{"id":78985,"date":"2022-09-11T13:18:00","date_gmt":"2022-09-11T17:18:00","guid":{"rendered":"https:\/\/www.shortform.com\/blog\/?p=78985"},"modified":"2022-09-19T15:16:08","modified_gmt":"2022-09-19T19:16:08","slug":"she-comes-first-quotes","status":"publish","type":"post","link":"https:\/\/www.shortform.com\/blog\/she-comes-first-quotes\/","title":{"rendered":"She Comes First: Quotes on Improving Your Sex Life"},"content":{"rendered":"\n<p>What are some <em>She Comes First<\/em> quotes? What can we learn from these quotes about healthy sex?<\/p>\n\n\n\n<p>In <em>She Comes First<\/em>, Ian Kerner claims that traditional beliefs about sex benefit men, not women. To make sure women experience pleasure during sex, their partner should make sure she has an orgasm first.<\/p>\n\n\n\n<p>Read below for <em>She Comes First<\/em> quotes that explain why female orgasms should take priority.<\/p>\n\n\n\n<!--more-->\n\n\n\n<h2 class=\"wp-block-heading\"><em>She Comes First<\/em> Quotes<\/h2>\n\n\n\n<p>Ideas regarding sex in traditional mainstream culture are centered around male anatomy and satisfaction\u2014penetration is the pinnacle of sex, and sex is over when the man ejaculates. However, Ian Kerner explains that these beliefs often leave women unsatisfied. In <em>She Comes First,<\/em> Kerner explains that for sex to adequately satisfy <em>both<\/em> partners, we must change the narrative\u2014men should ensure their female partner orgasms first. And the best way to accomplish this, Kerner argues, is through cunnilingus.<\/p>\n\n\n\n<p>Here are three <em>She Comes First<\/em> quotes with explanations to help you understand the book better.<\/p>\n\n\n\n<blockquote class=\"wp-block-quote is-layout-flow wp-block-quote-is-layout-flow\"><p>\u201cOne should not make more assumptions than are absolutely necessary.\u201d<\/p><\/blockquote>\n\n\n\n<p>Kerner explains that traditional beliefs about sex\u2014like what it\u2019s supposed to entail, how long it\u2019s supposed to last, and how to know when it\u2019s over\u2014are based on male anatomy and rarely result in female orgasm. So the first step in learning how to please your female partner is to understand what these beliefs are and why they prevent female orgasms.<\/p>\n\n\n\n<p>First, most men believe that penetration is the part of sex that feels best for men <em>and<\/em> women; however, Kerner explains that this is not the case for the vast majority of women. <strong>Most women need external clitoral stimulation to have an orgasm, and vaginal penetration alone fails to do this <\/strong>(we\u2019ll further explain these anatomical details later in the guide). Consequently, men are more likely than women to orgasm during sex.<\/p>\n\n\n\n<p>(Shortform note: Kerner explains that men are more likely than women to orgasm during sex because their preferred method (penetration) is based on what pleases <em>them<\/em>, not what pleases women. Experts agree that heterosexual women generally have lower rates of orgasm than their male partners and add that <a href=\"https:\/\/www.reuters.com\/article\/us-orgasm-rates\/after-men-lesbians-report-the-most-orgasms-during-sex-idUSKBN0GP1CM20140825\">women in <em>lesbian<\/em> relationships are much more likely to orgasm during sex<\/a>. Whereas heterosexual women orgasm during sex with a familiar partner 61.6% of the time, lesbians orgasm 74.7% of the time. Researchers suggest that this might be because the expectation to prioritize male sexual pleasure is absent in lesbian relationships.)<\/p>\n\n\n\n<p>Second, men can both get aroused and reach orgasm much faster than women. Whereas most men orgasm within two minutes of stimulation, women generally need more than 21 minutes of clitoral stimulation to reach orgasm (not including foreplay). Consequently, <strong>men tend to orgasm before their female partner is even <\/strong><strong><em>close<\/em><\/strong><strong>.<\/strong><\/p>\n\n\n\n<p>(Shortform note: Many experts agree with Kerner that the fast pace of male arousal and orgasm can cause issues with sexual compatibility among heterosexual couples. However, <a href=\"https:\/\/www.psychologytoday.com\/us\/blog\/all-about-sex\/201205\/erection-changes-after-50-the-facts#:~:text=women.%20Young%20men%20are%20often%20all%20finished,pace%20more%20closely%20matches%20women%E2%80%99s.%20A\">some believe that these issues may dissipate as men get older<\/a>. They elaborate that starting around age 50, the pace of male arousal and orgasm tend to slow down and more closely align with that of women\u2014rather than getting quickly aroused and erect from thoughts alone, men over 50 tend to need more physical stimulation and foreplay. This leaves more time for kissing, cuddling, touching, and so on, which provides women with the proper foreplay they need before sex and makes the experience more satisfying for both partners.)<\/p>\n\n\n\n<p>Third, sex is traditionally over once the man ejaculates. Kerner explains that this is because after ejaculating, men tend to quickly lose their erection, arousal, and energy and need a long recovery period before being able to have sex again. This is called the \u201crefractory period\u201d and varies in length between men. <strong>Since men usually orgasm first and then tap out, women often don\u2019t get the chance to orgasm at all before the session is over<\/strong>.<\/p>\n\n\n\n<p>Ultimately, traditional beliefs about sex deny women the proper stimulation and time needed for them to reach orgasm. So to ensure that your female partner is equally satisfied during sex, Kerner says you must ensure that she orgasms first.<\/p>\n\n\n\n<blockquote class=\"wp-block-quote is-layout-flow wp-block-quote-is-layout-flow\"><p>\u201cWhen it comes to pleasuring women and conversing in the language of love, cunnilingus should be every man\u2019s native tongue.\u201d<\/p><\/blockquote>\n\n\n\n<p>Once your female partner is sufficiently aroused, Kerner says that it\u2019s <a href=\"https:\/\/www.shortform.com\/blog\/when-its-time-to-move-on\/\">time to move on<\/a> to cunnilingus where you\u2019ll build her arousal even further until she orgasms. We can break Kerner\u2019s process down into four major steps: making first contact, establishing rhythm, introducing manual stimulation, and bringing her to orgasm. This process should take anywhere from 15-45 minutes, not including foreplay.(Shortform note: Kerner explains that cunnilingus is the step where you build your partner\u2019s arousal until she orgasms and that this should take about 15-45 minutes. <\/p>\n\n\n\n<p>However, this large window of time may leave some wondering what exactly to expect. <a href=\"https:\/\/www.issm.info\/sexual-health-qa\/how-long-does-it-take-a-woman-to-reach-orgasm\/\">Sex experts provide a narrower window based on recent research<\/a>, explaining that it takes women between six and 20 minutes to orgasm during partnered sex with an average of 14 minutes. So while Kerner\u2019s low-end estimate of 15 minutes is fairly close to the <em>average<\/em> time needed for women to orgasm with a partner, his high-end estimate of 45 minutes seems a little extreme compared to the 20-minute high-end estimate experts report.)<\/p>\n\n\n\n<blockquote class=\"wp-block-quote is-layout-flow wp-block-quote-is-layout-flow\"><p>\u201cImagine going through years of your life with the gut feeling that none of it really matters yet, that it will start at some point in the future, and that the present doesn&#8217;t really count. Does this feeling seem familiar? Have you ever told yourself that everything will ultimately fall into place once you [fill in the blank]? Who wouldn&#8217;t wind up numbed to real hope and possibility after exerting so much energy for stuff that really doesn&#8217;t matter?\u201d<\/p><\/blockquote>\n\n\n\n<p>Once you understand the clitorial network and its key players, Kerner explains that you must understand the <a href=\"https:\/\/www.shortform.com\/blog\/female-sexual-response-cycle\/\">female sexual response<\/a> process. Kerner divides the process into four steps: excitement, plateau, orgasm, and resolution.<\/p>\n\n\n\n<p><strong>The first step in the process of female sexual response is <em>excitement<\/em><\/strong>. When a woman first becomes aroused, her mind and body prepare her for a sexual encounter. First, chemicals and hormones are released that emotionally prepare her for sex. Then her body responds\u2014breasts increase in size, blood flow to the pelvic area increases, the clitoral head protrudes from the hood, and the vagina begins to lubricate.&nbsp;<strong>After excitement is <em>plateau<\/em>, the stage where arousal tends to increase until it\u2019s released through orgasm.<\/strong> During the process, muscle tension will build, the <a href=\"https:\/\/www.shortform.com\/blog\/clitoral-network\/\">clitoral network<\/a> will become more sensitive and the clitoral head will go back into its hood, and breathing and heart rate will increase. Right before orgasm, the clitoral head will emerge again.<\/p>\n\n\n\n<p><strong>After plateau, the next step is <\/strong><strong><em>orgasm<\/em><\/strong>. Orgasm is when the built-up tension from plateau releases all at once. When orgasm occurs, the vaginal walls contract rhythmically and the woman will experience waves of pleasure for 10-20 seconds on average. Some women release ejaculate\u2014Kerner notes that this is a unique alkaline liquid from the female equivalent of the prostate, <em>not<\/em> urine.<\/p>\n\n\n\n<p>(Shortform note: <a href=\"https:\/\/pubmed.ncbi.nlm.nih.gov\/8269524\/#:~:text=Abstract,20%20seconds%20and%202%20minutes.\">Kerner\u2019s 10-20 second estimation of the average female orgasm may actually be on the short end<\/a>\u2014longer female orgasms can last between 20 seconds and two minutes, and one study showed that 40% of women polled experienced 30-60 second orgasms. Further research shows that, as Kerner explains, <a href=\"https:\/\/www.issm.info\/sexual-health-qa\/do-women-ejaculate\">some women ejaculate and some don\u2019t\u2014but the statistics on the commonality of female ejaculation aren\u2019t settled<\/a>\u2014a 2017 study reported that nearly 70% of women ejaculate, while other estimates range from 10% to 50%. And while Kerner claims that female ejaculate is <em>not<\/em> urine, recent studies show that <a href=\"https:\/\/pubmed.ncbi.nlm.nih.gov\/25545022\/\">female ejaculate is mostly urine<\/a>\u2014the alkaline secretions Kerner mentions make up a marginal percentage of the liquid.)<\/p>\n\n\n\n<p><strong>The final step is <em>resolution<\/em>\u2014the stage where she returns to a pre-aroused state<\/strong>. Kerner explains that this stage varies greatly between men and women. Women take much longer than men to return to this state, meaning that they remain aroused longer and can have consecutive orgasms. Further, whereas men tend to be tired after orgasm, women tend to want more interaction like talking and cuddling.<\/p>\n","protected":false},"excerpt":{"rendered":"<p>What are some She Comes First quotes? What can we learn from these quotes about healthy sex? In She Comes First, Ian Kerner claims that traditional beliefs about sex benefit men, not women. 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