{"id":64251,"date":"2022-04-07T12:20:00","date_gmt":"2022-04-07T16:20:00","guid":{"rendered":"https:\/\/www.shortform.com\/blog\/?p=64251"},"modified":"2022-04-13T12:41:10","modified_gmt":"2022-04-13T16:41:10","slug":"accountability-in-relationships","status":"publish","type":"post","link":"https:\/\/www.shortform.com\/blog\/accountability-in-relationships\/","title":{"rendered":"Accountability in Relationships: Should You Discuss It?"},"content":{"rendered":"\n<p>When should you discuss accountability in relationships? What three questions should you ask yourself before discussing sensitive <a href=\"https:\/\/www.shortform.com\/blog\/accountability-issues\/\">accountability issues<\/a>?<\/p>\n\n\n\n<p>Accountability in relationships can be a tough issue to tackle. Stakes are high when the relationship could end up permanently damaged. According to the book <em>Crucial Accountability, <\/em>there are a few <a href=\"https:\/\/www.shortform.com\/blog\/questions-you-should-ask-yourself\/\">questions you should ask yourself<\/a> before discussing accountability in relationships. <\/p>\n\n\n\n<p>Keep reading to learn three key points to consider before discussing accountability in relationships. <\/p>\n\n\n\n<!--more-->\n\n\n\n<h2 class=\"wp-block-heading\" id=\"h-how-many-times-has-the-issue-occurred\"><strong>How Many Times Has the Issue Occurred?<\/strong><\/h2>\n\n\n\n<p><strong>When determining the key issue to center your discussion around, the frequency of the behavior in question can indicate what you should focus on.&nbsp;<\/strong>Consider this before discussing accountability in relationships. <\/p>\n\n\n\n<ul class=\"wp-block-list\"><li>If the issue has only occurred <strong>once<\/strong>, the key issue is probably the <em>specifics<\/em> of the behavior (the authors call this a \u201ccontent\u201d issue).<\/li><li>If the issue has occurred <strong>more than once<\/strong>, your key issue could be that the behavior is becoming a <em>pattern<\/em>.<\/li><li><strong>If the behavior persists even after it\u2019s been addressed<\/strong>, the key issue could be the impact that the behavior has on your <em>relationship<\/em> with the other person.<\/li><\/ul>\n\n\n\n<figure class=\"wp-block-table\"><table><tbody><tr><td><strong>Do the Authors Make Artificial Distinctions Between Types of Issues?<\/strong><br><br>While the authors make a distinction between specifics (\u201ccontent\u201d) issues, pattern issues, and relationship issues, the three are often interconnected and tend to ultimately boil down to a relationship <a href=\"https:\/\/www.shortform.com\/blog\/core-problem\/\">issue at the core<\/a>. For example, even if you identify the issue as a pattern problem, your discussion is still going to focus on how the pattern is affecting your <em>relationship. <\/em>Furthermore, specifics issues are also frequently indicative of a relationship issue\u2014while you might not like the <em>specifics<\/em> of the behavior, the reason you don\u2019t like it is likely because of what it indicates about your <em>relationship<\/em>.&nbsp;<br><br>Experts explain that when you get upset with another person over little things, like when they always leave the cap off the toothpaste (pattern issue) or put an empty container back in the fridge (specifics issue), the <a href=\"https:\/\/www.shortform.com\/blog\/small-problems\/\">small issue<\/a> itself might not be what\u2019s making you upset. Instead, <a href=\"https:\/\/www.businessinsider.com\/heres-what-you-can-learn-about-your-relationship-based-on-what-you-argue-about-with-your-partner-2018-2#a-heated-argument-over-something-little-1\">you\u2019re probably upset about a problem within the relationship that these smaller issues indicate<\/a>, like partner negligence or their lack of respect for your wishes.<\/td><\/tr><\/tbody><\/table><\/figure>\n\n\n\n<h2 class=\"wp-block-heading\" id=\"h-what-s-really-bothering-me\"><strong>What\u2019s Really Bothering Me?<\/strong><\/h2>\n\n\n\n<p>The authors contend that the <strong><em>key issue<\/em> is often one of two things: either the <em>consequences<\/em> of the other person\u2019s behavior or your perception of their <em>intent<\/em>.<\/strong> It is important to figure out which of these applies before discussing accountability in relationships. <\/p>\n\n\n\n<p>To figure out which it might be, consider that what\u2019s really bothering you is not the person\u2019s actions themselves, but the <em>consequences<\/em> those actions have on you and others involved.<\/p>\n\n\n\n<ul class=\"wp-block-list\"><li>For example, imagine you carpool to work with a friend that consistently runs late, making you late as well. Consequently, you struggle to complete your tasks by the end of the day, hold up the team meeting in the morning, and have lost a promotion due to your tardiness. Your accountability grievance might not be that she\u2019s typically late in her personal life, but rather the <em>consequences <\/em>that you face under these circumstances.<\/li><\/ul>\n\n\n\n<p>Alternatively, it may be the other person\u2019s <em>intent<\/em> that\u2019s bothering you, or at least what you<em> think<\/em> is their intent.<\/p>\n\n\n\n<ul class=\"wp-block-list\"><li>Maybe your issue with your tardy best friend is that you think that she\u2019s abusing your friendship and using you for rides without considering how her tardiness might impact you.<\/li><\/ul>\n\n\n\n<p>Sorting out which aspect of the behavior is ultimately bothering you will help you figure out how to steer your accountability conversation.<\/p>\n\n\n\n<figure class=\"wp-block-table\"><table><tbody><tr><td><strong>Differentiating Between<\/strong> <strong>Consequences and Intent<\/strong><br><br>Experts explain that <a href=\"https:\/\/www.psychologytoday.com\/us\/blog\/contemporary-psychoanalysis-in-action\/201712\/why-do-the-people-i-love-hurt-my-feelings-so-often#:~:text=reaction%20to%20what%20someone%20has%20said,was%20a%20consequence%20of%20their%20lack%20of\">determining whether the key issue is about consequences or intent can be a confusing and high-stakes decision.<\/a> Sometimes you might focus on the other person\u2019s intent, when in reality, the other person intended well but didn\u2019t understand the consequences of their actions. For example, maybe they told a joke that they thought was funny but was actually offensive, without intending to offend. In this scenario, you may have misunderstood their intent because your own insecurities or sensitivities led you to <a href=\"https:\/\/www.shortform.com\/blog\/taking-offense\/\">take offense<\/a> to the situation.<br><br>As a result, the other person might be shocked and offended to discover that you assumed the worst of them. So, not only can it be hard to <em>truly<\/em> identify when the issue is with ill intent, but choosing to bring up this assumption puts the relationship at risk as well. Psychologists recommend asking the following questions to help better differentiate between consequences and intent so we can avoid jeopardizing the relationship with false accusations.<br><br>1. How else can I understand what happened and why?<br>2. Might the other person have meant well but been unaware of how this would make me feel?<br>3. Do they possibly have a different definition of right and wrong, acceptable and unacceptable?<br>4. Might I feel hurt due to my own insecurities and sensitivities, and not because the other person was trying to hurt or disregard me? <\/td><\/tr><\/tbody><\/table><\/figure>\n\n\n\n<h2 class=\"wp-block-heading\" id=\"h-what-s-my-ideal-outcome\"><strong>What\u2019s My Ideal Outcome?<\/strong><\/h2>\n\n\n\n<p>The authors write that you can further narrow down the key issue by considering your ultimate goal: What <em>do<\/em> you want to happen and what <em>don\u2019t<\/em> you want to happen? This is the final step to consider before addressing accountability in relationships. <\/p>\n\n\n\n<ul class=\"wp-block-list\"><li>For example, what <em>do <\/em>and <em>don\u2019t<\/em> you want to happen with your best friend? You <em>do <\/em>want to help her get to work. You <em>don\u2019t <\/em>want to be late. You <em>do <\/em>want to maintain a positive relationship with her, but you<em> don\u2019t <\/em>want to feel taken advantage of.<\/li><\/ul>\n\n\n\n<p>Use your dos and don&#8217;ts to determine <a href=\"https:\/\/www.shortform.com\/blog\/what-do-you-care-about\/\">what\u2019s most important to you<\/a> and if solving one issue might also resolve the others. In the above example, your dos and don\u2019ts point to the fact that you should probably first address the recurrence of the tardiness issue and discuss the consequences that you\u2019ve been facing as a result. If the issue persists after this discussion, then you can address the negative impacts that it\u2019s starting to have on your relationship.<\/p>\n\n\n\n<figure class=\"wp-block-table\"><table><tbody><tr><td><strong>Don\u2019t Let Revenge Be One of Your \u201cDos\u201d<\/strong><br><br>Experts explain that when considering our dos and don&#8217;ts, people often prioritize their desire for revenge over their desire to solve the issue. In fact, it\u2019s human nature to do so\u2014behavior specialists explain that <a href=\"https:\/\/www.nytimes.com\/2018\/07\/19\/smarter-living\/how-to-turn-toxic-emotions-into-positive-actions.html\">when we\u2019re harmed or threatened by others, our primal instinct is to exact revenge<\/a>, and this clouds our rational judgment on how to handle the issue.&nbsp;When we feel the red-hot desire for revenge swell within us, experts explain that we should acknowledge the feeling, and then simply let it go. As the authors explain, the only way to effectively handle an accountability issue is to address it\u2014exacting revenge will give you temporary gratification but will leave the problem unresolved and ultimately damage the relationship.<\/td><\/tr><\/tbody><\/table><\/figure>\n","protected":false},"excerpt":{"rendered":"<p>When should you discuss accountability in relationships? What three questions should you ask yourself before discussing sensitive accountability issues? Accountability in relationships can be a tough issue to tackle. Stakes are high when the relationship could end up permanently damaged. According to the book Crucial Accountability, there are a few questions you should ask yourself before discussing accountability in relationships. 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