{"id":75062,"date":"2022-08-07T14:25:00","date_gmt":"2022-08-07T18:25:00","guid":{"rendered":"https:\/\/www.shortform.com\/blog\/?p=75062"},"modified":"2022-08-12T14:19:23","modified_gmt":"2022-08-12T18:19:23","slug":"rewarding-good-behavior","status":"publish","type":"post","link":"https:\/\/www.shortform.com\/blog\/rewarding-good-behavior\/","title":{"rendered":"Rewarding Good Behavior: Is It Helping or Harming Kids?"},"content":{"rendered":"\n<p>Should you reward children&#8217;s good behavior while punishing bad behavior? Does rewarding good behavior help or harm kids in the long run?<\/p>\n\n\n\n<p>Author Alfie Kohn cautions that it\u2019s easy for parents to forget about long-term goals when busy or overwhelmed, instead shifting their focus to whether or not a child is being \u201cgood\u201d or \u201cbad\u201d at any given moment. Kohn says creating a system of rewards and punishments leads to potentially harmful outcomes in children.<\/p>\n\n\n\n<p>Read on to learn Kohn&#8217;s advice about rewarding good behavior, including his examples of rewards for children.<\/p>\n\n\n\n<!--more-->\n\n\n\n<h2 class=\"wp-block-heading\" id=\"h-rewarding-good-behavior-conditional-parenting\">Rewarding Good Behavior &amp; Conditional Parenting<\/h2>\n\n\n\n<p>This concept of<strong> <\/strong>\u201cgood\u201d and \u201cbad\u201d behavior, and the system of rewards and punishments that springs up to reinforce it, entangles both parents and children so deeply that it can be hard to see alternatives. Kohn identifies several problems with this disciplinary system of rewarding good behavior, but the central one is that <strong>rewards and punishments<\/strong> <strong>make children feel that their parents\u2019 love, approval, and affection are contingent on them behaving well.<\/strong><\/p>\n\n\n\n<p>Parents commonly use rewards (or the promise of rewards) to encourage good behavior. Kohn\u2019s definition of rewards is extremely broad: He groups intangible rewards such as hugs and praise with more conventional ones such as food and gold stars.<\/p>\n\n\n\n<h3 class=\"wp-block-heading\" id=\"h-what-counts-as-a-reward\">What Counts as a Reward?<\/h3>\n\n\n\n<p>A reward is anything a child receives in return for \u201cgood\u201d behavior. Rewards include:<\/p>\n\n\n\n<ul class=\"wp-block-list\"><li><strong>Gifts, food, and money<\/strong><\/li><li><strong>Good grades<\/strong><\/li><li><strong>Gold stars<\/strong><\/li><li><strong>Affection<\/strong><\/li><li><strong>Praise<\/strong><\/li><\/ul>\n\n\n\n<p>(Shortform note: Kohn singles out one type of praise, \u201cgood job!\u201d, as particularly noxious, as it frames whatever a child is doing as a \u201cjob\u201d to be judged negatively or positively. While <a href=\"https:\/\/www.nytimes.com\/2020\/08\/13\/parenting\/praising-children.html\">it\u2019s probably a good idea to stop reflexively bombarding kids with \u201cgood job!\u201d<\/a> for every tiny achievement, parenting writer Emily Oster argues that outlawing \u201cgood job\u201d might be going too far\u2014she points out that without \u201cgood job,\u201d <a href=\"https:\/\/www.bloomberg.com\/opinion\/articles\/2022-05-02\/you-won-t-ruin-a-kid-s-growth-mindset-by-saying-good-job?sref=ZtdQlmKR\">parents are left with few alternatives<\/a>. She also suggests that writers like Kohn are <a href=\"https:\/\/www.shortform.com\/blog\/jumping-to-conclusions-psychology\/\">jumping to conclusions<\/a> based on limited and unconvincing data.)<\/p>\n\n\n\n<h3 class=\"wp-block-heading\" id=\"h-why-you-should-stop-rewarding-good-behavior\">Why You Should Stop Rewarding Good Behavior<\/h3>\n\n\n\n<p>According to Kohn, <strong>we shouldn\u2019t use rewards with children because<\/strong>:<\/p>\n\n\n\n<p><strong>1. Rewarding good behavior doesn&#8217;t build <a href=\"https:\/\/www.shortform.com\/blog\/intrinsic-motivation-psychology\/\">intrinsic motivation<\/a>. <\/strong>Rewards tie behavior to external incentives, rather than allowing children to discover their own <a href=\"https:\/\/www.shortform.com\/blog\/how-to-increase-intrinsic-motivation\/\">internal motivation<\/a>. This means that when the reward disappears, the behavior will also disappear. In fact, Kohn points out that <strong>rewards even seem to <em>decrease <\/em>intrinsic motivation<\/strong>. For example, one study found that rewarding very young children for helping made them <a href=\"https:\/\/doi.apa.org\/doiLanding?doi=10.1037%2Fa0013860\">less likely to help later when no reward was available<\/a>. Praise has the same negative effect.<\/p>\n\n\n\n<p><strong>2. Rewarding good behavior creates pressure to succeed.<\/strong> Research shows that academic pressure can cause intense stress, which in turn leads to substance abuse, depression, and anxiety. Kohn argues that <strong>pressure to succeed is especially damaging in competitive situations<\/strong>, when one person\u2019s success comes at the expense of someone else\u2019s. In these situations, children are more likely to take shortcuts (for example, cheating on a test).&nbsp;<\/p>\n\n\n\n<p><strong>3. Rewards for good behavior can become addictive. <\/strong>This especially applies to praise. Kohn argues that if you <a href=\"https:\/\/www.shortform.com\/blog\/praising-children\/\">praise children<\/a> too much, they start needing to hear it constantly to feel good about themselves. This dynamic doesn\u2019t allow them to develop <a href=\"https:\/\/onlinelibrary.wiley.com\/doi\/abs\/10.1111\/j.1467-6494.2005.00359.x\">the robust, stable self-esteem that they\u2019ll need to be happy later on<\/a>.<\/p>\n","protected":false},"excerpt":{"rendered":"<p>Should you reward children&#8217;s good behavior while punishing bad behavior? Does rewarding good behavior help or harm kids in the long run? Author Alfie Kohn cautions that it\u2019s easy for parents to forget about long-term goals when busy or overwhelmed, instead shifting their focus to whether or not a child is being \u201cgood\u201d or \u201cbad\u201d at any given moment. Kohn says creating a system of rewards and punishments leads to potentially harmful outcomes in children. 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