{"id":67566,"date":"2022-06-09T07:00:19","date_gmt":"2022-06-09T11:00:19","guid":{"rendered":"https:\/\/www.shortform.com\/blog\/?p=67566"},"modified":"2022-06-14T22:08:10","modified_gmt":"2022-06-15T02:08:10","slug":"how-to-take-a-compliment","status":"publish","type":"post","link":"https:\/\/www.shortform.com\/blog\/how-to-take-a-compliment\/","title":{"rendered":"How to Take a Compliment: Let People Appreciate You"},"content":{"rendered":"\n<p>How do you respond when people compliment you? Do you often shy away from accepting praise?<\/p>\n\n\n\n<p>Many people don&#8217;t know how to take a compliment because they feel like they don&#8217;t deserve it. If you feel uncomfortable when people compliment or praise you, you likely have a <a href=\"https:\/\/www.shortform.com\/blog\/self-limiting-beliefs\/\">self-limiting belief<\/a> that the compliment contradicts. <\/p>\n\n\n\n<p>Here&#8217;s why you may feel uncomfortable when being praised or complimented.<\/p>\n\n\n\n<!--more-->\n\n\n\n<h2 class=\"wp-block-heading\" id=\"h-do-you-tend-to-downplay-compliments\">Do You Tend to Downplay Compliments? <\/h2>\n\n\n\n<p>If you tend to deflect or downplay compliments, that\u2019s a sure sign that you have some limiting belief about yourself that could be <a href=\"https:\/\/www.shortform.com\/blog\/whats-holding-you-back\/\">holding you back<\/a>. Notice what your reactions are when people compliment you, as that can reveal what the specific limiting belief is.&nbsp;<\/p>\n\n\n\n<p>In his book <em>The Big Leap<\/em>, Gay Hendricks explains how to take a compliment. His advice is simple: Simply pause any time someone compliments or praises you, take a moment to feel the positivity they\u2019re giving you, and say \u201cthank you.\u201d You can use this positive energy to combat the negative beliefs about yourself. Hendricks reminds us that<strong> internalizing positive beliefs about ourselves is key to allowing ourselves to feel happiness, and thus helps combat the happiness threshold problem.<\/strong><\/p>\n\n\n\n<h3 class=\"wp-block-heading\" id=\"h-let-people-appreciate-you\"><strong>Let People Appreciate You<\/strong><\/h3>\n\n\n\n<p>Research has shown that <a href=\"https:\/\/hbr.org\/2021\/04\/do-compliments-make-you-cringe-heres-why\">around 70% of people feel uncomfortable when they receive compliments<\/a>. One reason is that we naturally feel discomfort with opposing beliefs, and when we have negative self-beliefs, a compliment will contradict that. Another reason may be that we feel praise sets the bar higher for us in the future. 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