{"id":81783,"date":"2022-10-19T14:05:00","date_gmt":"2022-10-19T18:05:00","guid":{"rendered":"https:\/\/www.shortform.com\/blog\/?p=81783"},"modified":"2022-10-26T15:46:30","modified_gmt":"2022-10-26T19:46:30","slug":"how-to-be-a-good-conversationalist-2","status":"publish","type":"post","link":"https:\/\/www.shortform.com\/blog\/how-to-be-a-good-conversationalist-2\/","title":{"rendered":"Tips on How to Be a Good Conversationalist"},"content":{"rendered":"\n<p>Do you want to know how to be a <a href=\"https:\/\/www.shortform.com\/blog\/how-to-be-a-good-conversationalist\/\">good conversationalist<\/a>? What makes a compelling conversation?<\/p>\n\n\n\n<p>One way to start and maintain strong relationships is by being a skilled conversationalist. In <em>The Like Switch<\/em>, Jack Schafer and Marvin Karlins give tips for keeping conversations balanced and pleasant for everyone involved.<\/p>\n\n\n\n<p>Continue reading to learn <a href=\"https:\/\/www.shortform.com\/blog\/how-to-improve-conversation-skills\/\">how to be a good conversationalist<\/a>.<\/p>\n\n\n\n<!--more-->\n\n\n\n<h2 class=\"wp-block-heading\">1. <strong>Choosing a Conversation Topic<\/strong><\/h2>\n\n\n\n<p>As with building a friendship, when learning how to be a good conversationalist, it\u2019s good to find common ground. Talk about topics you and the other participants all appreciate and understand. Additionally, bring up past topics of conversation if you\u2019ve met before so you can continue to build your relationship based on existing rapport. The authors advise not to bring up topics that make people uncomfortable or cause controversy, as the resulting division of opinions may ruin new friendships.<\/p>\n\n\n\n<p>When a person tells you something personal about themselves, reciprocate by offering up details about yourself. Anytime we share personal information, we make ourselves vulnerable to the other person. Therefore, if someone has just shared something and you stay silent, you leave the level of vulnerability unbalanced. The other person might feel like the relationship is one-sided. At the same time, the authors advise that you don\u2019t spend <em>too<\/em> much time <a href=\"https:\/\/www.shortform.com\/blog\/how-to-talk-about-yourself\/\">talking about yourself<\/a> or your problems. If you want people to like you, keep the conversation centered around the other person.<\/p>\n\n\n\n<p>(Shortform note: As the authors suggest, reciprocating when someone shares information about themselves is an important part of friendship. For someone to be your friend, they have to get to know you, so friendship inevitably requires sharing and vulnerability. However, <a href=\"https:\/\/www.bustle.com\/life\/9-boundaries-you-should-have-in-your-friendships-according-to-experts-9345200#:~:text=How%20Much%20You%20Tell%20Them\">you can still be discerning when deciding what to share with whom.<\/a> Some of your friends may know everything about you, and others may not\u2014that\u2019s okay. Don\u2019t feel the need to share something vulnerable if you\u2019re uncomfortable or if you don\u2019t trust the other person with the same <a href=\"https:\/\/www.shortform.com\/blog\/four-types-of-information\/\">type of information<\/a> they\u2019ve entrusted to you. Instead, be honest and let them know you\u2019d like to keep some things to yourself. Likewise, don\u2019t press your friends for information they don\u2019t want to share.)<\/p>\n\n\n\n<h2 class=\"wp-block-heading\">2. <strong>Nonverbal Communication During Conversations<\/strong><\/h2>\n\n\n\n<p>The most important <a href=\"https:\/\/www.shortform.com\/blog\/nonverbal-cues\/\">nonverbal cue<\/a> you can give in a conversation is being an active listener. According to the authors, <strong>active listening involves <\/strong><strong><em>really<\/em><\/strong><strong> <a href=\"https:\/\/www.shortform.com\/blog\/how-to-pay-attention\/\">paying attention<\/a> to what the other person\u2019s saying, not just waiting quietly for your next chance to speak.<\/strong> It lets the other person know that you care about them and that you\u2019re interested in their contributions to the conversation.&nbsp;<\/p>\n\n\n\n<p>(Shortform note: One major difference between active listening and passive listening is the intention of the listener. <a href=\"https:\/\/www.psychologytoday.com\/us\/blog\/happiness-is-state-mind\/202107\/the-difference-between-hearing-and-listening#:~:text=active%20listener%20attempts%20to%20internalize,meaningful%20conversation.%20In%20other\">When you\u2019re actively listening, you\u2019re trying to absorb the other person\u2019s words as an active participant in the conversation.<\/a> You\u2019re consciously working toward understanding or problem-solving with the other person. In contrast, passive listeners are inattentive and unreceptive to new ideas. A passive listener\u2019s opinion on a topic is likely already fixed, so they\u2019re unwilling to consider another person\u2019s perspective or find solutions to resolve conflicts. To be an active listener, wait your turn to speak, ask questions, and <a href=\"https:\/\/www.shortform.com\/blog\/remove-distractions\/\">eliminate distractions<\/a> that might take your attention away from the conversation.)<\/p>\n\n\n\n<p>The authors suggest that <a href=\"https:\/\/www.shortform.com\/blog\/nonverbal-skills\/\">nonverbal cues<\/a> can also be a window into the other person\u2019s thoughts. Observing these cues can help you ascertain how comfortable the other person is with you and how they feel about whatever you\u2019re discussing. For example, if someone purses their lips, they likely disagree with what you\u2019re saying. If they bite or press their lips together, that means they have something to say, but they\u2019re either hesitant to speak or don\u2019t want to reveal the information they\u2019re thinking of.<\/p>\n\n\n\n<h2 class=\"wp-block-heading\" id=\"h-3-managing-conflict-in-relationships\">3. <strong>Managing Conflict in Relationships<\/strong><\/h2>\n\n\n\n<p>Even if you use all the authors\u2019 advice for <a href=\"https:\/\/www.shortform.com\/blog\/strong-friendships\/\">strong friendships<\/a> and smooth conversations, you\u2019ll still run into moments of conflict in your relationships. In this section, we\u2019ll discuss Schafer and Karlins\u2019s techniques for <a href=\"https:\/\/www.shortform.com\/blog\/approaching-conflict\/\">approaching conflict<\/a> as a conversationalist productively.<\/p>\n\n\n\n<h3 class=\"wp-block-heading\" id=\"h-when-someone-s-angry-at-you\"><strong>When Someone\u2019s Angry at You<\/strong><\/h3>\n\n\n\n<p>We\u2019ve all faced anger from others at some point. In these moments, it can feel impossible to find a solution. Using Schafer and Karlins\u2019s method for managing angry responses as a stellar conversationalist, you can quickly and productively move through a conflict. This can help keep your relationships healthy and respectful.&nbsp;<\/p>\n\n\n\n<p>To start, <strong>don\u2019t try to reason with someone who\u2019s angry: <\/strong>Anger triggers the <a href=\"https:\/\/www.shortform.com\/blog\/what-is-the-fight-or-flight-response\/\">fight-or-flight response<\/a> in us, which dampens our capacity for logical reasoning and makes reason-based arguments with an angry person unhelpful. Instead, let the angry person spend some time calming down.&nbsp;<\/p>\n\n\n\n<p>(Shortform note: The fight-or-flight response is your body\u2019s instinctive way of focusing all your energy on survival in the face of perceived danger. When an emotion like anger, anxiety, or even excitement triggers this response, <a href=\"https:\/\/www.betterhealth.vic.gov.au\/health\/healthyliving\/anger-how-it-affects-people\">several physiological processes occur.<\/a> Your adrenal glands release a flood of stress hormones, like adrenaline and cortisol, throughout your body. Additionally, your brain redirects blood away from the gut toward the muscles, halting regular processes like digestion and preparing you for intense physical activity. Finally, your heart rate, blood pressure, and respiration increase, leading to a higher body temperature and excess perspiration.)<\/p>\n\n\n\n<p>If you have to engage immediately, <strong>start by explaining the problem that caused the other person\u2019s anger.<\/strong> For example, say you come home late from your community volleyball team\u2019s weekly practice, and now your spouse is angry with you. The explanation could be that your team had to stay late to finish preparing for an upcoming game, and you didn\u2019t call because you left your cell phone at home.&nbsp;<\/p>\n\n\n\n<p>If your explanation doesn\u2019t assuage the other person\u2019s anger, <strong>try using empathic responding<\/strong> (discussed in an earlier section): Use empathic language to acknowledge the underlying reasons behind their anger. For example, you could say, \u201cYou\u2019re angry with me because you didn\u2019t know where I was, and that made you worried.\u201d This response recognizes your spouse\u2019s anger and shows an understanding of their other emotions.<\/p>\n\n\n\n<p><strong>Then, allow the other person to release their angry thoughts freely:<\/strong> Even if you acknowledge their feelings, they\u2019ll likely still have something to say. For example, your spouse may want to complain about your inconsideration or list all the ways you could\u2019ve still gotten in contact without your cell phone. When the angry person pauses, respond empathically again, showing them you understand their point of view.<\/p>\n\n\n\n<p>Continue this cycle of release and empathic responding until the angry person has run out of things to say.&nbsp;<strong>Conclude the interaction by offering a resolution that suits both parties.<\/strong> For instance, you might promise to check you have your cell phone every time you leave for practice so the lack of communication doesn\u2019t happen again. If the other person accepts your resolution, the conflict is over.<\/p>\n","protected":false},"excerpt":{"rendered":"<p>Do you want to know how to be a good conversationalist? What makes a compelling conversation? One way to start and maintain strong relationships is by being a skilled conversationalist. In The Like Switch, Jack Schafer and Marvin Karlins give tips for keeping conversations balanced and pleasant for everyone involved. 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