{"id":67986,"date":"2022-06-04T07:31:45","date_gmt":"2022-06-04T11:31:45","guid":{"rendered":"https:\/\/www.shortform.com\/blog\/?p=67986"},"modified":"2022-06-16T14:25:20","modified_gmt":"2022-06-16T18:25:20","slug":"energetic-vampires","status":"publish","type":"post","link":"https:\/\/www.shortform.com\/blog\/energetic-vampires\/","title":{"rendered":"How to Deal With Energetic Vampires"},"content":{"rendered":"\n<p>How do you deal with emotional vampires? How does feeding emotional dependency compromise your own happiness? <\/p>\n\n\n\n<p>It can be hard to cut off emotionally dependent people but may be necessary to keep your sanity. Emotionally dependent people are like energetic vampires\u2014they suck out your energy by burdening you with negativity. <\/p>\n\n\n\n<p>Here&#8217;s how to deal with emotional <a href=\"https:\/\/www.shortform.com\/blog\/how-to-deal-with-energy-vampires\/\">energy vampires<\/a>.<\/p>\n\n\n\n<!--more-->\n\n\n\n<h2 class=\"wp-block-heading\" id=\"h-don-t-give-yourself-to-energy-vampires\"><strong>Don\u2019t Give Yourself to Energy Vampires<\/strong><\/h2>\n\n\n\n<p><strong>King explains that your energy and good vibes can be drained by people who rely on you as a support system. <\/strong>Even your closest friends can be energetic vampires. When we have a person in our life who\u2019s struggling\u2014whether it be with a breakup, financial issues, or depression\u2014we often feel obliged to support them emotionally. However, this can be extremely draining when we\u2019re pouring our energy and good vibes into them.<\/p>\n\n\n\n<p>If you feel you\u2019re in a good place where you\u2019re strong enough to support them without being negatively affected, then go for it; however, if you leave the interaction feeling drained or depressed, you have an obligation to yourself to take a break and regain your energy. <\/p>\n\n\n\n<h3 class=\"wp-block-heading\" id=\"h-how-to-stop-emotional-dependency\"><strong>How to Stop Emotional Dependency<\/strong><\/h3>\n\n\n\n<p>Experts explain that the phenomenon discussed by King\u2014one person being dependent on another person for emotional support\u2014is called emotional dependency. While King explains that being in a relationship with an emotionally dependent person can be detrimental to our health, <a href=\"https:\/\/www.healthline.com\/health\/emotional-dependency#overcoming-it\">experts add that <em>being<\/em> the emotionally dependent person can be even more detrimental<\/a>. So, what do you do if <em>you\u2019re<\/em> the one who\u2019s emotionally dependent on someone else?<\/p>\n\n\n\n<p>Experts explain that emotionally dependent people often don\u2019t realize they\u2019re emotionally dependent, and that can be an invisible barrier that\u2019s preventing you from reaching a state of positivity, or good vibes. 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