{"id":67988,"date":"2022-06-08T06:52:58","date_gmt":"2022-06-08T10:52:58","guid":{"rendered":"https:\/\/www.shortform.com\/blog\/?p=67988"},"modified":"2022-06-14T22:19:59","modified_gmt":"2022-06-15T02:19:59","slug":"how-to-avoid-toxic-people","status":"publish","type":"post","link":"https:\/\/www.shortform.com\/blog\/how-to-avoid-toxic-people\/","title":{"rendered":"How to Avoid Toxic People: Happiness 101"},"content":{"rendered":"\n

Do you have a friend who always complains, judges, and sees things in a negative light? What’s the best way to deal with toxic people<\/a>? <\/p>\n\n\n\n

Unconsciously, we adopt the beliefs and habits of people we spend time spend with. Being around toxic people\u2014people who see the world through a negative lens\u2014will make you more like them, no matter your resolve to stay positive. <\/p>\n\n\n\n

Here’s how to avoid toxic people, according to mind coach Vex King. <\/p>\n\n\n\n\n\n\n\n

Avoid Toxic People<\/strong><\/h2>\n\n\n\n

One of the fastest ways to lower your vibration is by being around negative people. <\/strong>King explains that vibes are contagious\u2014if the people you\u2019re with are thinking negatively and behaving in a toxic manner, their negativity will rub off on you. <\/p>\n\n\n\n

For example, if the person you\u2019re with is constantly complaining, criticizing, gossiping, moping, and so on, you\u2019ll probably end up in a bad mood, even if you are a positive person. These people can be anyone from friends and coworkers to family and partners. So if you continue to be around these people, you\u2019ll be unable to maintain good vibes<\/strong>.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

(Shortform note: In Primal Leadership<\/em><\/a>, the authors second King\u2019s argument that emotions are highly contagious and explain that this is because of our brain function. The emotional center of our brain, called the limbic system<\/a>, is an open-loop system, meaning that internal factors are shaped by external stimuli. This means that our own emotions are highly impacted by the emotions of other people. So if we\u2019re around positive people<\/a>, we\u2019re likely to end up in a good mood, whereas if we\u2019re around negative people, our good moods can be tarnished quickly.)<\/p>\n\n\n\n

In his book Good Vibes, Good Life<\/em>, mind coach Vex King explains how to avoid toxic people. He says that if you\u2019re honest with the other person and explain the toxic behaviors and their effect on you, they may be understanding and willing to change. Ultimately, you should aim to form relationships with positive people who are open to this kind of feedback and who\u2019ll help you see the best side of things and raise your own vibrations.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

How to Confront a Toxic Person<\/strong><\/h3>\n\n\n\n

Experts second King\u2019s assertion, explaining that the best way to save your relationship with a toxic person is to make them aware of their toxic behavior. They make a number of suggestions on how<\/em> and how not<\/em> to address the situation<\/a>:<\/p>\n\n\n\n