What is a micro wedding and how do you plan one? Will you regret foregoing a traditional wedding? Why are micro weddings a better option for some people?<\/p>\n\n\n\n
A micro wedding is defined as a non-traditional marriage ceremony with a smaller, more intimate venue and typically fewer than 50 guests. Although every couple\u2019s micro wedding will be unique to their tastes, in general, micro weddings cost less, save time, and are less stressful to plan. For these reasons, micro weddings have become a popular choice for many couples who want to avoid the hassle of planning a large, traditional wedding.<\/p>\n\n\n\n
Keep reading to find out if a micro wedding is the right choice for you.<\/p>\n\n\n\n\n\n\n\n
While micro weddings are smaller in scale than traditional weddings, they can still be a grand event. Micro weddings allow you to treat your closest family and friends to a unique wedding ceremony where you\u2019ve selected only the details and traditions that matter most to you. The three key benefits of a micro wedding are:<\/p>\n\n\n\n
In addition to these common benefits of a micro wedding, research shows that having a smaller, non-traditional wedding could be beneficial to couples even after they\u2019ve tied the knot.<\/p>\n\n\n\n
Research has shown that the more a couple spends on a wedding ceremony or the ring, the shorter the marriage<\/a>. The researchers specifically found that when the wedding costs $20,000 or more, couples were 3.5 times more likely to get divorced<\/a> than when the wedding cost $5,000-$10,000. This information points to the value of smaller, non-traditional weddings. <\/p>\n\n\n\n Although researchers have not identified the exact cause of this correlation, they reason that wedding-related debt has an impact on relationship health. It could also be that couples who mutually decide to spend less on a wedding tend to make a stronger pair. In any case, while the wedding industry promotes lavish, large weddings as being the standard, this research provides a new perspective and reveals the benefits of smaller wedding ceremonies.<\/p>\n\n\n\n Before deciding to plan a micro wedding, you should also consider the benefits of a traditional wedding to be sure you won\u2019t regret your decision later. It\u2019s popular these days to forgo old-fashioned wedding traditions, with some couples opting out of marriage altogether as they cannot see the value in the tradition\u2014especially if they don\u2019t plan on having children. <\/p>\n\n\n\n However, the ritual of a wedding ceremony and traditions have existed for centuries because they provide a meaningful rite of passage for couples. Many couples claim they don\u2019t fully understand the value of these traditions until after the fact. Marking your ceremony with time-honored traditions provides a natural transition into this new phase of your life, like how we hold rites of passage for those graduating from school or reaching adulthood.<\/p>\n\n\n\n If you and your partner have a long-term relationship, it may be tempting to elope and eschew all traditions in order to save on time and money. Many couples feel intimidated by the cost and details of lavish wedding traditions, preferring to spend the money on a honeymoon or a new house. Finding the balance between a big wedding and no wedding at all is what a micro wedding accomplishes. <\/p>\n\n\n\n Remember, the bride and groom aren\u2019t the only ones investing emotions into a wedding ceremony. Consider if your family may have hopes for seeing you and your partner participate in wedding rituals that are meaningful to them. For example, would the bride\u2019s father be disappointed if he didn\u2019t have the chance to walk his daughter down the aisle? <\/p>\n\n\n\n In any case, it is most important for you and your partner to be on the same page in terms of your preferences for wedding traditions and rituals.<\/strong> Micro weddings offer the flexibility of cherry-picking meaningful wedding traditions to incorporate into your ceremony. <\/p>\n\n\n\n One of the ultimate benefits of micro weddings is saving money. Spending less<\/a> on your wedding ceremony allows you to afford a luxurious honeymoon or simply save up to buy a home in the future. With a smaller guest list, you aren\u2019t limited to only the traditional wedding venue options<\/strong>, which often cost much more. However, micro wedding venues can be as minimal or expensive as you wish\u2014this budget flexibility is what many couples love about planning a micro wedding. Read below for examples of both cost-saving and indulgent micro wedding venues.<\/p>\n\n\n\n When you\u2019re on a budget, it\u2019s much easier to plan a micro wedding rather than a traditional wedding. There are many creative options for cost-saving venues when you invite fewer than 50 guests. Whether you have a smaller budget or just want to spend less on your venue so you can spend more in other areas of your ceremony, the below cost-saving venues are a great, affordable option.<\/p>\n\n\n\n If you and your partner prefer a more extravagant venue, you may want to consider investing in a micro wedding package<\/strong>. Due to the rising popularity of micro weddings, various companies now offer packages customized for your smaller guest list and budget. However, these packages still include all the traditional wedding elements, just on a smaller scale. A micro wedding package is a good option if you\u2019re willing to spend more on your venue and want most of the planning handled by the package organizer. <\/p>\n\n\n\n Below are some examples of micro wedding packages that include both traditional and exotic venues. <\/p>\n\n\n\n If a micro wedding is what you have your heart set on, then you will still need to do some planning for your special day. The steps involved in planning a micro wedding will vary depending on your and your partner\u2019s vision for your wedding day. However, there are some basic details every couple should consider as they plan a micro wedding: budget, music, and refreshments, and which traditional wedding elements to include.<\/p>\n\n\n\n Another optional step will be deciding if you want to live stream your wedding. Wedding live streams have become even more popular since the Covid pandemic required many couples with wedding plans to hold private ceremonies. If your original guest list was much larger before deciding on a micro wedding, then live streaming your ceremony is a convenient way to allow more family and friends to join in on your special day.<\/p>\n\n\n\n If you feel overwhelmed with the wedding planning process, the Getting Things Done<\/em> (GTD) program can help ease your stress. GTD is designed to increase your productivity and effectiveness\u2014not so you can squeeze even more<\/em> into your already busy life<\/a>, but so that you can do things with less time, energy, and effort. <\/p>\n\n\n\n When your mind is clear, you can focus and use your creative energy for the task at hand,<\/strong> and in your free moments, you can fully enjoy life without feeling guilty that you\u2019re not doing something \u201cproductive.\u201d <\/p>\n\n\n\n Here\u2019s an overview of the Natural Planning Method from Getting Things Done<\/em> to help you easily plan a micro wedding without feeling overwhelmed<\/a> by all the details.<\/p>\n\n\n\n Many people lean toward formal planning methods, and this can be especially tempting when planning a wedding. For example, you may be tempted to spend more money on a wedding planner just to avoid the hassle of planning your micro wedding. However, taking the wrong approach to planning projects makes the process feel daunting and causes many people to put off planning until the last minute. <\/strong>Additionally, it can lead you to: <\/p>\n\n\n\n By contrast, the Natural Planning Method is a much more effective approach, and you\u2019re probably already doing it in your everyday life\u2014you just might not realize you\u2019re doing it. There are five steps of natural planning; we\u2019ll give an overview of them and look at how they apply to planning a micro wedding, then we\u2019ll explain each one in depth.<\/p>\n\n\n\n 1) Define your purpose<\/a> and principles.<\/strong> Your purpose is the intention of the project, and your principles create the boundaries. 2) Envision your outcome.<\/strong> Once you\u2019ve determined that you’re planning a project<\/a> and why<\/em> you\u2019re planning it (your purpose), you naturally begin to envision what <\/em>it\u2019ll be like. This is the physical feel, look, and sound of the project. 3) Brainstorm.<\/strong> Now that you have the vision, your brain wants to figure out how to make that vision a reality. In random order, your thoughts will bounce around to what you need, who you need to talk to, and how you can accomplish these tasks. 4) Organize.<\/strong> After the swirl of brainstorming thoughts, you naturally begin to organize them based on components (logistical tasks to make the project happen), priorities (information you need to determine if the project is feasible), and sequences (which actions need to happen first). This is when challenges, comparisons, and evaluations naturally arise because you\u2019re determining which actions are more important and need to happen first. <\/strong> 5) Determine your next actions.<\/strong> This is a natural outgrowth of the organizing step. Here, you drill down on the first action you will need to take to accomplish the highest-priority task on your list. \nTITLE: Getting Things Done Just like traditional weddings, deciding on a budget with your partner is the first step in planning a micro wedding. As you think about your budget for a micro wedding, what\u2019s the most productive way to discuss these plans with your partner? Financial educator and author Ramit Sethi shares his advice for talking about money with your partner, including planning a wedding budget, in his book I Will Teach You to Be Rich. <\/em>Here\u2019s Sethi\u2019s advice.<\/p>\n\n\n\n Before you can dig into the nitty gritty of your personal financial situations, you and your partner need to get comfortable with talking about money at all. That might be especially difficult if you\u2019re not used to being open about your finances, or if you know that you and your partner have very different financial situations (for example, if one of you makes more money or has more debt than the other). However, if you approach the conversation with an open, humble, and nonjudgmental attitude, discussing money doesn\u2019t have to be a scary thing.<\/strong><\/p>\n\n\n\n To make these conversations easier, start with general questions\u2014like how your partner thinks about money in general, how their parents talked about money, or what their ideal financial situation would be. Put them at ease by being vulnerable<\/a> and sharing something about your own finances (for example, if you know you tend to overspend in a certain area, or if you\u2019re stressed about your credit card debt<\/a>). That vulnerability will encourage them to share openly in return. This conversation doesn\u2019t have to happen all at once\u2014it might take place over the span of several weeks. Either way, remember that the goal is for both of you to get comfortable talking about money and helping each other prioritize your financial health. <\/p>\n\n\n\n Once you and your partner are comfortable talking about money in general, it\u2019s time to dig down into specifics. Sit down with your partner and openly discuss your salaries, savings, spending habits, debt, and financial goals<\/a>. Here\u2019s an example of how you could approach this conversation.<\/p>\n\n\n\n First, start by talking about your short- and long-term financial goals.<\/strong> This could be anything from taking a vacation next year to going back to school or supporting your aging parents. You should also get clear on the kind of lifestyle you\u2019re hoping to live\u2014will you spend thousands every year at bars and restaurants, buckle down to save as much as possible and reach FIRE at 35, or something in between?<\/p>\n\n\n\n Once you\u2019ve both had a chance to share your goals, discuss your spending habits.<\/strong> Again, you can put your partner at ease by going first. Show them your plan for spending, including any areas where you feel you could improve, and ask for their feedback. Talking about your plan will naturally open the door to discussing your debt, savings, and investments (since you\u2019re making automatic payments to all those accounts each month). At this point, you can also talk about how you\u2019ll handle joint expenses if one person makes more money than the other (for example, if you make more than your partner, you might split the rent payment 60\/40 instead of 50\/50 so that you\u2019re both putting the same percentage of your monthly income toward rent). <\/p>\n\n\n\n Finally, when you\u2019ve worked through all the details together, end the conversation on a positive note by setting up a few savings goals together<\/strong>, like a tropical honeymoon or a bigger apartment. As you continue having conversations about money, you can get more specific about these goals. <\/p>\n\n\n\n Studies show that the average American wedding costs somewhere around $35,000\u2014and that the average American thinks their <\/em>wedding won\u2019t cost nearly that much. But when it comes time for the big day, most people end up paying far more than they planned on all the details that go into a wedding. Those costs can add up quickly, and they can even put you into debt if you don\u2019t plan ahead. <\/p>\n\n\n\n Instead of assuming that you will somehow beat the average and have a truly simple, low-budget wedding, take those statistics to heart and start saving for your wedding now<\/em>\u2014even if you\u2019re planning a micro wedding<\/strong>. You may feel silly doing it, but you\u2019ll be far better off than if you just assume you\u2019ll somehow have an extra $35,000 on hand when the time comes. Plus, if you don\u2019t <\/em>end up spending that money on a wedding, you can always put it towards a different savings goal.<\/p>\n\n\n\n To figure out how much you should be saving for your future wedding, start by estimating when you want to get married (for reference, the average age at marriage is 27 for women and 29 for men). Then, use that estimate to figure out how long you have to save, and divide the total wedding cost by that number. <\/p>\n\n\n\n Of course, one of the goals of micro weddings is not <\/em>to spend that much money. But Sethi\u2019s advice still holds true. It\u2019s much easier to slowly put money aside for a wedding than trying to conjure it all up at once or ending up in debt\u2014even if you only plan on spending $5,000.<\/p>\n\n\n\n \nTITLE: I Will Teach You to Be Rich If a micro wedding is what you and your partner think is best, it\u2019s important not to forget about planning the basics. Most agree that the essential elements of a wedding, regardless of size, include music and refreshments. After deciding on your wedding budget, you should consider what music, if any, you want to incorporate into your ceremony and if your micro wedding will offer food and drink to guests. Once you\u2019ve covered these basics, you can build up from there by adding personal touches to the ceremony, including decorations, wedding attire, and photography. <\/p>\n\n\n\n This is your chance to let your imagination run wild since micro weddings are meant to be meaningful and unique to your tastes.<\/strong> Below are some ideas for personalizing your micro wedding by taking advantage of a smaller guest list:<\/p>\n\n\n\n As mentioned previously, micro weddings allow more flexibility for incorporating wedding traditions that are most meaningful to the bride and groom and the guests. Your micro wedding could include all or none of these traditions. It\u2019s important to discuss with your partner which traditions you both want to include<\/strong>, depending on cultural and religious values. Don\u2019t forget to consider your families when making this decision. Try to think of what traditions your parents or close family would miss if they weren\u2019t included in your micro wedding. <\/p>\n\n\n\n Meghan Shaughnessy from Lace and Belle<\/a> suggests that you should focus on the details<\/a> that are the most important to you. This may be the flower arrangements, a special theme, a choreographed dance, etc. Meghan believes the most meaningful micro weddings stay true to you and your partner\u2019s vision for the day by including a focus on one or two special touches.<\/p>\n\n\n\n Many couples say having a micro wedding is what allowed them to truly enjoy the meaning of their important day. Micro weddings spotlight your love for each other by including personalized details and allowing you to declare your lifelong commitment in front of the people who matter most. Remember these important questions when deciding if a micro wedding is right for you<\/strong>: \u201cIs a smaller guest list a viable option?\u201d, \u201cWould saving money on a micro wedding help you with future financial decisions?\u201d, and \u201cWould anyone regret not having a big, traditional wedding?\u201d<\/p>\n\n\n\n We hope this micro wedding overview has helped you understand what a micro wedding is and if it would be the right fit for your big day.<\/p>\n","protected":false},"excerpt":{"rendered":" What is a micro wedding and how do you plan one? Will you regret foregoing a traditional wedding? Why are micro weddings a better option for some people? A micro wedding is defined as a non-traditional marriage ceremony with a smaller, more intimate venue and typically fewer than 50 guests. Although every couple\u2019s micro wedding will be unique to their tastes, in general, micro weddings cost less, save time, and are less stressful to plan. 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Micro Wedding Venues<\/strong><\/h2>\n\n\n\n
Cost-Saving Venues<\/strong><\/h3>\n\n\n\n
Indulgent Venues<\/strong><\/h3>\n\n\n\n
Planning a Micro Wedding<\/strong><\/h2>\n\n\n\n
The Natural Planning Method for Micro Weddings<\/strong><\/h3>\n\n\n\n
Your purpose in having a micro wedding is to celebrate the union between you and your partner, and the principles or boundaries might include the wedding\u2019s affordability and convenience.<\/p>\n\n\n\n
For a micro wedding, you might envision your closest family and friends gathering to hear your vows and share in music and refreshments in an intimate setting.<\/p>\n\n\n\n
In the context of a micro wedding, this includes questions like \u201cIs the venue we want available?\u201d \u201cWhat date should we choose?\u201d and \u201cWho will we invite?\u201d <\/p>\n\n\n\n
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In your wedding planning, the components involve inviting guests, making sure the location will work, and handling logistics. The priorities might be to determine your budget so you know what your viable options will be. The sequences are deciding that first you need to call the wedding venue to see if it\u2019s available, then invite the guests, then decide on other options like music, refreshments, and personal touches.<\/p>\n\n\n\n
For a micro wedding, you\u2019ll have decided that the first action you need to take will be assessing your budget to see what venues you can comfortably afford.<\/p>\n\n\n\n
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Choosing Traditions to Keep or Abandon <\/strong><\/h3>\n\n\n\n
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