{"id":67392,"date":"2022-05-27T12:34:10","date_gmt":"2022-05-27T16:34:10","guid":{"rendered":"https:\/\/www.shortform.com\/blog\/?p=67392"},"modified":"2022-06-08T10:28:12","modified_gmt":"2022-06-08T14:28:12","slug":"relationship-with-parents","status":"publish","type":"post","link":"https:\/\/www.shortform.com\/blog\/relationship-with-parents\/","title":{"rendered":"How to Mend Broken Relationships With Parents"},"content":{"rendered":"\n<p>Do you have a strained relationship with your parents? How can you move past familial grievances? <\/p>\n\n\n\n<p>For adults who grew up in <a href=\"https:\/\/www.shortform.com\/blog\/dysfunctional-family-patterns\/\">dysfunctional families<\/a>, it can be hard to reconcile their relationships with their parents. However, mending broken relationships with parents is a necessary prerequisite for overcoming grudges and moving past trauma. <\/p>\n\n\n\n<p>Here&#8217;s how to <a href=\"https:\/\/www.shortform.com\/blog\/how-to-fix-relationship-with-parents\/\">fix your relationship with your parents<\/a>, according to Mark Wolynn. <\/p>\n\n\n\n<!--more-->\n\n\n\n<h2 class=\"wp-block-heading\" id=\"h-fixing-relationships-with-parents\"><strong>Fixing Relationships With Parents<\/strong><\/h2>\n\n\n\n<p>Wolynn recommends that you use insights about past grievances to know how to fix tense relationships with parents. <strong>You can do this even if your family members are deceased or if you don&#8217;t know where they are<\/strong>. Here are some options to do this:<\/p>\n\n\n\n<ul class=\"wp-block-list\"><li>Have a conversation\u2014either in your head or out loud\u2014with your family member addressing their particular trauma: \u201cI know you went through great pain when your husband died suddenly of a heart attack. I have been holding that pain, which has caused me to be needy and clingy in my relationship with my husband. I am surrendering this pain back to you now. Whenever I feel insecure in my relationship, I will breathe in your love and support.\u201d<\/li><li>Express gratitude toward a parent at a level that feels authentic to you, either privately or in conversation with them\u2014whatever you can muster. For example, you could say, \u201cI am grateful to you for giving me life,\u201d or \u201cI have rejected you and blamed you for a long time. Now I am choosing to be at peace.\u201d<\/li><li>Imagine your parent saying something loving to you: \u201cI did things to hurt you and I am sorry. Please accept the love I have for you.\u201d<\/li><\/ul>\n\n\n\n<p>Wolynn clarifies that healing these relationships doesn\u2019t mean excusing a parent\u2019s behavior or even necessarily resuming any kind of ongoing connection with a parent. Rather, he says, healing requires dropping the anger-filled, accusatory stories we have about our parents. Releasing those stories isn\u2019t about giving up or giving in for the benefit of our parents. It\u2019s about freeing ourselves so we can move forward.<\/p>\n\n\n\n<h3 class=\"wp-block-heading\" id=\"h-conflicting-views-on-reconciling-with-parents\"><strong>Conflicting Views on Reconciling With Parents<\/strong><\/h3>\n\n\n\n<p>Whereas Wolynn is emphatic that we must repair broken relationships with our parents to achieve true healing and to live fully empowered lives, others disagree.&nbsp;<\/p>\n\n\n\n<p>Some say that children of parents who inflicted trauma and abuse <a href=\"https:\/\/medium.com\/change-becomes-you\/the-broken-parent-child-relationship-isnt-yours-to-fix-here-s-why-a32ea97d4408\">should not initiate efforts to repair those relationships<\/a>\u2014that any healing needs to start with those who caused the suffering. Their view is that children who take it upon themselves to repair these broken relationships put themselves in the position of <em>being the parent<\/em>, which is likely the unhealthy dynamic they were forced into when they were growing up. Consequently, reengaging with the parent now can expose them to further trauma and abuse.<\/p>\n\n\n\n<p>Still, others assert that <a href=\"https:\/\/www.npr.org\/2013\/03\/11\/174016256\/forgiveness-isnt-all-its-cracked-up-to-be\">forgiving abusive parents can do more harm than good<\/a>, and cutting ties is the better option. From this viewpoint, forgiveness is a two-way street. It requires a heartfelt acknowledgment by the abusive parent that they have done something horrible. Mending the <a href=\"https:\/\/www.shortform.com\/blog\/broken-relationship\/\">broken relationship<\/a> won&#8217;t be worth it if a parent isn&#8217;t willing to acknowledge their harmful behavior. <\/p>\n","protected":false},"excerpt":{"rendered":"<p>Do you have a strained relationship with your parents? How can you move past familial grievances? For adults who grew up in dysfunctional families, it can be hard to reconcile their relationships with their parents. 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