detrimental to relationships. 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