{"id":67483,"date":"2022-05-25T11:54:32","date_gmt":"2022-05-25T15:54:32","guid":{"rendered":"https:\/\/www.shortform.com\/blog\/?p=67483"},"modified":"2022-06-06T09:24:49","modified_gmt":"2022-06-06T13:24:49","slug":"can-you-date-multiple-people","status":"publish","type":"post","link":"https:\/\/www.shortform.com\/blog\/can-you-date-multiple-people\/","title":{"rendered":"Can You Date Multiple People?\u2014You Can & You Should"},"content":{"rendered":"\n

Can you date multiple people at the same time? What are the benefits of non-exclusive relationships?<\/p>\n\n\n\n

In his book The Rational Male<\/em>, Rollo Tomassi says that men should expand their horizons when it comes to relationships and date multiple people at the same time. Doing so will highlight men\u2019s sexual desirability\u2014in their own eyes and in the eyes of the women they date.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

Here’s how to successfully date multiple people, according to Tomassi. <\/p>\n\n\n\n\n\n\n\n

Why Men Should Date Multiple People<\/h2>\n\n\n\n

The best thing a guy can do to build their intrigue in the eyes of women is to have multiple sexual options<\/strong>. Tomassi advises men to unapologetically build up a roster of eligible sexual partners because a man with options is a man with power, which inevitably leads to confidence. A man without options will feel and act needy\u2014the opposite of what attracts women. But can<\/em> you date multiple people?<\/p>\n\n\n\n

Tomassi says you can if you communicate your intentions. He advises men to be forthcoming with their dating partners about being nonexclusive, or at least give the impression<\/em> that they have many women clamoring for their attention. The same advice holds true for men in committed relationships: Tomassi says they must routinely hint to their female partners that other women find them attractive. Why is this so important? When a woman knows that other women desire her man, she sees him as more valuable and alluring.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

(Shortform note: Men pursuing many sexual options, as Tomassi suggests, may unexpectedly aid women: Doing so may free women to do the same. According to research, it\u2019s women, not men, who primarily desire open relationships. Whereas women get bored having sex with the same person after a span of one to four years<\/a>, men in committed relationships are happy having sex with their partners for nine to 12 years without getting bored.)<\/p>\n\n\n\n

How to Successfully Date Multiple People<\/strong><\/h3>\n\n\n\n

Tomassi offers some general guidance on how to date many women at once to build your confidence and desirability. But the idea of dating multiple people can apply to both men and women. If anyone’s really looking to pull this off, you\u2019ll need to be very clear in your communication, as Tomassi suggests. Many people are totally fine with nonexclusive relationships<\/a>, but you could send them running if you deliver the wrong message. <\/p>\n\n\n\n

Here are some tips for communicating your non-exclusive status:<\/p>\n\n\n\n