{"id":67985,"date":"2022-06-13T07:13:11","date_gmt":"2022-06-13T11:13:11","guid":{"rendered":"https:\/\/www.shortform.com\/blog\/?p=67985"},"modified":"2022-06-14T22:18:44","modified_gmt":"2022-06-15T02:18:44","slug":"stuck-in-the-past","status":"publish","type":"post","link":"https:\/\/www.shortform.com\/blog\/stuck-in-the-past\/","title":{"rendered":"Stuck in the Past? Here\u2019s How It Drains Your Happiness"},"content":{"rendered":"\n<p>Are you <a href=\"https:\/\/www.shortform.com\/blog\/stuck-in-the-past-2\/\">stuck in the past<\/a>? Do you often find yourself time-traveling to your past, ruminating about all the negative things that have happened? <\/p>\n\n\n\n<p>Many people are stuck in the past, dwelling on the misfortunes that have happened and wishing things could have turned out differently. The longer you stay in the rabbit hole of your past, the harder it becomes to get out. <\/p>\n\n\n\n<p>Here&#8217;s how <a href=\"https:\/\/www.shortform.com\/blog\/how-to-stop-living-in-the-past\/\">living in the past<\/a> eats away at your happiness. <\/p>\n\n\n\n<!--more-->\n\n\n\n<h2 class=\"wp-block-heading\" id=\"h-are-you-living-in-the-past\">Are You Living in the Past?<\/h2>\n\n\n\n<p>When you think about hardships you\u2019ve experienced in the past or bad things that could happen in the future, you\u2019re focused on negative things and therefore emit negative energy. This goes back to the Law of Attraction\u2014when you\u2019re visualizing the bad things that have happened or could happen, you are essentially manifesting them back into your life.<\/p>\n\n\n\n<p>Further, when you do this, you\u2019re either stuck in the past or the future rather than the present moment. As we discussed, King explains that <a href=\"https:\/\/www.shortform.com\/blog\/living-in-the-present-moment\/\">living in the present moment<\/a> is one of the keys to achieving a state of perpetual positivity.<\/p>\n\n\n\n<h3 class=\"wp-block-heading\" id=\"h-object-consciousness-prevents-humans-from-living-in-the-present\"><strong>Object Consciousness Prevents Humans From Living in the Present<\/strong><\/h3>\n\n\n\n<p>In <a href=\"https:\/\/shortform.com\/app\/book\/a-new-earth\"><em>A New Earth<\/em><\/a><em>, <\/em>Eckhart Tolle agrees with King that humans emit negative energy because rather than living in the present, we\u2019re constantly focused on the past or future. He adds that <a href=\"https:\/\/shortform.com\/app\/book\/a-new-earth\/1-page-summary#the-current-state-of-humanity\">humans are unable to live in the present moment because the ego traps us in a state called \u201cobject consciousness\u201d<\/a> where we\u2019re only able to experience the present moment in one of three ways:<\/p>\n\n\n\n<ol class=\"wp-block-list\"><li><strong>As a bridge to a future moment:<\/strong> This is when the only value of the present moment is to reach something better in the future. This makes us feel bored and discontent.<\/li><li><strong>As a barrier or obligation: <\/strong>This is when<strong> <\/strong>we actively dislike what we\u2019re doing but feel we <em>have<\/em> to do it to get what we want in the future. This makes us feel impatient, frustrated, and stressed.<\/li><li><strong>As an antagonist: <\/strong>This is when we see the present moment as an enemy and is characterized by the thought that \u201cNothing good ever happens to me\u201d or \u201cI\u2019m perpetually unlucky.\u201d This makes us constantly feel angry, resentful, and grouchy.<\/li><\/ol>\n\n\n\n<p>And, like King, Tolle suggests that we overcome object consciousness by <a href=\"https:\/\/shortform.com\/app\/book\/a-new-earth\/1-page-summary#the-consciousness-evolution\">living in a state of non-attachment, nonjudgment, and nonresistance<\/a>\u2014when we simply accept that everything happens for a reason and that nothing is good or bad or permanent. When we do this, we will be able to <a href=\"https:\/\/www.shortform.com\/blog\/how-to-live-in-the-present-moment\/\">live in the present<\/a> moment without feeling negative emotions and emitting bad vibes.<\/p>\n","protected":false},"excerpt":{"rendered":"<p>Are you stuck in the past? Do you often find yourself time-traveling to your past, ruminating about all the negative things that have happened? Many people are stuck in the past, dwelling on the misfortunes that have happened and wishing things could have turned out differently. The longer you stay in the rabbit hole of your past, the harder it becomes to get out. 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